(This 30-page article is an overview of my 230-page paper. Much of the material has been adapted from the paper.)
I’ve always liked girls, ever since I found they weren’t boys.
18 There be three things which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not:
19 The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid. (Proverbs 30:18-19)
I had a wonderful marriage, but the Lord took my wife almost five months ago. If I marry again I’ll, of necessity, get into recycling. But I’m as thrilled about the future as I was about the past.
I’m a joyful man, and the source of that joy is my relationship with the Lord. In that context, He has blessed me beyond measure. The further down the “road” I go, the brighter the light gets. Glory to God!
Fire is a wonderful thing when it’s under control. In Christian marriage, both feminine and masculine fires are contained.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
When two godly people are married, they have spiritual benefits not available to single people. Men and women have unique weaknesses. A husband can strengthen a wife in her weakness, and vice versa.
For her own protection, a woman should submit: First to God, and then to her husband. By submitting to her husband’s authority, a woman’s emotions will be kept in check. By submitting in bed, she will facilitate the oneness spoken of in Genesis 2:24.
To love one’s wife is an act of submission. For his own protection, a man must submit to God. God tells the man to love his wife. (A woman needs to be loved.) Obedience to that command will civilize and sanctify the man. “It’s not good for a man to be alone.”
When a wife honors her husband, she honors the Lord. When a husband honors his wife, he honors the Lord.
- They become one.
- They model the relationship between Christ and the Church.
- They have sanctified children.
For 35 years I’ve been Dr. Kool the AC contractor. We routinely work with pipes and wires. Comparing males and females, it’s not just the plumbing that’s different; it’s also the wiring. Let me illustrate:
My AC workers are really good men. At the conclusion of a job, my customer will comment as follows: A woman always tells me my men were nice, courteous, or polite. A man will tell me they did a good job. What does that tell you? Women are more emotional, while men are more objective. That’s why husband and wife should work as a team.
- A wife influences.
- A husband decides.
He’s in charge. She’s in the support role. But that’s not the way things are done in the Western World. Furthermore, it’s not how many Christian couples live. So what’s the problem?
Problem #1: Like Adam, some men are willing to let their wives lead. That leaves them free to take care of “important” matters like their job or sporting events. Other men try very hard to take the leadership role at home, but are overpowered by our feminized culture.
Problem #2: In every evangelical church there will be women who believe in “equality” marriage. The idea of male headship doesn’t seem right to them. My sister, my wife, et al have advanced numerous arguments to explain-away the obvious. (That was before Theresa repented.)
Problem #3: Men are afraid of women. Pastors are especially afraid of women. For five years, I was a member of a Baptist Church. From the pulpit, our pastor preached biblical marriage, but he wasn’t about to offend “equality” women, and they knew it. He was just preaching.
It was December of 2000 when I wrote my infamous Open Letter, and sent it to everyone in our sizable congregation. I wasn’t just preaching. Some women went bonkers. Pastor called, and gave me a personal invitation not to return.
To placate the women, the preacher was willing to endanger the eternal souls of their children. My next article is entitled, “Seeing Through A Glass Darkly,” by Debi Pearl. To read the entire 3 pages, click on the link.
I’ll quote Debi’s last two paragraphs.
When you are a young mother raising a family, it is so easy to care about your own feelings, your own hurts, your little fuss with your husband. Oh, but Mother, there is coming a day when your own feelings, hurts, and fusses will seem so immaterial, so silly. It is that atmosphere emanating from your relationship to your husband, your attitude and responses that help decide your baby’s future in eternity. It is not your child training techniques; it is who you are today. It is how you respond to life’s ups and downs and to life’s grief and joy. It is how you honor your husband, thus how you honor God.
We go through life so protective of our children’s bodies. Let us as mothers early look to the protection of their souls. The enemy is not death. The enemy is not outside, lurking to get in; the enemy is a mother’s heart dedicated to a mother’s feelings. It is our own selfishness, our own anger, our own bitterness, and our own disappointments. The enemy is Mother, doing what is right in her own eyes instead of obeying God. God, grant us the wisdom to get beyond instinct to the wisdom of true love. God, grant us hearts to see, to feel, and to live with eternity in our eyes. (emphasis added)
“The aged women likewise, that…they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children” (Titus 2:3-4).
The Great Commission is that we should go into the entire world and proclaim the Gospel—we continue to do that! But lets face it: A wholesome marriage and family is God’s primary means of populating the earth with a righteous seed. There’s no better example than the Lassiter family that I mention in this paper. Trying to convince unbelieving adults is a major challenge. But that’s where we focus our energy, while our marriages and children suffer.
We should start at home, before we go abroad. In today’s world, to get our marriages and families in line, we must be willing to offend some women.
So Who’s The Culprit?
In marriage, husband and wife are to complement one another. The woman’s subjectivity gives her an insight her husband needs. A man’s objectivity gives him a discernment his wife needs. She is his suitable helper, but he is her protector.
We men have NOT protected our wives. Throughout my writings, I contend that when it comes to role offences, modern women are at fault, but men are responsible. Whether they like it or not, God put men in charge.
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15b). That statement came from a man. Show me anywhere in Scripture where a godly woman declares herself to be the head of the house.
Eve was led into sin, but Adam didn’t protect her—he followed! The Age is ending the way it started, but on a massive scale. The women are being led into sin, and the men are following.
I say the culprit is the man who doesn’t protect his wife; it’s the pastor who fails to protect his flock. In my paper and in my book, I tell how I protected my wife, and presented her faultless to the Lord.
The Command Was To The Man
Before there was an Eve, God commanded Adam as follows:
16 And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
17 But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die. (Genesis 2:16-17)
The command was given to the one in charge—the man!
In Genesis Chapter 3:1-6, Eve led Adam into sin—he followed! In Genesis 3:9-11 God confronted Adam: “Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?”
God didn’t confront Eve; she wasn’t in charge. The Lord held the man responsible. So who is head of the marital house? Is there any doubt? Does anyone think we can violate God’s order without consequence?
Today, men are dancing to the feminine tune. We have the strength of men directed by the emotions of women.
Modern women have no problem with submission, as long as the man is the one who submits—C. Russell Yates
The feminization of society is a war against masculinity. Ultimately it’s Satan’s attempt to deny the Fatherhood of God. Pastors oversee the church, while ignoring the ever-present denial of male headship. They tolerate bossy women, and then accommodate feminine sensibilities at the expense of truth.
Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. (Proverbs 31:3)
As society has been increasingly feminized, truth has been increasingly compromised. It’s time that Christian men and especially pastors take a stand. Even the most powerful evangelical preachers are afraid to preach biblical marriage. Almost all churches have replaced biblical wedding vows with “egalitarian” ones.
For over 100 years, women have increasingly sought the masculine role, and the men have capitulated—it’s getting worse! The Lord often allows sin to drag on for what seems like an eternity. Then He pulls the rug from under Satan. At Calvary, Satan thought he had won. Then came the Resurrection.
As the end of the Age approaches, it’s time for our preachers to “get with it.” It’s time to get our marital house in order. It’s time to pull the rug from under the devil.
- The source of every human problem is the willingness to believe something that isn’t true.
- Eve believed something that wasn’t true.
- Modern women believe something that isn’t true.
- The answer is: “Every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.”
- Adam should have paid attention.
- Modern men should pay attention.
- The preachers should pay attention.
What Should Be Done
Many Christian couples just practice biblical marriage, and require no instruction in church. Some churches do better than others.
Church leaders should be men who are responsible heads-of-their-houses. Female staff members should be married, and in submission to their husbands. Any other arrangement is deadly. But, sometimes, there will be headstrong wives in the fellowship.
It’s not the pastor’s place to correct wayward women from the pulpit. Women should correct women, and men should correct men. Scripture forbids that women should teach men, but they are given a very important and specific assignment, which follows:
The aged women likewise, that they be … teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5)
There really hasn’t been that much formal instruction. The aged women have NOT been teaching the young women, and the word of God is being blasphemed—every time a Christian couple practices “equality” marriage.
“Egalitarianism” In The Church
Yesterday, I was in a large Baptist church. On the screen was the testimony of a couple that had been through their “re-engage” program. It was more Christian “equality” nonsense, with absolutely no mention of male/female marital roles. Their program was gender-neutral, rather than gender-specific.
Aside from instruction, the film To Joey With Love gives a perfect picture of the godly marriage.
TO JOEY WITH LOVE
To Joey With Love was NOT made after the fact using actors. The Lord led Rory to document their lives—the cameras followed them! My online marital documentary started while Theresa was in the moderate stage of Alzheimer’s. On September 27, 2014, I began writing. Like the Feek documentary, mine has been an unfolding story.
I had been reading the Bible to Theresa for almost three years. At the nursing home, on May 25, 2017, I finished. I closed the book, and took it home. Five days later, with a nurse holding her hand, Theresa quit breathing.
Her passing was timely. It has been seven months since Theresa’s passing, and I have continued to record events since her death. The Lord is always on time—never late! It is 01/06/18, and I don’t think our story is complete.
A Heavenly Marriage
If you want to see a heavenly marriage, watch To Joey With Love (90 minutes). Joey and Rory Feek were a husband-and-wife singing duo. Joey was a songwriter and a fabulous singer. Rory is a songwriter, a singer, an organizer, and a filmmaker. They lived the Great Commandment—love the Lord and love your neighbor!
- Rory was clearly in charge.
- He loved his wife as Christ loves the Church.
- Joey was a true “help meet”; she respected Rory.
- They were “one,” so there was never an argument.
- In the midst of adversity, they honored the Lord.
When they married, she was 26 and he was 36. Twelve years later, they had their first child, a girl they named Indiana. Indiana was afflicted with Down Syndrome, but they accepted her as from the Lord. They said, “This is the child the Lord gave us, and we’re going to love her.”
Shortly after the birth of Indiana, Joey was diagnosed with cervical cancer. In just over two years, March 4, 2016, Joey was called home. She was 40.5 years old. As the end approached, Rory said, “I wish it could have been me.” Joey replied, “If it had been you, there would be no one to tell our story.”
Rory was concerned about Joey, and Joey was concerned about those who needed to hear their story. What love! Could their story be what is needed to heal marriages? In this fallen world, there is always a price to be paid.
Joey had ambitions and aspirations. In love, Rory helped her achieve her goals. As a couple, they had plans that, together, they pursued. In Ephesians 5:31-31, we read that marriage models the relationship between Christ and the Church. (Christ loves, and true Christians submit.) Rory and Joey Feek perfectly modeled the heavenly relationship between Christ and His bride.
As I said, To Joey With Love was NOT made after the fact. It was an ongoing documentary. On Facebook, multitudes learned about their loss. Hundreds of cards and letters came in. So why was there a Down Syndrome child and an early death for Joey?
For His Glory
I first saw To Joey With Love in a theater. I failed to grasp the spiritual implications. Then I ordered the DVD. It was only after my second viewing that I saw a purpose for their pain. I have to believe their loss was for our gain; that we might look upon their godly marriage, that we might emulate their relationship, and that our marriages might be healed.
For many, their testimony will be more persuasive than anything I could write or say.
To Joey With Love, is for the entire family—husband, wife, and children! Please click on https://tojoeywithlove.com/. Watch the trailer. Then click on buying options. (I bought my copy on ebay.) The DVD can be purchased for as little as $10. You’ll want to share the film with family and friends.
In The Time That You Gave Me
If you ordered the DVD, you’ll get the new Joey + Rory song, In The Time That You Gave Me.
So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. (Psalms 90:12)
In three weeks, I’ll be 79. That means I’ll have 79 years behind me, and a limited number of years left. Like Joey and Rory, I want to honor the Lord, and bless others. In the meantime, like Joey and Rory, I’ll trust the Lord, and joyfully anticipate the day when I’ll be like Jesus—see 1 John 3:2!
In 1985, Rory married Tamara Gilmer—they had two daughters! They divorced in 1992. Rory became a single father, who raised Heidi and Hopi to become Godly young women.
Scripture says, “It is not good for the man to be alone,” but Rory was, again, alone. In 2002, the Lord gave him Joey Martin. Throughout this paper, I encourage men to do all they can to rescue an unbiblical marriage. But sometimes divorce is the best path, and remarriage can be to the glory of God. Rory’s second marriage was:
- A testimony to the grace of God.
- A preview of a future event, “Behold I make all things new.” (Revelation 21:5)
With that introduction, I’ll get into my message.
ABSOLUTES AND CHOICES
Those who call themselves Christians number 2.2B. As I will explain in this article, the Christian Faith has its Absolutes—then come Choices! Those who properly identify the Absolutes, and commit to those Absolutes are empowered to make godly Choices. Let me give some examples of what I see as Absolutes.
- Men are born bad, and need a Savior.
- No amount of good works will save anyone.
- The Jews are, and always will be, God’s chosen people.
- Jesus was a Jew; He was God Incarnate; He is that Savior.
- Those who believe on Jesus, and commit to His authority, will be saved.
- The Christian is to love God and love his neighbor.
The Goodness of Men
I start with a typical Campus Crusade witness: Joseph Smith approaches the gates of heaven.
“Why should I let you in?” asks St. Peter.
“I’ve been a good guy,” replies Joseph.
“Sorry, but that won’t get you in,” answers Peter.
We live in a fallen world, but people still think they’re pretty good.
Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts. (Proverbs 21:2)
The following is taken from my book, Two Loves.
Nowhere is the search for life after death more evident than in the Egyptian pyramids. They were built as tombs for the Pharaohs and their queens; their bodies were mummified. “The Ancient Egyptians believed that, when they died, they would be judged on their behavior during their lifetime—before they could be granted a place in the afterlife!” (The “Weighing of the Heart,” can be accessed using a Google search.)
Egyptian gods, like Osiris, were composites of humans and animals or birds. As one can see, using a Google search, their religion was complicated. Repeatedly, one sees a huge balance, on which one’s righteous deeds are weighed against his evil deeds. Their deities, like a jury, would pass judgment.
Today, most people want an afterlife that will be carefree. Human nature leads toward self-achievement. How does one make it to heaven? Every world religion—even the cults—preaches good works. If you’re good enough, you’ll go to heaven. Of course, no one actually knows whether he’s been good enough until later. There is one exception: In Islam, if one is killed in jihad, he is said to immediately go to heaven. Still, there has never been a confirmation.
Salvation by works is probably the most destructive heresy ever; it blatantly contradicts the Bible. Multitudes call themselves Christians, but are depending on good works for their Salvation.
The Result of Salvation
The following passage tells us that good works are the result of Salvation—not the basis for it! Please read it carefully.
8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.
10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them. (Ephesians 2:8-10, emphasis added)
Let me interpret: Salvation is freely offered. Those who have the faith to accept Salvation are born-again; they are empowered to do good works. That’s real Christianity.
The Error of God’s People
The Jews got hung up on keeping the law. When Jesus healed on the Sabbath, they came unglued. Most Christians see the Bible as a rulebook. Like unbelievers they want a static faith—Rules, Regulations, & Procedures!
The Absolutes Vs. Choices
The Christian faith is first and foremost a relationship. In Scripture, we find the Ten Commandments, and lots of rules and ordinances. These are principles upon which we build our lives. Some of the rules and regulations are Absolute, e.g. “You must be born again,” and “I am the way the truth and the life; no man cometh to the Father but by me.” For these Absolutes, there is no room for negotiation.
In contrast to the Absolutes, the Lord gives us Choices that are a matter of conscience. The following passages aren’t Absolutes. Instead, they are just good general rules:
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; (1 Peter 3:1)
Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake: whether it be to the king, as supreme; Or unto governors…. (1 Peter 2:13-14a)
A properly trained child may go astray. And a submissive wife will not always win her lost husband to the Lord. Christians, in Islamic lands, must resist or circumvent the authorities.
We weren’t created to be robots—to follow Rules, Regulations, and Procedures! That is NOT Christianity!
We were created in the image of God, and given intelligence that God expects us to use. Let me offer some more Absolutes.
- God is God, and you aren’t God; He has rightful authority over every man.
- The husband is God’s appointed head-of-the-house; he has authority over his wife and children.
- The woman was created to be a suitable helper for the right man.
In that context, every man and every wife has much freedom. As the Holy Spirit guides, we can prayerfully apply Scripture. We make Choices, and do so to the glory of God. Those who properly identify, and then accept the Absolutes will find that their Choices—even those that seem like mistakes—will work together for good. Romans 8:28 has not been repealed.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)
My father was 46 when the Lord called him home. He left a wife and seven children. It’s been 64 years now. How could that possibly work together for good? I’ll explain later when I give my testimony.
Not An Absolute
In Malachi 2:14-16, we read that God hates divorce. Yet divorce is sometimes necessary—see Ezra Chapter 10! “Thou shalt not divorce,” is not an Absolute. Still, multitudes of Christians don’t understand the difference between the Absolutes and the Choices. Often their Choices are in opposition to the Absolutes.
Our God-given freedom-of-Choice reflects the dynamics of our Christian faith. To choose as unto the Lord, is to be guided by Scripture, prayer, and the Holy Spirit. Those who properly identify the Absolutes, and then commit to them, are empowered to make good decisions. We live in a fallen world, so none of us does everything just right, but the Lord looks on the heart.
The Great Commandment
Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself. (Luke 10:27b)
The Great Commandment requires an Absolute commitment. Working out the details requires Choices as we are prayerfully led by the Holy Spirit to apply Scripture. As I will explain later, I’m a man who loves the Lord with all my heart … and my neighbor as myself.
Working out the details of fulfilling the Great Commandment will not be easy, but you can always be joyful. I will now examine the calling of a woman who accepted the Great Commandment, and was totally committed to the Lord—Mary, the mother of Jesus!
The Jews were expecting their Messiah to be a mighty man, who would overthrow Rome. What they got was a humble servant, who would die on a cross. No one could have predicted the circumstances of His birth, the power of His ministry, His death, and then His Resurrection. Most Jews—to this day—fail to recognize their Messiah.
In Luke 1:26-35, the angel Gabriel appeared unto a virgin named Mary; she was espoused to a man named Joseph. She was told that she would become the mother of the promised Messiah. Mary asked, “How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?” (Luke 1:34b). The angel said that God, himself, would cause her to become pregnant.
And Mary said, Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word. And the angel departed from her. (Luke 1:38)
This was a wonderful honor, but for Mary it was the beginning of trouble. According to Jewish custom, Mary and Joseph were legally married even though they had not yet been physically united.
The Bible doesn’t tell us everything, so sometimes we have to read between the lines. Surely Mary told Joseph of the angelic visit, and the honor that had been bestowed on her. But Joseph didn’t believe her. “What a cock and bull story!” he must have thought.
19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily.
20 But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.
24 Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:
25 And knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name Jesus. (Matthew 1:19-20, 24-25)
This was inside information, known only to a handful of people. In the providence of God, this obscure couple would pay a price. In John 8:35-45, the Jews sought to kill Jesus. According to John 7:5, even Jesus physical brothers didn’t believe in him.
Mary and Joseph lived in Nazareth, but Micah 5:2 had predicted Jesus would be born in Bethlehem. As Mary’s time for delivery drew near, Caesar Augustus (Luke 2:1-7) decreed that they must go to Bethlehem to be taxed. There, Mary gave birth to Jesus, and laid Him in a manger.
It was no accident that Mary had to make an arduous trip to Bethlehem, when she was on the verge of giving birth. It was no accident that Jesus was born far from home, and then laid in a manger. If was no accident that Jesus was crucified—that Mary’s heart was broken!
Those who love the Lord with all their heart must love Him enough that they will pay any price for their Lord.
We Walk by Faith
To walk by faith is to respect the Absolutes. We believe and obey, even when we don’t understand the details. Such a man was Abraham. Doubting Thomas was more like today’s Christian.
1 And it came to pass after these things, that God did tempt Abraham, and said unto him, Abraham: and he said, Behold, here I am.
2 And he said, Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of. (Genesis 22:1-2)
Abraham obeyed even though he didn’t understand.
10 And Abraham stretched forth his hand, and took the knife to slay his son.
11 And the angel of the Lord called unto him out of heaven, and said, Abraham, Abraham: and he said, Here am I.
12 And he said, Lay not thine hand upon the lad, neither do thou any thing unto him: for now I know that thou fearest God, seeing thou hast not withheld thy son, thine only son from me. (Genesis 22:10-12)
25 The other disciples therefore said unto him, We have seen the Lord. But he said unto them, Except I shall see in his hands the print of the nails, and put my finger into the print of the nails, and thrust my hand into his side, I will not believe.
After eight days, Jesus invited Thomas to examine the nail prints and his wounded side. All Thomas could say was, “My Lord and my God.”
29 Jesus saith unto him, Thomas, because thou hast seen me, thou hast believed: blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed. (John 20:25-29)
A Grievous Sin
God created us to represent Him on earth. He created the male to represent His authoritative side. He created the female to represent His nurturing side. The unique difference between men and women is a non-negotiable Absolute!
The man was created to rule the earth, and the woman was made to help him. In no uncertain terms, Scripture tells how a man and his wife are to conduct themselves in marriage. The Lord doesn’t always explain why; He just says, “Do it.”
The Lord has given me the grace and fortitude to explain “why” to this doubting and disobedient generation. Throughout my writings, I will explain again and again, always trying to approach from a different angle.
We Are God’s Representatives
For over 100 years, Christians, in the West, have not respected their callings as men and as women. Our lack of gender differentiation amounts to a refusal to faithfully represent God. Our Christian testimony is hollow.
We’ve made a mockery of the marriage relationship. Our relationship to God continues to be superficial. We go to church, and “jump through the hoops.” We go on weekend mission trips. Somehow, we think we’re okay with the Lord. I’m writing to address that grievous sin, and call men and women to repentance.
The Foolishness Of God
The foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men. (1 Corinthians 1:25)
Why was it necessary for God Incarnate to die for my sin? It makes no sense to my mortal mind.
I’m an engineer, and I design things. The design of male and female bodies is not something a human would think of. Most foolish to me is the proximity of the love making function to that of waste elimination. Listen to the Word of God:
Thou thoughtest that I was altogether such an one as thyself: but I will reprove thee, and set them in order before thine eyes. (Psalms 50:21b)
In today’s world, distinctly different male/female roles is foolishness, but you are different from God. You are not the Creator; you are not the Designer, but you better take God seriously.
Now let me give two illustrations: Chances are you don’t understand electricity, and you can’t see it, but you better respect it. You may not understand the difference between male and female sexuality, but you better respect that difference.
What does God say to those who refuse biblical male/female roles? “I will reprove thee, and set them in order before thine eyes.” I believe that will take place during the Great Tribulation. Many Christians will be there. Is there any chance I might be right?
A Man After God’s Own Heart
King David accepted the Absolutes, and was committed to them—there’s no doubt in my mind! Yet he committed adultery with Bathsheba, and had her husband slain. As a true man of God, David repented. In my book, Two Loves, I declare a significant sin of which I will always be ashamed.
My point is this: We are called to be perfect, but we’re not yet there. If you are truly committed, when you sin, you’ll repent and be forgiven. The Christian community is meant to be a forgiving and joyful community. Bottom line is this: Every saint is a sinner in need of saving grace on a daily basis.
What is missing for so many Christians is a lack of commitment to the Absolutes.
- Wives don’t commit to their submissive calling.
- Husbands don’t commit to loving their wives.
As the end approaches, I believe our lack of commitment to male/female Absolutes will bring a terrible punishment on Christians. If there is any virtue in Islam, it is this: They know the difference between men and women. As in Babylon, God will use the ungodly to punish and correct His people. Again I ask: What if I’m right?
God’s Chosen People
When it comes to Choices, the Lord gives us much more freedom than we allow one another. Different denominations reflect our different viewpoints. Unfortunately some denominations do better when it comes to identifying the Absolutes, and committing to them. Let me give an example:
Catholic and most Protestants churches believe in Replacement Theology. God told Abraham, “I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.” (Genesis 12:3). That was God’s Absolute Covenant with Abraham.
In contrast we find God’s Conditional Covenant expressed in Deuteronomy 7:12-8:20. If the Israelites were obedient they would be blessed. That was a matter of making good Choices.
Most denominations believe that the Church has replaced Israel, and that only Jews who become part of the Church have any future with the Lord. They have failed to identify a foundational Absolute. The Messiah, Jesus, is a descendant of Abraham. The Jews will always be God’s Chosen People. The time will come when Romans 11:26 will be fulfilled: “All Israel shall be saved.”
The result has been a serious error. The Replacement Theology crowd has joined forces with Liberals and Muslims in opposition to Israel. The BDS initiative is an attempt to force a Palestinian state—Christians are deeply involved! Instead of sharing the blessings promised in Genesis 12:3, they will share in the curses promised in that same passage.
The Submissive Wives
Debbie Pearl has written a terrific book, entitled Created To Be His Help Meet. She tells a woman she can have a wonderful marriage if she’ll submit to her husband. But there’s a much more noble reason for submission: To honor the Lord! The woman who accepts the Absolute of Creation Order will be joyful even if submission doesn’t give her a great marriage.
The ivillage submissive wives echo the message of Debbie Pearl. I repeat: Even if submission doesn’t bring a great marriage, a committed woman will have joy now and a blessed eternity. Nevertheless, the submissive wives stand in stark contrast to most modern women. Take a look at their website. http://www.mamamia.com.au/become-submissive-wife-7-easy-steps/
To the woman at the well (John 4:25-26), Jesus declared himself to be the Messiah. Was He bragging or just providing accurate information? My testimony will provide necessary information. I will also be bragging on the faithfulness of the Lord.
From The Ground Up
I committed my life to Christ while I was still nine. As a young man, I read in Scripture, “For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church” (Ephesians 5:23a), but that’s NOT what I saw at home.
My first challenge was to learn what it meant to be the biblical head-of-the-house. I was 31 when I married Theresa, and she was the anti-thesis to the submissive, biblical wife. As I continued to learn male headship, I continued to challenge Theresa.
For my adult lifetime, I’ve been committed to male headship. For the Western World, today, women control the family—even in Christian homes! February 6, 2018, it was “Eureka” for me. I was able to express in three sentences why male headship is absolutely essential.
ULTIMATELY, SOME PEOPLE WILL GO TO HEAVEN, WHILE OTHERS WILL FIND THEMSELVES IN HELL. THE JUDGMENT WILL BE BASED ON OBJECTIVE TRUTH, NOT ON SUBJECTIVE FEELINGS. THAT’S WHY WOMEN IN AUTHORITY OVER MEN IS DANGEROUS—ETERNALLY DESTRUCTIVE!
I was born, the second of seven children, to a poor Kentucky family. In 1948, my parents moved to Detroit. Dad died in 1953 when I was 14. My oldest sibling was 19, while the youngest was three. Dale, the sixth child, was retarded and died young. (Dale was more than mom could handle, so she put him in a home.)
Needless to say, mom had her hands full just trying to make ends meet. We got a Social Security check, but that was never enough. God supplied our needs through the generosity of the Christians in our church. They always seemed to arrive at the right time with what was needful.
Dad’s death was a hidden Romans 8:28 blessing for me. I learned to accept responsibility at an early age. At ten, I got my first paper route. I also sold greeting cards from door to door. When mom had a special need, she came to me, and I was usually able to bring home some cash. I became her favorite, but that came with a price that I’ll discuss elsewhere.
Mom taught me to be frugal, and to this day I cut out coupons. I live beneath my means, which gives me extra money with which to bless others. I financed family projects that helped my older brother, and two of my sisters.
The Joy of Giving
Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us … he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity [liberality]; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness. (Romans 12:6-8)
The Lord has given me many gifts. Since I was ten, I have been a giver. I developed a joy in giving that has continued through the years. I give of my time and money increasingly—even at 78! I just enjoy helping people, to the glory of God.
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give—Winston Churchill
I backed into the Great Commandment. I was busy loving my neighbor, when the Lord rewarded me with a greater love. In 1979, I went to a Bill Gothard, “Basic Youth Conflicts” seminar, in Austin Texas. When I left that event, I had this burning conviction that nothing was more important than pleasing the Lord.
Suddenly, I loved the Lord my God with all my heart, and with all my soul, and with all my strength, and with all my mind. My love for my neighbor was then rooted in my rock solid love for my God. This happened when I was 40, which is a significant biblical number.
Shortly after that I had two visions, in which I was in the presence of the Lord. In the first, I asked for the Faith of Abraham. (The Faith of Abraham is long-term and requires no affirmation.) In the second vision, God quickened to me, “Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God.” (Anyone who commits to the Great Commandment is pure in heart.)
Prepared For Ministry
I had been empowered for a ministry that has continued for about 40 years.
- The Lord and I saved my marriage.
- For 35 years, my ministry was air conditioning.
- Now, my ministry is to declare the truth about marriage and family.
For 32 years, my wife and I had an unbiblical marriage. She was a difficult wife, but I had the Faith of Abraham. I wanted to honor the Lord. I was keeping the Great Commandment while loving my closest neighbor. In April of 2002, Theresa repented, and for 15 years we had a heavenly marriage—until the Lord called her home!
But during the 32 years, I had no assurance that she would change. When you live to please the Lord, you accept even a negative outcome as from God. There is no greater reward than having pleased your Maker. Jesus said, “I do always that which pleases my Father.” Should we do less?
I finished college in 1963, and eventually became an engineering professor, but that was not for me. (University politics continue to go from bad to worse.) In 1983, I became Dr. Kool, the air conditioning contractor. For 35 years, AC was my ministry. It was a business, but in that context, I was able to help my customers to the glory of God.
About 30 years ago, Dan Wilkerson asked a rhetorical question: “What are you doing in such company?” Most air conditioning contractors are dishonest, incompetent or both. I have gone out of my way to honor the Lord, and serve my customers. On television, I said, “I respond promptly, do great work, and charge reasonable prices.”
Nearly all advertisements are an exaggeration or a distortion. One of my customers (Beth) observed that my advertisement was NOT an exaggeration. “It’s true!” she exclaimed incredulously.
Someday, Patrick Gutierrez will own my business. The Lord and I selected Patrick as a man of principle who would carry on my Dr. Kool legacy. I love my neighbor as myself. That means I won’t sell my business to the highest bidder. I will give it to a man I trust.
Patrick has been my employee for over three years. He is a fabulous diagnostician and repairman. And he has a biblical work ethic, but he has never run a business. For as long as necessary, I will be his adviser—free of charge! I continue to love my customers and Patrick. He asked, what he could do to repay me.
I replied that, for starters, he could keep me kool the rest of my life. And P.S. With the passing of my wife, I became single again. If I should find another promising lady, I’ll offer her my kool deal: I’ll keep you kool if you’ll keep me warm—Dr. and Mrs. Kool!
At this time (10-16-17) Patrick is trying to get his AC license. His helper, Louis and I are covering for him, while he takes the test. Today he passed the exam.
What Is My Secret?
I’ve identified the Absolutes, and then committed to them. As a result, I make good Choices. Not surprisingly, I have a reputation for giving really good advice. Customers, who need a tradesman or a repairman, routinely call me for a recommendation. I give them the name of someone they can trust.
If I don’t know a good practitioner, I call trusted friends and find the right man. Recognizing my own humanity, I accept the fact that I have on rare occasion been known to be wrong. I close the conversation with this comment: “Please let me know if you are not satisfied with my recommendation.”
I own rental property. In the fall of 2014, four girls answered my Craigslist ad. Their landlord wouldn’t make necessary repairs, and they had gotten a lawyer to break their lease.
I sat the girls down, and told them: If something is broken, I’ll fix it. If something needs to be done, I’ll do it. Can you handle that? Every group of girls has a boss. First there was Kristen Witt, then Brittany Witt, and now Julie Rakowitz. When Kristen left to get married, she sent me a thank you note.
There are two things to be learned from the above:
- I was fulfilling the second part of the Great Commandment.
- Someone will always emerge as the boss. In the family, by God’s design, that someone should be the husband.
In our so-called egalitarian culture, women run the show at home.
Modern women have no problem with submission, as long as the man is the one who submits—C. Russell Yates
The word “egalitarian” is an oxymoron. “Equality” marriage is impossible, and female headship leads to disaster—it’s out of order!
Few Are Chosen
If you were God, and you had an important message to send to a final generation, who would you send:
- Someone who lives for himself?
- Or someone who lives by the Great Commandment?
That is a difficult question. Saul of Tarsus was an unlikely candidate, but God chose him anyway.
But the Lord said unto him [Ananais], Go thy way: for he is a chosen vessel unto me, to bear my name before the Gentiles, and kings, and the children of Israel: (Acts 9:15, emphasis added)
For many are called, but few are chosen (Matthew 22:14, emphasis added).
Paul had a “Damascus Road” experience. The closest I came to that was what happened to me at the Gothard seminar, and then the two visions that followed. I’ve grown in godliness since I was a youth. I truly believe I have been chosen to warn wayward Christians of an earthly judgment that lies just ahead.
My end-times writings have been published online at my own expense. If I were to publish books for sale, I would be tempted to compromise the truth for personal gain. I don’t ask for a donation. If I am truly chosen, I dare not be swayed by any monetary interest.
And thou shalt take no gift: for the gift blindeth the wise, and perverteth the words of the righteous. (Exodus 23:8)
I seriously doubt that Isaiah or Jeremiah ever profited monetarily from their writings.
I’m an evangelical Christian. Our entire evangelistic effort seems to be directed toward those outside our group. Prophets like Jeremiah and Isaiah were pointing out the sins of their own people. Likewise, Jesus confronted the Jews. Those who seek to correct their own people lose lots of friends.
I’m a gregarious man who enjoys the fellowship of others. The idea of being ostracized by my friends is not something I desire or seek. But to love the Lord above all else, I must faithfully fulfill the task for which I have been chosen.
24 Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.
25 For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. (Matthew 16:24-25)
Like the Old Testament prophets, I am declaring the sins of my own people. To Isaiah, the Lord spoke the following:
8 Now go, write it before them in a table, and note it in a book, that it may be for the time to come for ever and ever:
9 That this is a rebellious people, lying children, children that will not hear the law of the Lord:
10 Which say to the seers, See not; and to the prophets, Prophesy not unto us right things, speak unto us smooth things, prophesy deceits: Isaiah (30:8-10)
I’m a prolific writer, but at this time, I invite inquiry into just the following (click on any of the following links):
- “Family” — 1 page.
- “Good Kids” — 3 pages.
- “The Gospel Truth” (this article) — 30 pages.
- How To Have A Good Marriage Without Changing Wives — 230 pages.
- Two Loves — 425 pages (this will open in a new browser tab).
In 1 Thessalonians 5:20 we read, “Despise not prophesyings.” This was written to the early church and to us. By 100 A.D. the canon was closed. So what is the role of a modern-day prophet? In the context of Scripture and world events, the Lord illuminates his understanding.
He sees things other Christians don’t see, and declares what they need to hear. The prophet is right when everyone else is wrong. (His opinions are not infallible, but he writes in the spirit of truth.)
To fulfill the second part of the Great Commandment, I write and speak because of my love for my fellow man.
Next, I’ll assess the world situation, and tell where I think we’re headed. You need to accept, and commit to the Absolutes. The first Absolute you must accept is this: There is a God. Then you must seek Him.
And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:13)
The Western-World has been influenced by Christianity—exceedingly, abundantly, above all that we could ask or think! Yet we are dashing headlong toward destruction. We have failed to identify and commit to some key foundational Absolutes.
The Myth Of Sexual Sameness
Creation Order says men and women are different. Those who promote sameness are out of order, and should expect trouble.
Males and females are NOT interchangeable. Not in the home! Not at work! Not in government! Not in the military! Never! Gender confusion began with Woman’s Suffrage, and has gained momentum since then. The following video is by Ashley McGuire for Prager University. It’s hard to believe our society has come to this.
Are male and female one and the same? Or are there real male-female differences rooted in biology? Ashley McGuire, author of “Sex Scandal: The Drive to Abolish Male and Female,” explains. Published by PragerU.
The result of the “egalitarian” initiative has been a feminine, feelings-driven culture where feelings are more important than truth. That has given birth to a Democratic, Liberal, Socialist mindset that includes both feminized males and women.
You Can’t Legislate Morality
Significant examples include the following:
- Abortion on demand.
- Same-sex marriage.
Abortion is the state-sanctioned violation of the sanctity of life—legalized murder! Same-sex marriage is the state-sanctioned violation of the sanctity of marriage.
On January 16, 1920, the 18th Amendment (Prohibition) was ratified. On August 26, 1920, the 19th Amendment (Suffrage) was passed. Mostly women led both initiatives. They came from conservative religious backgrounds, but they quickly morphed into Progressives (Liberals).
Prohibition backfired, and gave America an era of gangsters and speakeasies. “Today, we often think of Prohibition as a deluded experiment, instinctively associating it with images of Al Capone, the Mafia, and the Valentines’ Day Massacre.” On December 3, 1933, Prohibition was repealed by the 21st Amendment.
It comes natural for men to take what they want by force; that is shown vividly in Islam and during Prohibition. Women get what they want by manipulation; that is shown clearly in modern marriage and Liberalism.
The new-birth empowers men and women to overcome these natural tendencies. Christians must walk in the Spirit. To walk “in the flesh,” is to do what comes natural.
There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. (Proverbs 16:25)
Contrary to popular opinion, Suffrage was not a good idea. It led to sexual “equality” and the feminization of society. The world is upside down, and that’s the Western side of the equation. In my larger paper, I discuss these problems in detail. By God’s design:
- Women should influence, but men should decide.
- Men should lead, and women should follow.
People see sexual “equality” as virtuous. I predict that it will prove to be the sin that haunts them. “The chickens will come home to roost.”
THE WAY IT SHOULD BE
According to God’s design, children need to know their father is in charge, and they need to know that he loves their mother.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Ephesians 5:24-25)
God’s command to the wife is given first, and for good reason. In my book, Two Loves, I talk about Commitment Love and Endearment Love. So how does a good husband get from Commitment Love to Endearment Love?
Now for a quotation from the Submissive Wives website: “Sex with a submissive wife is pretty awesome.” Few women understand the magic that happens during that marital encounter; but every husband has an “endearment bank account.” By the simple act of submission, a wife earns a credit. That is especially true in bed.
Let’s Face It
Men and women are different—that’s reality! But the Western World has been in denial for over 100 years. That’s why:
- “Equality” marriage doesn’t work.
- Divorce is rampant.
- Our kids are messed up.
For 32 years, all I could offer Theresa was Commitment Love. Once she surrendered, and became a submissive wife, the Endearment Love set in. Theresa is now with the Lord, so my Commitment Love is history. But my Endearment Love will last forever.
We read in 1 Corinthians 11:11-12, it is “by the woman”—she has the power! When a wife surrenders, that puts her husband in charge. It also enables her husband to love his wife in an endearing way—that is what children need to see!
If you want to know whether a marriage is biblical, just look at the kids. You don’t have to be a Believer to have a biblical marriage.
It pretty much depends on the wife. Even if her husband is a rascal, if she’ll submit, they can have a biblical marriage and good kids.
Children learn best by example. Here’s how it works: A submissive wife respects the authority of her husband. The kids will learn, from her example, to respect the authority of their mother. They will also respect their teachers and law enforcement. Finally, they will respect the authority of the Lord—obedient kids!
The Lord inspired Ephesians 5:24-25. Isn’t God smart? Unfortunately, multitudes of Christians think they know better than God.
BACK TO THE DOOM
Earlier I explained Replacement Theology. The Jews are God’s Chosen people. Those who don’t identify, and commit to this foundational Absolute will face God’s correction.
As I see it, many Christians will be left behind at the Rapture, and go through the refining fires of the Great Tribulation. Popular Christian belief is that the next passage refers to those saved during the Tribulation. I think it refers to Christians who were left behind at the Rapture. The fact that their robes needed to be washed says they are “left-behind” Christians.
13 And one of the elders answered, saying unto me, What are these which are arrayed in white robes? and whence came they?
14 And I said unto him, Sir, thou knowest. And he said to me, These are they which came out of great tribulation, and have washed their robes, and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. (Revelation 7:13-14, emphasis added)
An Islamic Antichrist
The Antichrist will probably head the resurrected Islamic Caliphate. In God’s War on Terror, Walid Shoebat says the mortal head wound spoken of in Revelation refers to the Islamic religious system, where, by UN mandate, the Caliphate was abolished March 3, 1924.
And I saw one of his heads as it were wounded to death; and his deadly wound was healed: and all the world wondered after the beast. (Revelation 13:3)
Muslims are awaiting the restoration of that office. Their messiah, the Mahdi, the Antichrist will be in charge. I believe that will happen at the Rapture or shortly thereafter. I now quote from God’s War on Terror, P.453
WHY THE CALIPHATE IS A THREAT TO THE WEST
The Caliphate confers legitimacy to jihad. According to Islamic law, without a Caliphate, it is not possible to declare a genuinely sanctioned pan-Islamic Jihad. Similar to the need for the President of the United States to declare a state of war, it is also necessary for a Caliph to be in office for any official pan-Islamic Jihad to be declared. But once a Caliph is in office, it is actually law for him to engage the non-Muslim world in war in order to spread Islam. This is not to say that Muslims have not conducted jihad against non-Muslims, but these have largely been the acts of small groups or individuals. In other words, jihad under a Caliph would be genuine “old school” jihad—not a bombing here or an attack there. It would become the modern world’s first true full-scale religious war. It would involve everything that the Islamic world could throw out, from economic jihad to withholding oil to cyber jihad to multi-front military conflicts.
And I add: Every true Muslim will participate in this full-scale religious war. There will be no moderates. If I see things correctly, the Tribulation will be much worse than any of us Christians had thought.
Most Westerners don’t take Islam seriously, but the mortally wounded Islamic Caliphate is being resurrected before our eyes.
Conservatives see the answer as political. I see it as an individual spiritual matter. If there ever was a time to identify the Absolutes, and then commit, it’s now.
And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunderings, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigneth. (Revelation 19:6)