A Great Mystery

Christianity is uniquely different from all man-made religions. It’s a fellowship between God and all genuine Believers—based on love! In short it’s relationship, NOT religion. Marriage is the building block for a bond that transcends time. It behooves us to get it right.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)

The oneness happens in bed.

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5:32)

So how does one describe a great mystery? I’ll try, as I argue from Scripture, by prayer, and with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

In the beginning (Genesis 2:7), God created Adam from the dust of the ground. The man was clearly in charge. Eve didn’t arrive until later.

Human Sexuality
Male sexuality is very different from that of the female. Women don’t understand that, but it was no accident.

  1. Men are aggressively driven by sex to find a wife. In Christian marriage, a man commits for a lifetime to just one woman.
  2. Due to his nature, a man requires sexual intercourse on a regular basis. Whenever he wants it!
  3. One result is the oneness spoken of in Ephesians 5:31.
  4. A second result is righteous children, for future generations.
  5. A third and most important result is that they model the relationship between Christ and the Church.

When God made the woman, she was considerably different sexually. Because of his deep-seated need for sex, a man is sometimes seen as abnormal. Nonsense! I repeat: That’s the way God made him.

When a man needs sex, but his wife isn’t in the mood, then what? God made a woman, and put within her the sexual desire of a responder. Because men and women are different God gave them different instructions:

  • He tells a woman to submit to her husband’s authority, and his need for sex.
  • He tells a man to slow down, and love his wife.

The godly husband models God, himself. He’s the initiator and the authority. The godly wife models the Church that submits to the Lordship of Christ. Any sexual impropriety threatens the one flesh union God intended between husband and wife. Marriage is to be absolutely exclusive between one man and his wife.

Adultery is an act. What are we to make of the following?

But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)

As a serious man of God, who is above reproach sexually, I give my opinion.

Because of his nature, every man will have a sexual desire when he looks upon a beautiful woman. But would he actually commit adultery if given the chance? To lust after her would be to follow through. In Genesis 39:9, Potiphar’s wife had to be a good-looking babe. But Joseph saw the act of adultery as a great sin against God.

Women aren’t morally superior to men. They’re just built differently. Men are built to pursue for the purpose of marriage. They are built to routinely desire sex for the purpose of marital oneness. The obedient wife is first obedient to the Lord, before she submits to her husband’s need for sex.

The Process

1. From the one, God made two.

And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. (Genesis 2:22)

2. From the two, He makes one.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

The Interdependence

Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God. (1 Corinthians 11:11-12)

A woman’s first responsibility is in the home, rearing children and supporting her husband.

A man is responsible to provide for and protect his family.

Since Creation, the woman has been the moral guardian of the home and future generations. She empowers her husband, and guides the children. She lays a foundation upon which her husband can build. Without that foundation, a man has nothing to build on. A woman cannot do both her job and his job. By God’s design, they’re a one-flesh team.

The Two Remain Two
In Today’s “egalitarian,” “equality” world, marriage continues to be threatened—far worse than by adultery! Christians have conformed to the world in such numbers that true biblical marriage is a rarity. As the end of the age approaches, Satan’s plan is clear: The two shall remain two; they will never be one.

God’s Answer
With the Lord, nothing has changed:

  • You’re a team!
  • Submit to your husband!
  • Love your wife!

Maranatha! Come quickly, Lord Jesus!