Marital Agreement

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3).
About 100 years ago Western culture began the transition from traditional to “equality” marriage. The latter requires that husband and wife agree on almost everything.

Traditional (Biblical) marriage requires a different type of agreement: They agree to do things God’s way. And what is the result? The two become one. Paul writes: “This is a great mystery.” (Ephesians 5:32a)

July 4, 1970 Theresa and I entered into an “equality” marriage but we seldom agreed on anything. In April 2002, the Lord transformed our marriage into a biblical one. For the next 15 years we had a heavenly marriage—until the Lord called Theresa home May 30, 2017—I miss her so much! This paper is our story.

When I was single I’d introduce myself as half-a-couple. When God created man in His image, He did so as both male and female. No woman or no man is complete in himself. Completeness is found when the two become one. (There is no better preparation for eternity than a biblical marriage.)

I finally married at 31, but was still alone—so was my wife! For the next 32 years, we were still alone. Then we became one. The God who created us to be married has given, in the Bible, everything we need to know about marriage. So what’s the problem?

In every culture and society there are unbiblical ideas that make Christian marriage very difficult. In 1967, I read a little book, I Loved a Girl, compiled by Walter Trobisch. After 50 years I just read that book again. As I finished the book, I was worn-out from weeping.

The setting was Cameroun, West Africa. According to tribal custom, marriage was polygamous, and there was a bride price. Typically, a father would sell his daughter to the highest bidder. A rich man could have several wives, while a poor man might have none.

Francois was a poor man, but he and Cecile were deeply in love. They were both Christians, and wrote letters to Pastor Walter Trobisch. Under the most extenuating circumstances their love finally won out. (The book was widely distributed, and is available through and other outlets.)

The Western World
The West has a more serious marital problem than that faced by Francois and Cecile. It’s the most destructive sin since that of Adam. I quote from Created To Be His Help Meet, by Debi Pearl.

Beginning with the women’s “liberation” movement in the 1960s, women have been taught and are expected to resent men in authority. All media, magazines, movies, and popular books have promoted eradication of the distinction between male and female. The established churches, as always, are only about one decade behind the world, so Christian books and ministers have followed with their own female liberation theology. … It has gone so far that churches are now convinced that the Bible supports this modern view.

Men are no longer respected at home, in the church, or in society. To disrespect men simply because they are men is to disrespect God. What they see as progress is destroying Western civilization, and leading Christians toward certain judgment.

This 230-page paper is my testimony and commentary—it’s free! If you want a 30-page overview of this paper, go to the upper tool bar, and click on “The Gospel Truth.”

Books on marriage abound, but few effectively deal with the problem. The Bible has all the answers, and they aren’t that complicated. So why am I writing? I’ll try to document the way things should be, where they went wrong, and how to make things right. My words are not without error, but I write in the spirit of truth. (Only truth will stand the test of time.)

When a bad marriage is salvaged, the agent is almost always the wife. She does that by respecting her husband; that is clearly shown in Debi Pearl’s book. Seldom will a husband take the initiative to salvage a bad marriage, but I did, and I succeeded. It wasn’t easy!

Starting with Adam, God put the man in charge. He’s also responsible for his wife and children. Let me repeat with emphasis:

  • The husband has the authority.
  • He also has the responsibility.

Authority and responsibility go together. Without authority, a male isn’t eager to accept responsibility. That’s why a single mother may have trouble collecting child support.

“Egalitarianism,” the idea that husbands and wives have equal authority may be legal, but it’s not natural. A wife, through the simple act of submission, can usually solve a marital problem. You and your wife should read my Appendix A, “Submission of Christian Wives to their Husbands.” If you can agree, it may not be necessary to read this paper.

Few men who read this paper will agree with me entirely, and that’s okay. But the following Absolute commands are taken directly from the Bible.

  • Submit to your husband.
  • Love your wife.
  • Obey your parents.

This only happens when you honor the Lord, and respect your mate. Self-centered people seldom find a good marriage.

I suggest you read just a chapter a day. The premise of male/female roles is simple; but after 100 years of disobedience, correction is not that easy.


“For the wages of sin is death” (Romans 6:23a). Starting with the Original Sin, mankind continues to choose death. Furthermore, there’s a pattern that can easily be identified.

  • Women follow their neighbors into sin. Eve gave-in to the serpent’s temptation. “The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat” (Genesis 3:13b).
  • Men follow their wives into sin. Eve gave the forbidden fruit to Adam. (Genesis 3:12).

We see the same pattern in ancient Israel, where the men followed their wives into idolatry. And we see that pattern today, where women copy the ways of our godless culture, and men go along with them.

My wife’s sin was like that of her neighbors. When it became clear that I wouldn’t go along, she repented. Our marriage was transformed—to the glory of God! After 15 years of heavenly marriage, the Lord called Theresa home. Our experience inspired this paper; it calls men to protect their wives and daughters, as I protected mine.

In today’s world, insecurity abounds. People who are in right relationship with God are secure. The contrast is shown clearly in the next passage.

The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion. (Proverbs 28:1)

My wife was terribly insecure until she repented. I want our success story to be your story.

Marital Protection
Fire is a wonderful thing when it’s under control. In Christian marriage, both feminine and masculine fires are contained. 

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24) 

When two godly people are married, they have spiritual benefits not available to single people. Men and women have unique weaknesses. A husband can strengthen a wife in her weakness, and vice versa.

For her own protection, a woman should submit: First to God, and then to her husband. By submitting to her husband’s authority, a woman’s emotions will be kept in check. By submitting in bed, she will facilitate the oneness spoken of in Genesis 2:24.

To love one’s wife is an act of submission. For his own protection, a man must submit to God. God tells the man to love his wife. (A woman needs to be loved.) Obedience to that command will civilize and sanctify the man. “It’s not good for a man to be alone.”

When a wife respects her husband, she honors the Lord. When a husband loves his wife, he honors the Lord.

  • They become one.
  • They model the relationship between Christ and the Church.
  • They have sanctified children.

So why do women follow their neighbors into sin? Why do men follow their wives into sin? They’re insecure. They don’t trust the Lord.

Now, I ask you to read a slightly abbreviated two-page article by Dennis Prager taken from the following:

Judeo-Christian Values, part 22: The Feminization of Society

~Posted By Dennis Prager on 9/13/2005~

As a result of the repudiation of Judeo-Christian values, we are witnessing the ascendance of the feminine in Western society.

There are two reasons for this. One is the overriding belief in equality, which to those who reject Judeo-Christian values means sameness. Judeo-Christian values emphatically affirm the equality of the sexes. In fact, given that the creation story in Genesis proceeds from primitive to elevated, the last creation, woman, can easily be seen as the most elevated of the creations. Every man knows how much a good woman helps him transcend his animal nature.

Judeo-Christian values do not conflate equality with sameness. But the Left rejects any suggestion of innate sexual differences. That is why the president of Harvard University nearly lost his job for merely suggesting that one reason there are fewer women in engineering and science faculties is that the female and male brains differ in their capacities in these areas. A secular liberal who advocates affirmative action based on sex, Harvard’s president nevertheless also has – or had, until his humiliation at the hands of his faculty – a belief in seeking truth.

And the truth is that men and women are profoundly different.

One of these differences is that women generally have a more difficult time transcending their emotions than men. There are, of course, millions of individual women – such as Margaret Thatcher – who are far more rational than many men; but that only makes these women’s achievements all the more admirable. It hardly invalidates the proposition.

Far more common than Margaret Thatcher’s rationality was the emotionality of the women jurors in the Menendez brothers’ trials. All six women jurors in the Erik Menendez trial voted to acquit him of the murder of his father (all six males voted guilty of murder). A virtually identical breakdown by sex took place in the Lyle Menendez trial for the murder of their mother. The women all had compassion for the brothers despite their confessions to the shotgun murders of their parents.

To say that the human race needs masculine and feminine characteristics is to state the obvious. But each sex comes with prices. Men can too easily lack compassion, reduce sex to animal behavior and become violent. And women’s emotionality, when unchecked, can wreak havoc on those closest to these women and on society as a whole – when emotions and compassion dominate in making public policy.

The latter is what is happening in America. The Left has been successful in supplanting masculine virtues with feminine ones. That is why “compassion” is probably the most frequently cited value. That is why the further left you go, the greater the antipathy to those who make war. Indeed, universities, the embodiment of feminist emotionality and anti-Judeo-Christian values, ban military recruiters and oppose war-themed names for their sports teams.

A sentiment such as “War is not the answer” embodies leftist feminine emotionality. The statement is, after all, utter nonsense, as many of the greatest evils – from Nazi totalitarianism and genocide to slavery – were quite effectively “answered” by war. (Virtually every car I have seen display the bumper sticker that says “War is not the answer” was driven by a woman.) …

In the micro realm, the feminine virtues are invaluable – for example, women hear infants’ cries far more readily than men do. But as a basis for governance of society, the feminization of public policy is suicidal. (Emphasis added.)

That is one reason our schools are in trouble. They are increasingly run by women – women with female thinking moreover. Such thinking leads to papers no longer being graded with a red pencil lest students’ feelings be hurt; to self-esteem supplanting self-discipline as a value; to banning games such as dodge ball in which participants’ feelings may get hurt; to discouraging male competition; to banning peanut butter because two out of a thousand students are highly allergic to peanuts.

In a masculine society governed by Judeo-Christian values (which include a masculine-depicted and compassionate God), feminine virtues are adored and honored. In a feminized society, male virtues are discarded.

Then both sexes suffer. Just one more consequence of the war against Judeo-Christian values!  END OF ARTICLE

Today, men are dancing to the feminine tune. We have the strength of men directed by the emotions of women.

Modern women have no problem with submission, as long as the man is the one who submits—C. Russell Yates

The feminization of society is a war against masculinity. Ultimately it’s Satan’s attempt to deny the Fatherhood of God. Pastors oversee the church, while ignoring the ever-present denial of male headship. They tolerate bossy women, and then accommodate feminine sensibilities at the expense of truth.

Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. (Proverbs 31:3)

As society has been increasingly feminized, truth has been increasingly compromised. It’s time that Christian men and especially pastors take a stand.

Truth Is Fallen

14 And judgment is turned away backward, and justice standeth afar off: for truth is fallen in the street, and equity cannot enter.

15 Yea, truth faileth; and he that departeth from evil maketh himself a prey: and the Lord saw it, and it displeased him that there was no judgment. (Isaiah 59:14-15, emphasis added)

The Western World is now in a post-truth era. Fake news is the order of the day. For the left, “truth” is whatever works. Islam thrives on falsehood. People like Dennis Prager and Benjamin Netanyahu respect truth. The following quotation is from the Israeli Prime Minister: “Jerusalem shall be called a city of truth.”–see Zechariah 8:3.

The West is not only a deceived people, but we are the victims of liars. A case in point is the Two-State Solution for the Palestinian “refugees.” The “Palestinians” are not a legitimate people group, and the Two-State Solution is a farce.

The Palestinians
The Romans renamed Israel, and called it Palestine. For hundreds of years it was a barren wasteland, inhabited by a few Bedouins that lived in tents. Only when the Jews returned in the late 1800’s, was the land built up.

For a complete story, click on the article that follows:

Before the Israeli War of Independence, mostly Jews and some Arabs occupied the territory. In 1948, before the war, most of the Arabs left Palestine expecting the Jews to be exterminated. The Jews won the war, declared their independence, and reclaimed their historic land of Israel.

The Arabs, who had left what is now Israel, were not allowed to return. Yasser Arafat put them into camps, and refused to let them leave. Arafat moved more Arabs in from all over the area, and told them “Now you are Palestinians.” Their claim is that these “Palestinians” have lived on the land for hundreds of years. Nonsense!

The so-called Palestinians of today are the children and grandchildren of Lebanese, Syrians, and Jordanians. As shown in my 5-minute link, the “Palestinians” have been offered a state five times, but have always refused.

For three generations, UNRWA has funded the “Palestinians.” Rather than rebuilding, they have used the money to terrorize Israel. First and foremost, they want another holocaust. The UN should hold them accountable, but anti-Semitism didn’t die with Hitler.

When Emotions Rule
In my AC business, I have two employees. My men are likeable, and they do great work. I get feedback from my customers. A woman will tell me they were polite or very nice. A man will tell me they did a good job. The difference between male and female is more than significant. If the goal is to get a good job, it’s better when my customer is a man. When dealing with a contractor, a woman may get a lousy job because she likes the guy. OR she may reject a good job because she dislikes him.

In my business, I must deal not only with women, but with feminized men and men who are surrogates for women. Throughout this paper I document that in Western Culture the following is now the case:

  • Logic means nothing.
  • Truth is irrelevant.
  • Contracts are meaningless.

The further a society drifts from truth, the more it will hate those who speak it—George Orwell

The Constitution is a contract. Since 1963 (Murray vs. Curlett) the Supreme Court has been violating the Constitution. An election is a contract, but since the election of Trump, the Democrats have refused to honor that contract.

In my AC business, I do great work at a reasonable price. With the Better Business Bureau, I have an A+ rating. I thought that a service contract couldn’t be re-negotiated or cancelled after the work had been done. The next case is similar to the Menendez trial cited by Prager.

The wife of Arthur H. tried to reduce, by $700, a $6500 contract that Arthur and I had made. When I refused, she got really mad. Art then cancelled the contract. The work had already been completed, so I filed in JP Court. Judge Rick Hill ruled in my favor. Art appealed to County Court. The judge was Amanda Matzke. She reversed Judge Hill’s ruling. Arthur H. “won,” and I lost $6500.

Here’s something the Supreme Court, the Democrats, and Arthur H. should know: At the judgment, only truth will stand.

My entire adult life has been spent in search of relationship—I’ve been successful! And what has been the secret of my success? I take seriously the words of Jesus, and I obey His commandments. As a disciple of Jesus, the following applies to me: “And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” (John 8:32)

We live in a post-truth era, but by the grace of God, I walk above the culture. I’m able to form wholesome relationships for this life and for the next. As a serious man of God, I’m committed to truth. I see things other Christians don’t see, and I’m reporting them in this paper.

Too many Christians live by Rules, Regulations, and Procedures—that’s human achievement! Relationship is central to Christianity, and that requires one to love God and love others—especially his spouse! This paper will reveal the dynamics of The Faith, along with other material you haven’t heard in church. Please note the following:

  • At home and at church, by God’s design, men are to be in charge.
  • If you’re a male, accept the responsibilities and duties that go with manhood.
  • If you’re a woman, don’t covet the masculine role.

I’ll write about the unique differences between males and females. I’ll show how a denial of those God-Created differences has infected every facet of Western Civilization. Finally, I’ll try to predict where it all ends. Men, if you’ll read my writings, you’ll get an education.

One More Thing
“We must through much tribulation enter into the kingdom of God” (Acts 14:22b). From Scripture and from my experience, it appears that a man must pass through the refining fires of suffering before he can really be useful in ministry. In the Book of Ruth, we see the suffering of Naomi and Ruth. In this paper, I document the suffering of Patricia and Gerald Lassiter, that of Joey and Rory Feek, and that of Theresa and Russell Yates.

My Paper
But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you (John 14:26).

This paper was written as the Lord brought things to my remembrance, and quickened my understanding. Portions have been rearranged to suit the content. For example, early on I tell of my wife’s passing. Later I say that I’m married to Theresa. This is NOT a chronological rendering. In this larger paper, you will see important material that has been given before—some things need repetition!

So what lies ahead? We have a serious male/female relational problem. In this paper, I teach men. Once they understand, they can begin to correct the problem. Since men are in charge, they’re responsible; but that doesn’t let the ladies off the hook. They can solve much of the problem by the simple act of submission.


The next two passages are based on objective truth, and have nothing whatsoever to do with feelings.

Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. (Revelation 22:14)

And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire. (Revelation 20:15)

About Marriage
A good marriage is good for both the woman and the man. A satisfying marriage can only be found in Scripture. In Islam, women are not loved. In the West, men are not respected.

If a community is in agreement, women can be led into either good or bad marriages. A woman will not only accept her lot, but will also defend it. She is more subjective than a man, and that leaves her vulnerable. Her husband should protect her.

Because the Muslim Community is in agreement, women are led into oppressive marriages. Because the Western World is in agreement, women are led into unrealistic “egalitarian” marriages.

I’m reaching out to American men. Most women will NOT be persuaded by my logic. That’s why I’m writing to objective men. They must lead their wives into the truth of biblical marriage.

When you finish this paper, I want you to be fully persuaded— that YOU should take the initiative to set your house in order!

More Easily Deceived
As I will show throughout this paper, Women’s Suffrage was not a good idea. According to 1 Peter 3:7, the wife is the weaker vessel. According to 1 Timothy 2:14, women are more easily deceived. Today, corrupt politicians deceive women to get elected. But the real disaster is what continues to happen to marriages and families.

According to God’s design, the male was given the executive role in the family, while the wife was to be his advisor. The Suffragists coveted the male role, and presented numerous false arguments—they “won”!

My mother was 12 years old when Suffrage passed in 1920. My dad was one year older. They married in 1929. I was the second of their seven children. A woman should energize her husband to activate his strength. Mom did just the opposite, and weakened my father. For Western Civilization, for the past 100 years, that has been increasingly the case. The stronger and more independent women get, the weaker the men become—wimps! And that suits the predators on the Left.

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Representative Government
In your family, you represent God. A child first sees the authority of God in the authority of his father. Starting with the first women’s conference in 1848, the authority of men has been under fire. And what does God say to those in charge? “Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings” (Proverbs 31:3).

At this time, many husbands are surrogates for their wives—wimps! Feelings have replaced truth. Even for many pastors, truth can be set aside in deference to a woman.

As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. (Isaiah 3:12, emphasis added)

For Men
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15b). That statement came from a man. Show me anywhere in Scripture where a godly woman declares herself to be the head of the house.

Men, I want to help you have a good marriage—there’s no charge! (I have nothing to sell.) YOU are the head of your house, and you’re responsible before God. Let me put it another way: In Muslim countries Christians put their lives on the line. Many become martyrs. Is it asking too much for you to instruct your wife? Read this paper, and you’ll get some ideas.

In Chapter 14, “Marital Training,” I explain how I won my wife, Theresa. I tried for years to persuade her, but it didn’t work. Finally, I was guided by the Holy Spirit to file for divorce. I had been a good loving husband, and divorce didn’t feel good. She shaped up real quick.

A year later, our friends were having marital problems. Theresa said, “Tell him to file for divorce; she’ll shape up.” And she said that with a smile.  (Some Christians will dispute my decision to file for divorce. I’ll explain in Chapter 3.)

In contrast to the independent wife syndrome, there’s another kind of marriage that entirely satisfies the Lord’s requirements. The wife has most of the ideas, but she always respects her husband’s authority. I’ll discuss it in Chapter 3.

In this paper, I offer useful facts for your objective use. I was married 47 years, and I spent 2.5 years researching and writing this paper. I’ll be happy to help anyone who wants my help, but this is not a debate. The following Absolutes are taken from Ephesians 5:24-25.

  • Submit to your husband.
  • Love your wife.

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The Miracle of Sexuality

  • The man was created first; then the woman was taken from him.
  • They were to be married: One man and one woman for life.
  • Their bodies were perfectly suited for face-to-face intercourse.
  • The man plants the seed that grows in the womb.
  • The same womb can deliver either a male or female child.
  • Physically and mentally the child will be either male or female.

A man and a woman can have a great marriage, but only if they follow the ordinances laid out in Scripture. This stuff doesn’t come naturally. We have to be taught how to work together. Husband and wife are of equal value, but they’re not the same. Is my right hand the same as my left hand? Do they compete? Is one more valuable than the other?

Marriage And Family

When a man opens a car door for his wife, it’s either a new car or a new wife—Prince Philip

For a joke to be funny, there has to be a measure of truth. The truth is this: Marriage today is more adversarial and less relational—“Egalitarianism” is the chief culprit!

A Retreat From Reality
“Egalitarianism” is the notion that men and women are the same. (It’s not just the plumbing that’s different; it’s also the wiring.) After three years of devout study and writing, I’ve come to this conclusion: The idea that men and women are interchangeable is largely responsible for the perilous times spoken of by Paul.

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. (2 Timothy 3:1)

In the home, it’s called “equality” marriage. Husbands and wives are said to have equal authority and equal responsibility—that’s impossible! Marriage is a team effort, but it’s NOT a partnership. As in football, you can only have one quarterback. As in football, husbands and wives have different roles.

When a man marries, he expects to be in charge—that’s his nature! Can male headship be denied? Is gravity negotiable? (In 2001, about 200 people jumped from atop the World Trade Center, and met their expected end.) A wise wife accepts the reality of male authority. A foolish woman resists her husband’s will.

Our entire relationship with God (and other people) is built on the simple passage that follows:

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27, emphasis added)

Women’s Suffrage led the way into both “equality” marriage and Socialism; both will always espouse “egalitarianism.” In so doing, they deny Genesis 1:27. That we Christians should even entertain the notion of sameness is unthinkable. (It’s time we start thinking.) The truth is that many Christians have embraced the devil’s paradigm. But it didn’t happen overnight.

Vice is a monster of so frightful mien,
As to be hated needs but to be seen,
Yet seen too oft, familiar with her face,
We first endure, then pity, then embrace.
—Alexander Pope

“Egalitarianism,” has been the driving force behind every Socialistic ideology of the last 100 years: Fascism, Nazism, Communism, and the American Left—Progressivism, and the Democratic Party! “Egalitarianism” may eventually lead to the collapse of Western Civilization. It’s probably that serious.

How Did It Happen?
Sameness (the idea that men and women are interchangeable) was well underway before Women’s Suffrage in 1920, but it received a quantum boost in June of 1967. Few people understand this, but according to Scripture everything revolves around Israel. I was 28 years old when I heard the news that the Six-day War in Israel was underway. I immediately knew it was of the Lord. The following passage explains: 

Jerusalem shall be trodden down by the Gentiles, until the times of the Gentiles be fulfilled. (Luke 21:24)

By June 8, 1967 Israel had taken East Jerusalem. The “times of the gentiles” came to an end. The Jews are God’s chosen people, but they had been set aside for their disobedience. The Church Age followed, and lasted almost 1900 years. During that time, God reached out to the Gentiles. After the Six-day War, Israel again became center-stage with the Lord. The Gentiles, including the Church, are now running on inertia.

The Aftermath
I witnessed changes that immediately followed the Six-day war. The sidewalks used to be rolled up on Saturday at 6pm—that changed! Extended hours, for many, morphed into a 24/7 arrangement. Civility was replaced by vulgarity. People became more self-centered. It was dramatic. Since then, lots of bad things have happened. Like abortion, corruption in government, Islamic terrorism, and shootings! In this paper, I report these things, but my focus is on the loss of male leadership and authority.

God said: “He shall rule over thee.” (Genesis 3:16b)

We cannot violate God’s law without consequence.

Eliminating Male/Female Roles
There was a time when certain jobs were considered masculine, while other jobs were feminine. Once I could open the newspaper to the classified section and find:

  • Employment: Male
  • Employment: Female

Presidents, lawyers, judges, doctors and carpenters were men. Homemakers, Nurses, flight attendants, waitresses and secretaries were women. It was in education that sameness or “egalitarianism” took off like a rocket.


  1. My high school, Wilbur Wright Vocational, was all male.
  2. I attended General Motors Institute, an all male college.
  3. I got my masters in 1963 from Rensselaer, which was all male.

In each case, there was a corresponding educational facility for women. Since 1967, everything has gone co-educational, and that includes Israel. The result: Men no longer rule. In a feminized society, feelings are more important than truth. One can lie, cheat, or steal, but he can’t offend.

The 1967 Six-Day War
I watched a documentary that ran 1hr & 53min. The sheer numbers and military might of the Arabs threatened Israel with annihilation. Leadership was critical, and Levi Eshkol was weak and indecisive. But when Moshe Dayan became defense minister, the IAF launched a pre-emptive attack that led to victory in only 6 days.

The commanders and combat soldiers were all men. Women are drafted, and serve in the support role. That was true before and after the Six-Day War.

The Blasphemy

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27)

We were created in the image of God. The male reflects God’s authoritative side, while the female reflects the Lord’s nurturing side. To deny male/female differences is blasphemy.

For thousands of years, everyone accepted the fact that men and women are different. But suddenly the entire Western World, including most Israelis and Christians, decided that men and women are interchangeable.

“Egalitarianism” is blasphemy. The following passages fit like a glove:

19 And we know that we are of God, and the whole world lieth in wickedness.

21 Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen. (1 John 5:19,21)

Verse 19 refers to God’s people and the wicked. Verse 21 warns God’s people to beware of idols, e.g. “egalitarianism.”

Women In Government
By God’s design: a man’s role is to govern; a woman’s role is to nurture and support her husband. But our Judeo-Christian Faith is dynamic. Women have acted as head-of-state, and done a marvelous job. (A suitable female governor will always think like a man.) Examples include Golda Meir and Margaret Thatcher. Deborah was a judge in Israel. Seldom does a Deborah, a Golda Meir, or Margaret Thatcher come along, but when it happens, her governance is outstanding. Still, we cannot take the exception and make it the rule.

A Republic
America was founded on Christian principles, taken directly from family government. The husband is the family representative. At the polls, men would elect federal, state, and local representatives. According to Scripture, a woman’s place is in the support role. For that reason, women didn’t vote.

In today’s world, what should a woman do? She and her husband should talk it over, he should decide, and then they should vote the same way.

Representative government is still in effect today in our Republic, and in any successful business. I manage my air conditioning company, while my men are in the support role—they do most of the work!

God designed male/female roles; they are as perpetual as gravity. In the absence of clearly defined masculine and feminine roles, people don’t get along. “Egalitarianism” has pretty much abolished the hierarchical structure in the home. Many families are in shambles—should we be surprised? Now let’s see what happened in church.


First and foremost, the Gospel is objective truth. When women preach, they will do so from a feminine prospective. Their subjectivity will always lead into some form of idolatry, e.g. “egalitarianism.”

Besides that, when a woman tries to do a man’s job, she will neglect her duties. Besides her duties at home, a woman’s legitimate sphere of influence is to teach children, and to teach other women to be biblical wives.

In today’s world, children desperately need to be taught, and independent wives need to be corrected. Women like Debi Pearl, Candice Cameron Bure, and Patricia Lassiter are teaching younger women to be biblical wives. They’re also teaching children, and they’re doing a fabulous job.

“Egalitarianism” In Church
Later, I’ll address how politics has advanced “egalitarianism,” but first we need to see what happened in a church. The so-called Azusa Street Revival started April 9, 1906 in Los Angeles. It was a Trojan Horse, that brought “egalitarianism” into the lives of millions of Christians.

There were no racial, ethnic, or gender distinctions. A most serious error was the lack of gender distinction that continues to this day. Women like Lucy Farrow, Neely Terri, and Julia Hutchins were already in the ministry when William J. Seymour arrived; he became the leader. He was the 34-year-old son of  freed slaves. It was a re-enactment of Acts 2:1-4.

1 And when the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were all with one accord in one place.

And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting.

And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them.

And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance. (Acts 2:1-4)

My Assessment
In the Bible, Jesus fed the 5,000, walked on water, raised the dead, and opened the eyes of the blind. These signs authenticated His Messianic credentials. Jesus was seeking a relationship, but most men only wanted the “stuff.”

At Azusa Street, they were seeking to replicate the supernatural signs. That was their first error. Their “egalitarian” approach was the second.

They spoke in tongues, and there were healings. People were “slain in the spirit,” and received private revelations. Their theology was flawed, and they strayed from Scriptural Absolutes. Still, they have spread their doctrine, reaching 600M people worldwide.

Subjective feelings became more important than objective truth. Women were believed to be interchangeable with men—in the church and in the home! Pentecostal, Assemblies of God, and Four Square are denominations that were spawned. Independent Charismatic churches abound to this day.

The following link gives a glowing 44-minute account. I watched it in its entirety, but my advice is: “Don’t waste your time.” They’re proud of what they call a revival.

But the documentary says nothing about the demise of the Azusa Street Revival that happened 3-6 years after it began. The quotation below was written by J.D. King 4/11/16 for “Charisma” magazine.

While there is no denying that the flames of revival quickly spread around the world, impacting untold thousands, it had certainly ended in Los Angeles by 1912.

The Azusa Street Christians had terrible relational skills. That is the logical consequence of their “egalitarian” lifestyle. Read the article.

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On June 17, 1934, Myrtle Beall opened a storefront facility in Detroit—Bethesda Tabernacle! The Assemblies of God had ordained her. Bethesda became the flagship for what was called the Latter Rain Movement of 1948. But the Assemblies of God didn’t approve, so Bethesda pulled out of the AG, and became an independent non-denominational church.

Early in 1942, my parents moved from Kentucky to Detroit for the war effort. By then, Bethesda had constructed a basement building with seating for 500-600. We were considered founders of the church. In 1945, after the war, Dad returned to Kentucky, where he failed as a farmer.

August 1948, when I was nine, my parents returned to Detroit and Bethesda. I stayed in the church until I was 27. In 1949, Bethesda Tabernacle became Bethesda Missionary Temple. The Latter Rain revival took off. They had services six days a week for 3.5 years. People from around the world flocked to the revival, but it was primarily a white church. We sent missionaries to Nigeria, but only later were blacks received as members.

Myrtle Beall, the founder, was a convert from Catholicism. She ran things as if she were the Pope. Then her son, James became Pope. The next was Analee Dunn, Sister Beall’s granddaughter. Patrick Visger became pastor, June 12, 2016. After three generations, the pastorate is no longer in the hands of the Beall family. It will be interesting to see how the new management affects the future of Bethesda.

What I saw was a lot of posturing. The church was run by the Bealls, and for the Bealls. It was about power and money. The pastor’s salary and benefits were a closely guarded secret. There were elders, but according to Frank H. they were just figureheads. For all the pomp and ceremony, relationships were absent.

Harold B. had a complaint, and went to see Pastor James Beall. He was told to go down the street to the Baptist Church, where the people run things. “Here, we run the church,” is what Brother Jim told Harold.

The link that follows is an online account of a church that has continued for 80 years and seems to still be going strong.

The account was obviously written by church administrators. The Azusa Street Revival fizzled after six years, while Bethesda continues. Why? Azusa Street had no clear authority structure. At Bethesda, family and other carefully selected managers “rode herd” on church members. Like Azusa, relationships were terrible, but dissent was not allowed. “Here, we run the church,” is what Brother Jim told Harold.

C. Russell Yates
“Egalitarianism” always leads to female domination—in the church or at home! Women and subservient men were in charge at Bethesda. The same was true for my home. By the time I was 28, I was thoroughly disenfranchised—non-relational! In Chapter 14, I’ll explain what it took for me to recover my lost manhood.

So what kind of people does a charismatic church like Bethesda attract? My mother was a controlling woman, and my father was an emasculated man. Dad complained at home, but Mom said he shouldn’t criticize God’s anointed. The church exuded an exclusivity that made it difficult to break free. Only when I associated with Baptists did I begin to learn how to relate.

The Missing Piece
So what was wrong at Azusa? At Bethesda? In my parents’ home? They didn’t really love God, and they didn’t really love one another. I was an unloved child. The difference between male and female was built into our DNA at Creation.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27)

Until a woman submits to her feminine calling, she cannot love. Until a man submits to his masculine calling, he cannot love. They cannot love God, they can’t love one another, and they can’t love their children. As Elisabeth Elliot wrote in Let Me Be A Woman:

But the roles are not assigned on the basis of capability. They were determined at the beginning of Creation to be a man’s role and a woman’s role and again, we are not free to experiment, tamper with, or exchange them.

Clearly defined male/female roles are foundational to faith and godliness. “Egalitarianism” makes true faith and real relationships impossible.

What Spirit?
I’m a serious man of God, who has seen the Charismatic movement from inside and outside. I don’t trust the spiritual experiences of self-centered people.

Men, who were moved by the Holy Spirit, wrote the Bible. But when Satan was cast down, he took with him a cloud of evil spirits. I’ve watched modern Charismatics be “slain in the spirit.” Someone is there to catch them, so they don’t get hurt. Some fall without a catcher, and don’t get hurt. Even when people get healed, I question the source of the healing. So much of what goes on reminds me of a Shakespearean play. For a demonstration, click on the link.


In my AC business I worked for a fortune-teller, who calls herself Jessica Davis. I was friendly with Jessica, as I am with all my customers. It had been a long time, but I ran into her at Schlotzkys—she was with a lady friend!

“Why don’t you stop and see me?” asked Jessica. I replied, “I pass your place on my way to church, but I can’t get into that witchcraft stuff.” Her friend was beside herself with laughter. Jessica looked up and said, “You got me!”

Most true prophets are men, while most fortune-tellers are women. The latter operate outside a Christian framework, so they’re dangerous. In ancient Israel, it was always women who led the men into idolatry. This feminine tendency demands that a woman should voluntarily submit to the authority of her husband.

On July 20, 1969, Americans landed on the moon. Six hours later, Neil Armstrong was the first to set foot on the lunar surface. It was an entirely masculine mission. That was almost 50 years ago.

The Martian is a movie that came across to me as an “egalitarian” promo. I was more interested in the inclusive cast, than I was in the plot. During a manned mission to Mars, a male astronaut was left stranded.

There appeared to be no hope for his rescue, but a massive effort was mounted. Finally, he was rescued, and I couldn’t quit laughing. His rescuer was a woman. It reminded me of a comment I made last week, “I’m lost in another man’s kitchen.”

In Western society, “egalitarianism” is seen as progressive. It’s been tried over 100 years, but it hasn’t worked,  can’t work, won’t work, and never will work. That’s why I use quotation marks around the word “egalitarian.”

“Egalitarianism” is Western Civilization’s grand attempt to make the unworkable work—C. Russell Yates 

This is just part of the end-times deception that permeates our world. Tragically, many Christians have signed on.

Now I have a question: If everyone in the Western World believes in “egalitarianism,” but God declares it to be wrong, is everyone right or is God right?

For what if some did not believe? shall their unbelief make the faith of God without effect?

God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar. (Romans 3:3-4a)

In Genesis 1:27 and 5:2 God declares that He created them male and female. Then throughout the New Testament, the Lord gives different instructions to men than He gives to women.

It looks like God doesn’t believe in “egalitarianism.” So who’s right—God or men?

Our Testimony
In her 1897 book, Woman and the Republic, p.48, Helen Kendrick Johnson writes the following:

The relation of woman to the Republic is a study worthy of the most exalted patriotism. In it is involved the broader question of her relation to man and to the destiny of the race. When told of her son’s heroism in crossing the Delaware, Mary Washington said, “George will not forget the lessons I taught him.” Through the mother’s devoted faith, and the son’s obedient power, the foundations were laid of a government whose sole reliance must still be on a woman’s inspiration and a man’s willing strength.

My wife and I were married almost 47 years. For 32 years we argued incessantly, and every argument was an insult to my manhood. As an act of obedience to the Lord I stayed with the marriage. In April of 2002, overnight, Theresa became an inspiring wife—no more arguments!  She continued that way until her death May 30, 2017.

In January of 2011, Theresa entered the mild stage of Alzheimer’s. I was with her through the moderate and severe stages, but she was always an inspiration. She was the inspiration behind the writing of this paper. She is now with the Lord, but she is still my inspiration.

By the grace of God, we were able to turn a really bad “equality” marriage into a heavenly biblical one. This 230-page paper is our testimony. By example and by word, I encourage men to love their wives, and shepherd their families in a god-fearing way. This is my tribute to a truly godly wife.

In Memory Of
Theresa Marie Carucci Yates
April 6, 1936 – May 30, 2017


Go to the upper tool bar. A click on Appendix B will let you hear Theresa sing and play: “He Was Wounded for Our Transgressions” is from her worship CD — a beautiful 3.5 minutes, making a joyful noise unto the Lord! On Appendix B, you can also read the eulogy I gave at my wife’s memorial service—45 minutes!

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Chapter 1, Relationships & Kingdoms

The Creator of life has set the rules for life. People who respect the rules have a joyful earthly life; they also have eternal life.

According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue:

Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust. (2 Peter 1:3-4, emphasis added)

“All things that pertain unto life and godliness,” are in the Bible; that includes when and where we’re to compromise.

When it comes to relationships, compromise takes the form of submission because it is rooted in lines of authority.

Godly Submission
Submission is a Choice; in the West, it has gotten a bad name partly because we have had such poor leadership. But that begs the question: Who is our ultimate authority? Before we submit to another human being, we must first submit to God. In Scripture, there are different calls to submission. Let’s examine them one by one.

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. (Ephesians 5:21)

Ephesians 5:21 is a general call to compromise:

  • In a friendship.
  • In a business dealing.
  • In a family situation.

Our relationships are to be friendly rather than adversarial: “If it is possible, a much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” (Romans 12:18)

The next call to submission is unpopular in many Christian circles.

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. (Ephesians 5:22-24)

Ephesians 5:22-24 identifies the husband as the family authority and commands the wife to accept his authority. The text is so affirmative that we can rightly infer: A wife who refuses the authority of her husband is refusing the authority of Christ. Pretty serious! “As unto the Lord,” means submission to a husband is the same as submission to the Lord.

People who are in submission to the Lord are on their way to heaven. People who fail to submit are in need of correction. This submission business goes far beyond that of human interactions. The next call to submission is even more rigorous that the first two I have given.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Ephesians 5:25)

So how did Christ love the Church? He submitted to the Cross. He gave his life for his lost Bride. In obedience to the Lord, a man must lay down his life for his wife.

That’s how I loved my now deceased wife. This paper tells my story, but let me interject this: Before a wife can receive true love from her husband, she must first be in submission to him. I speak from experience.

My next reference is a call to obedience rather than a call to submission.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. (Ephesians 6:1)

Immature children cannot be asked to be submissive, but they can be expected to obey. So what remedy does Scripture offer to insure obedience from Children?

15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. (Proverbs 22:15)

13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. (Proverb 23:13)

Submission is for adults, while obedience is for children. So what are we to make of the next passage where it says women are to be obedient unto their own husbands?

That they [the older women] may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:4-5, emphasis added)

Obedience of a wife to a husband is never an Absolute. A submissive wife will generally be obedient. (Later I give an absurd example where a submissive wife had to disobey her husband.) Now let me wrap this up with the following passage that says a wife should reverence her husband.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)

In obedience to the Lord, a submissive wife will honor her husband’s God-given place of authority. Her submissive attitude will be one of reverence. She will be cooperative rather than argumentative. As the “Submissive Wives,” in chapter 3 say, “She will not resist her husband’s will.”

A Summary Statement
About 50 years ago I heard a woman, on TV, say the following:

What a woman wants is love.
What a man wants is cooperation.

Her words were social, rather than biblical, but she expressed in down-to-earth language the Scriptural mandate:

  • Love your wife!
  • Submit to your husband!

Islamic Submission
By definition, Islam means submission, but what they really want is robotic obedience—that is for the weak! Strong people submit to Almighty God and to His word.

I repeat: Throughout this paper, submission means obedience to God and obedience to His Word. This chapter lays the groundwork for marital success over marital conflict.

It comes natural for people to seek to control other people—that is the opposite of freedom! America has enjoyed the greatest freedom of all nations because of our Judeo-Christian heritage. God compels no one; He passes that freedom on to every serious Believer.

Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty. (2 Corinthians 3:17)

Most people want to be free, but they don’t want freedom for others. Throughout history males have sought to subdue, conquer, and dominate; they do that by brute force. Women seek to control by manipulation.

Earthly Kingdoms
Earthly kingdoms all compromise the truth. As shown by Walid Shoebat in his book, Jihad By The Word, Muslims have made a science of deception.

In contrast, kingdoms based on Scripture are founded on truth. Ultimately, liars and their kingdoms will fail. But even for malevolent kingdoms, God is still in control.

20 Daniel answered and said, Blessed be the name of God for ever and ever: for wisdom and might are his:

21 And he changeth the times and the seasons: he removeth kings, and setteth up kings. (Daniel 2:20-21a, emphasis added)

In 1924, the Ottoman Empire was defeated. It was the work of men as directed by God. The League of Nations then partitioned the landmass into the present countries of the Middle East. That prepared the way (as prophesied in Scripture) for the restoration of Israel in 1948.

Men have always been at war. History records one attempt to conquer after another. Relationship has been pretty much non-existent. Mohammed laid the groundwork for an Islamic kingdom; it appeared to be dead in 1924, when the Caliphate was abolished, but is now being resurrected.

And I saw one of his heads [the Caliphate] as it were wounded to death; and his deadly wound was healed: and all the world wondered after the beast. (Revelation 13:3)

There are six earthly kingdoms that appeared while the Bible was still being written. The seventh kingdom will be the final one before the Kingdom of God replaces the kingdoms of men.

  1. Egypt, 1600-1200BC
  2. Assyria, 900-607BC
  3. Babylon, 606-536BC
  4. Medo-Persia, 536-336BC
  5. Greece, 332-126BC
  6. Rome, 146BC-476AD
  7. The Islamic Ottoman Empire, 1301-1924AD

None of these seven kingdoms has been benevolent. (They were all takers.) Since Mohammed (570-632AD), Islam has always been an aggressive, conquering force. They take what belongs to others, and unless you convert, they’ll take your head. Jihad is their mantra, and terror is their modus operandi.

Muslim world population now stands at 1.6B, and they have a prolific birthrate. Islam has an endless supply of young men who are eager to die for the cause. “Who is able to make war with [the beast]?” (Revelation 13:4b)

When a terrorist is captured, the result is expensive litigation and incarceration. That further weakens Western Civilization, but does nothing to slow Islamic encroachment.

The book of Revelation foretells the coming Antichrist. We had always thought he would come from a revived Roman Empire. I’m now convinced he’ll come from a revived Islamic Empire.

So how did I come to that conclusion? Current events, and a book entitled, God’s War On Terror, by a former PLO terrorist. Walid Shoebat knows both the Koran and the Bible. I’m convinced he has been sent of the Lord for our benefit; that we might be saved from the wrath to come. (I’m writing this paper for the same reason.)

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: (Hosea 4:6a)

The Lies of The Left
The seven kingdoms I described above were all built on brute masculine strength. The Left including Democrats, Progressives, and Socialists is political. They substitute deception for brute strength. Their weapons are words. The news media, public education, and higher education are on their side. In addition, multitudes of women and feminized males are on the Left.

After eight years of Obama, the Left saw victory ahead. They were confident Hillary Clinton would win. In the providence of the Lord, Donald Trump won. And what might that purpose be? First, to advance the restoration of God’s Kingdom in Israel, and then to protect what is left of Christian America.

Wannabe Kingdoms
Communism, Nazism, and Socialism are no less kingdom builders, but they haven’t succeeded like the major Kingdoms I mentioned earlier.  Still their goal has been power and control. They want to conquer, rule, and confiscate the wealth of others.

Democrats lost America’s first Civil War because they enslaved Black people. Democrats are going to lose America’s second Civil War because they attempted to enslave everyone else—Dusty Thompson​

Blacks and Jews have this in common: They were once slaves. Yet both Blacks and American Jews consistently vote for those who would enslave them again.

As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly. (Proverbs 26:11)

The Kingdom Of The Woman
From the Egyptian Kingdom to the Islamic Ottoman Empire we find a significant commonality: Men commanded the kingdoms, and their soldiers were men. It was only recently that women have become commanders and soldiers. Two questions:

  1. Could there be a difference between men and women?
  2. Why are women now assuming what has traditionally been a masculine role?

Clearly women are different from men, but they’re no less sinful than men. Men are more aggressive, while women manipulate. Women have always led men into idolatry, but their ability to control has been severely limited until now.

Only since Women’s Suffrage (1920), have women been empowered to “run the show”—first at home, then in government! Their children are pawns of the Left.

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A Political Fit
For centuries, brute masculine strength prevailed—the men ruled! That was a natural fit. Since Women’s Suffrage, women have increasingly gained power over men because of governmental policies. That is a political fit.

The Left has  a feelings-driven feminine agenda that threatens American freedom as it has never been threatened before. Here’s a quotation from a missive wrongly attributed to Franklin Graham, but written by someone else.

The American dream ended on November 6th, 2012.  The second term of Barack Obama has been the final nail in the coffin for the legacy of the white Christian males who discovered, explored, pioneered, settled and developed the greatest republic in the history of mankind.

A coalition of blacks, Latinos, feminists, gays, union members, environmental extremists, the media, Hollywood, uninformed young people, the “forever needy,” the chronically unemployed, illegal aliens and other “fellow travelers” have ended Norman Rockwell’s America.

You will never again out-vote these people.

By some miracle, we did out-vote these people—one more time—when we elected Donald Trump. Four years from now, there’ll be another batch of young Leftists of voting age. Trump must not assume that he can out-vote them again. I hope against hope that we’ll win, but that’s not what I see for the future. Judgment Day may be closer than we think.

The New Fascists

According to Dinesh D’Souza, in classical Fascism, the government owns businesses. In the new Fascism, ownership is private, but government tells the owner how to run his business. The new Fascists are from the Left—Democrats, Progressives, or Socialists. Click on the 5-minute video for a comprehensive view of the new fascism.

America is no longer the land of the free. Despite the election of Trump, the new Fascists rule the land. Government has replaced God. From the Supreme Court down, Left-leaning judges are still in place, along with the regulatory agencies and the IRS. The result is oppression.

At best, they have a hazy grasp of reality, but they love to regulate and control. Hey! In Socialist Germany, they tell retailers when to close their stores.

In my AC business I deal with the Texas Department of Licensing & Regulation (TDLR), College Station Department of Planning and Development Services, and The Texas Workforce Commission. All of these regulatory agencies are the logical product of a feminized society—one size fits all!

These “public servants” are anything but servants. Increasingly, bureaucrats make decisions that should be made by citizens and contractors. They go by Rules, Regulations, & Procedures.

As a graduate Mechanical Engineer, I was trained to actually think when I work. As an Engineering Professor (1976-1988) I trained others to apply their thinking. The regulatory agencies, I just mentioned, have a one-size-fits-all agenda. One after another, I must “jump through their hoops.” Whether it makes sense or not! Let me give some examples:

College Station Dept of Planning & Development

  1. In our part of the world, a heat pump is a gross misapplication. Yet, in the absence of gas heat, the heat pump is required.
  2. Some people want a programmable thermostat, but others don’t. Everyone has to have one.
  3. Decades ago, with single wall vent pipes, the pipe was not allowed to touch a combustible surface. Now the pipe hardly gets warm and certainly not hot. But—you guessed it—the old code still prevails.
  4. In the ghetto, kids have been known to sniff Freon. Now we must install locking caps, even in respectable neighborhoods.
  5. An air conditioner generates about 4 gals of condensate in 24 hours. The best place to put the water is on the lawn, but that’s not allowed. (Water coming through the ceiling is common. My younger brother suffered a $60,000 loss because of a condensate overflow.)

Texas Department of Licensing & Regulation (TDLR)
In the AC industry, we are regulated by federal, state, and local agencies. The most oppressive, by far, is the state agency. The TDLR has most small businesses under its thumb.

For about 100 years, Texas was a Democrat State. In 1994, George W. Bush, a Republican, defeated Ann Richards, an incumbent Democrat. For the past 23 years, Texas has been a Republican state. We have some unfinished business. The TDLR began operating in 1986 under a Democrat regime, that of Mark White.

The TDLR should be abolished. We don’t need to be regulated beyond the local level. The TDLR is as corrupt as the Democrat party, itself. It gives Democrats something to do, and makes them feel important. But it contributes nothing to the well being of our people or the economy of Texas. They waste our time and our money. Every time a goofy customer has a complaint, they take his sideno matter what! Logic means nothing to them. Truth is whatever serves their purposes.

By law, I have to be licensed to practice air conditioning. My relationship with the regulatory agencies is depicted in the following proverb:

We the unwilling,
Led by the unknowing,
Are doing the impossible,
For the ungrateful.

We’ve done so much,
For so long, with so little,
We are now qualified,
To do anything with nothing.

Common Sense
As in any government bureaucracy, there is NO common sense in the TDLR. It’s all Rules, Regulations, and Procedures! I replaced an AC system for Arthur H. He complained to the licensing agency. I wouldn’t dance to their tune, and they fined me $9,000. I paid that fine 6/4/18. I had already lost $6500 to Art. That brought my total losses for a single job to $15,500. Wow!

These are the new Fascists. Control freaks! Oppressive micro-managers! They want to tell me how to run my business, and how to do each job. But what if their advice doesn’t work? Their website disclaimer clearly states that they take no responsibility. If I do things their way, that means:

  • They have the authority, but take no responsibility.
  • I’m responsible, but have no authority.

The land of the free is now the land of the oppressed. I just gave two AC examples. Now for a look at healthcare. An Engineer Explains “Obamacare” In Four Sentences.

Here are the 10,535 pages of Obamacare condensed to 4 simple sentences.  As humorous as it sounds, every last word is absolutely TRUE!

  1. In order to insure the uninsured, we first have to un-insure the insured.
  2. Next, we require the newly un-insured to be re-insured.
  3. To re-insure the newly un-insured, they are required to pay extra charges to be re-insured.
  4. The extra charges are required so that the original insured, who became un-insured, and then became re-insured, can pay enough extra so that the original un-insured can be insured, so it will be ‘free-of-charge’ to them.

This, ladies and gentlemen, is called “redistribution of wealth,” or by its more common name: “Socialism” or “Progressivism,” the politically correct names for COMMUNISM!

Freedom That Never Was
The Middle East has never known freedom. Multitudes of homes, run by “Jezebel” women, like my mother, have never known freedom. There is very little freedom left—anywhere! But when Christ returns that will change.

The Kingdom Of God
God’s Kingdom is one where people don’t oppress one another. A building block for this non-oppressive kingdom is the biblical marriage and home. The parameters are clearly laid out in Scripture.

  • Love your wife.
  • Submit to your husband.
  • Obey your parents.

Christians, who live by the marital rules, will inhabit the larger Kingdom of God.

In Daniel Chapter 2, King Nebuchadnezzar had a dream in which he saw an image. Daniel gave the interpretation:

  • The head of gold represented the Babylonian Kingdom.
  • The breast and arms of silver stood for Medo-Persia.
  • The belly and thighs of brass were for Greece.
  • The legs of iron and feet of iron mixed with clay foretold the Roman Empire.

Then Daniel spoke the following words to the king:

34 Thou sawest till that a stone was cut out without hands, which smote the image upon his feet that were of iron and clay, and brake them to pieces.

35 Then was the iron, the clay, the brass, the silver, and the gold, broken to pieces together, and became like the chaff of the summer threshingfloors; and the wind carried them away, that no place was found for them: and the stone that smote the image became a great mountain, and filled the whole earth. (Daniel 2:34-35)

The stone that filled the whole earth is the Kingdom of God. Every earthly kingdom will be gone.

At last the words of the heavenly hosts will be fulfilled, “On earth peace, good will toward men,” (Luke 2:14b). Conflict will be over! Done! Finished!

In the meantime, you’re still on this earth, but you can have peace with God and peace in your home. That’s why I wrote this paper.

Only God’s people will be citizens of God’s Kingdom. Everyone is invited, but few will accept. First, let me describe the human condition and what God has provided for you.

Born Bad

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? (Jeremiah 17:9)

Just how wicked can a man be? The Muslims want another holocaust—that’s pretty wicked! Jesus said, “You must be born again.” He was talking to a Jew, but it also applies to a Muslim who repents. Walid Shoebat was a PLO terrorist; he now loves Jews.

God Created man for relationship, and submission is the basic requirement. Submission is the acceptance and respect for God-ordained authority, but it’s much more than that. In God’s economy, submission is required to meet the need of someone else. That’s what God has done for us.

For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.

For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die.

But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:6-8)

The most quoted passage in Christian circles is John 3:16. God has clearly submitted to our need.

16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. (John 3:16-17)

And what can be said for Jesus? In John 4:34, John 8:29, and Luke 22:42, Jesus declares himself to be in submission to His Father. His ultimate act of submission took place at Calvary as told in John Chapters 18-19.

And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. (Philipians 2:8)

In unmistakable terms, God has submitted to our need. Jesus paid the awful price on the Cross: “His visage was so marred more than any man, and his form more than the sons of men:” (Isaiah 52:14b)

God the Father and God the Son have shown us the way to relationship—submission! That word has been so denigrated that my wife once called it a dirty word. In today’s “egalitarian” world, independence is glorified. Self-centered Christians have conformed to the world.

The way of transgressors is hard. (Proverbs 13:15b)

God tells a woman to submit to the authority of her husband. He tells a man to submit to the need of his wife. Men and women who live to please the Lord will do that.

Called To Submission
The ultimate in submission was when Jesus went to the Cross—He showed us the way! To have a good marriage without changing wives requires submission from both husband and wife.

Each Christian is called to be a saint, and relationship is the goal. So what does a biblical saint look like?

  • He has repented of his rebellion toward God.
  • He has submitted to the Lordship of Christ.
  • He has been born-again.
  • He lives to please the Lord.
  • He is an overcomer, rather than worldly.
  • He loves others as he loves himself.
  • He especially loves and honors his wife.
  • He lives to serve others—especially his wife and kids!
  • For his family, he is the shepherd and the benevolent authority.
  • He’s humble, and accepts correction.
  • When it comes to Absolutes, he stands like a rock.
  • When it comes to Choices, he compromises to the glory of God.
  • He is kind, thoughtful, helpful, and hard working.

Disobedient Christians
Worldly people are takers. Faithful Christians are givers. Jesus said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” (Acts 20:35b). Unfortunately, many Christians are:

  • Takers, rather than givers.
  • Self-centered.
  • Lousy students of the Bible.
  • Disobedient to the Word.
  • Worldly

They love the praises of men more than the praises of God. I could go on and on, but suffice it to say that many Believers will undergo some serious correction before they are ready for the Kingdom of God. This paper will provide needed information to minimize the suffering.

Each of us is born into a family. That’s where the correction must start. Let me say it again: Correction must start between husband and wife.

Years ago, Theresa said, “Submission is a dirty word.” Like many people, she didn’t understand the meaning of the word. The Lord gave her an attitude adjustment. Once she understood, our bad marriage was transformed. I’ve already talked about the humility of God, but I add this P.S.

Art Katz once preached a sermon entitled, “The Humility of God.” If God is humble, is it too much to expect humility from people? A contrasting sermon could be entitled, “The rebellion of Satan.” If Satan is rebellious, what can be said for those who follow his example?

The humble will make their home in heaven. I beg of Christians: Don’t emulate the ways of the world.

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Chapter 2, Understanding God

He made known his ways unto Moses, his acts unto the children of Israel (Psalms103:7).


The Eternal People
Jerusalem is the eternal city, and the Jews are the eternal people. Gentiles like Rahab, Ruth, and Christian Believers are adopted into Israel. All other people groups have either disappeared through intermarriage or will eventually disappear into the flames of hell.

From the beginning, eternity was planted into the hearts of God’s people. The Kinsman-Redeemer was a uniquely Jewish concept that is described in Deuteronomy 25:5-6. The land and the family line would be perpetuated through succeeding generations.

If a man died without having a son, his brother or Kinsman would marry his widow, and raise up seed to the dead. That’s what Boaz did for Mahlon, the deceased husband of Ruth. Still, in the Messianic Line (Matthew 1:5), the name Boaz is there rather than Mahlon.

The Lord Chooses
The Lord called Abraham from a pagan culture. Since then God continues to make choices that defy human understanding. We honor the Lord when we honor His choices.

God’s Sovereign choice, from the beginning, has been for male headship. For over a hundred years, the Western World has dishonored the Lord in that matter. There’s a dreadful price to be paid—for now and forever!

The bloodline was traced through the men, so the Kinsman-Redeemer did not apply to deceased women. Repeatedly, God declares himself to be the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob (Israel)—that was the start of the Messianic Line. But Jacob had 12 sons. Who would continue the line? Judah was chosen. In Scripture, I find only two Kinsman-Redeemer stories. Both are in the Messianic Line.

Judah and Tamar
These people did everything wrong. In Genesis 38:2, Judah married a pagan Gentile named Shuah. She bore him three sons: Er, Onan, and Shelah. Judah took a wife for Er; her name was Tamar. Er was wicked, and God slew him.

Er was wicked, but Onan was still expected to raise up seed to his brother. Instead, Onan spilled his seed on the ground. The Lord was displeased, and slew him as well.

The rest of the story is told in Genesis 38:11-30. Shelah was never given to Tamar. Instead, Judah had sex with his daughter in law. Their child was Perez, who became 5th in the Messianic Line. And what are we to learn from this story?

God has established male headship as Absolute—even when the men are NOT righteous! And how is a wife to respond? The answer is given in the New Testament. According to 1 Peter 3:1-7, a righteous wife can win her husband to the Lord by the simple act of submission. Unfortunately, Judah’s wife was NOT righteous.

Boaz and Ruth
In the book of Ruth, they did everything right.  Because of a famine, Elimelech took his family to Moab. There, Elimelech died, and their two sons married Moabite women—Orpah and Ruth! Then the two men died. The famine in Israel had lifted, so Naomi headed home. Ruth went with her.

These were needy women. Boaz was a wealthy relative of Elimelech. Furthermore, he was a righteous man who honored his Kinsman-Redeemer obligation. He provided food for Naomi and Ruth, and then joyfully took Ruth to be his wife.

Ruth gave birth to Obed, who became the father of Jesse, who became the father of David. In God’s economy, a man is always the head of his house. In Scripture, that is repeatedly affirmed. The Prophets and the Apostles wrote the Bible. They were all men.

Interpreting The Genealogy
Why are male/female roles different? The woman has to do with beginnings that shape the future. The man gives it direction, and holds it together. To have it any other way is like one hand clapping. It should be obvious that men and women are equally important, but different.

There’s a reason why a wife takes her husband’s name. Starting with Luke 3:23, the genealogy of Christ is traced backward to Adam. Only the names of the fathers are given. Starting with Matthew 1:1, the genealogy of Christ is given forward from Abraham.

So all the generations from Abraham to David are fourteen generations; and from David until the carrying away into Babylon are fourteen generations; and from the carrying away into Babylon unto Christ are fourteen generations. (Matthew 1:17)

Again, the trace is through the males. The genealogies are a foundational statement of male headship, authority, leadership, and responsibility.

Only in Matthew are certain women identified; that is to highlight special relationships and the offspring of those relationships. The nine men are included in the Messianic Line.

  • Judah had sex with his daughter in law, Tamar. Their son was Perez.
  • Salmon married Rahab, a former pagan prostitute. Boaz was their son.
  • Boaz married Ruth, who was a Moabitess. Obed was their son. Obed begat Jesse, and Jesse begat David.
  • David had committed adultery with Bathsheba, who had been the wife of Uriah. Solomon was their son.

Our Lord is a God of love, mercy, forgiveness and redemption.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)

Matthew’s genealogy shows that God accepted the righteous and the not-so-righteous into the Messianic Line. Victor Delgado is my computer specialist. His comments follow:

I really like the “Genealogy” section…it re-enforces the patriarchal tracing of the Christ…it shows purposeful male headship – not accidental – that headship is traced THROUGH men…and that headship doesn’t require the man to be “perfect.” He still has headship. It also shows that women play an important role in the Christ – and fallible women as well as honorable women.

The Prophetic Calling
This online publication is free. I’ve put in countless hours, and paid all expenses. This is my act of service. To declare truth that people need to hear is prophetic. 

The Lord seldom works independently of men. The Prophets, the Apostles, and all godly men are God’s representatives. We are Sons of God, and we’re partakers of the Divine Nature. Let’s take a look at the prophetic calling.

Surely the Lord will do nothing, but he revealeth his secret unto his servants the prophets. (Amos 3:7)

Jesus was the ultimate prophet, and they rejected Him.

37 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not!

38 Behold, your house is left unto you desolate. (Matthew 23:37-38, emphasis added)

(Jesus words to the Jews, “Because thou knewest not the time of thy visitation.” [Luke 19:44b] could rightly be applied to the modern Church.)

There’s a price to be paid: The Jews were scattered to the ends of the earth, and persecuted for 1900 years. In Ezekiel Chapter 37, the prophet foresees the dry bones of Israel, and prophesies the coming restoration. (Israel was re-born May 14, 1948.)

We Christians should learn from the mistakes of the Jews.

Relationship, Not Religion
The Christian faith is first and foremost a relationship. In Scripture, we find the Ten Commandments, and lots of rules and ordinances. These are principles upon which we build our lives. Some of the rules and regulations are Absolute, e.g. “You must be born again,” and “I am the way the truth and the life; no man cometh to the Father but by me.” For Absolutes, there is no room for negotiation.

God has already judged the Absolutes, but we tend to judge one another in matters of conscience. The following passages tell us to respect others.

Judge not, that ye be not judged. (Matthew 7:1)

Who art thou that judgest another man’s servant? (Romans 14:4a)

But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ. (Romans 14:10)

Intelligent Submission
We were created in the image of God, and given intelligence that God expects us to use. In my eulogy, I referred to intelligent submission. We start with two basic Absolutes.

  • God is God, and you aren’t God; He has rightful authority over every man.
  • The husband is God’s appointed head-the-house; he has authority over his wife and children.

In that context, every man and every wife has much freedom. As the Holy Spirit guides, we can apply Scripture, and do so to the glory of God.

Moses received the Ten Commandments from the Lord. From the King James Version, the 6th Commandment says, “Thou Shalt Not Kill.” From the Hebrew and most modern versions this is interpreted as, “Thou Shalt Not Murder.” The 6th commandment is an Absolute.

In Genesis Chapter 4, Cain murdered his brother Abel, and was punished severely. Later in Exodus 24:17, Capital Punishment was established: “And he that killeth [murders] any man shall surely be put to death.” Please note the distinction:

  • Thou shalt not murder is an Absolute.
  • To kill is NOT an Absolute, but requires Choices.

But long before the giving of the Commandments, Moses had killed a man.

11 And it came to pass in those days, when Moses was grown, that he went out unto his brethren, and looked on their burdens: and he spied an Egyptian smiting an Hebrew, one of his brethren.

12 And he looked this way and that way, and when he saw that there was no man, he slew the Egyptian, and hid him in the sand. (Exodus 2:11-12)

Moses was forced to flee to Midian. After many years, the Lord appeared to Moses out of a burning bush. God called Moses, and commissioned him to lead the Israelites out of Egypt, and toward the Promised Land. Moses became the Great Lawgiver. He is revered to this day, and I have yet to hear a preacher criticize Moses for killing a man.

It appears that the Lord orchestrated the killing of the Egyptian by Moses, for His purposes. It was NOT murder. This certainly doesn’t fit the idea of Rules, Regulations, and Procedures.

In 1 Samuel 15, the Lord commanded King Saul to lead his armies into battle, and exterminate the Amalekites.

Now go and smite Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and spare them not; but slay both man and woman, infant and suckling, ox and sheep, camel and ass. (1 Samuel 15:3)

The Lord himself ordered King Saul to kill the Amalekites. (It was NOT the same as murder.) When Saul was not totally obedient, he was punished severely.

Today, a soldier kills in war; you can kill in self-defense, or one can be executed by court order. Again, this example doesn’t fit the idea of Rules, Regulations, and Procedures. Rather, it’s a Choice that must be carefully made.

The Sanctity of Life
Implicit in the 6th Commandment is the sanctity of life.

  1. Islam is a false religion. Their blatant disregard for the sanctity of life is reprehensible.
  2. The holocaust is another glaring example where life was considered disposable.
  3. Communism is responsible for the ruthless murder of millions.
  4. Only since Roe vs. Wade, in 1973, has America set aside it’s long-standing respect for the sanctity of life.

True Salvation
Men want a robotic religion. If they follow a set of Rules, Regulations, and Procedures, they expect to be saved—that is NOT Christianity! Salvation-by-works is man trying to earn his way into heaven—that is false religion!

True Salvation is a gift of God.

For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:

Not of works, lest any man should boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9)

As it turns out, good works are the result of Salvation—not the other way around!

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them. (Ephesians 2:10)

Real Christians
The Holy Spirit leads true Christians. They respect the Absolutes, and live dynamic lives—to the glory of God! We live in a fallen world, so none of us does everything just right, but the Lord looks on the heart. He looks for a heart that is focused on pleasing God, and serving other people.

We Walk by Faith
To walk by faith is to respect the Absolutes. We believe and obey even when we don’t understand the details. Such a man was Abraham. Doubting Thomas was more like today’s Christian.

Obedient Abraham

And it came to pass after these things, that God did tempt Abraham, and said unto him, Abraham: and he said, Behold, here I am.

And he said, Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of. (Genesis 22:1-2)

Abraham obeyed even though he didn’t understand.

10 And Abraham stretched forth his hand, and took the knife to slay his son.

11 And the angel of the Lord called unto him out of heaven, and said, Abraham, Abraham: and he said, Here am I.

12 And he said, Lay not thine hand upon the lad, neither do thou any thing unto him: for now I know that thou fearest God, seeing thou hast not withheld thy son, thine only son from me. (Genesis 22:10-12)

Doubting Thomas

25 The other disciples therefore said unto him, We have seen the Lord. But he said unto them, Except I shall see in his hands the print of the nails, and put my finger into the print of the nails, and thrust my hand into his side, I will not believe.

After eight days, Jesus invited Thomas to examine the nail prints and his wounded side. All Thomas could say was, “My Lord and my God.”

29 Jesus saith unto him, Thomas, because thou hast seen me, thou hast believed: blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed. (John 20:25, 29)

A Grievous Sin
God created us to represent Him in the earth. He created the male to represent His authoritative side. He created the female to represent His nurturing side. The difference between men and women is a non-negotiable Absolute!

The man was created to rule the earth, and the woman was made to help him. In no uncertain terms, Scripture tells how a man and his wife are to conduct themselves in marriage. The Lord doesn’t always explain why; He just says, “Do it.”

The Lord has given me the grace and fortitude to explain “why” to this doubting and disobedient generation. Throughout this paper, I will explain again and again, always trying to approach from a different angle.

Other Christians will disagree with my explanations, but they can’t disagree with male/female roles as given in Scripture. They are Absolute!

We Are God’s Representatives
For over 100 years, Christians in the West have not respected their callings as men and as women. Our lack of gender differentiation amounts to a refusal to faithfully represent God. Our Christian testimony is hollow.

We’ve made a mockery of the marriage relationship. Our relationship to God continues to be superficial. We go to church, and “jump through the hoops.” We go on weekend mission trips. Somehow, we think we’re okay with the Lord. The purpose of this paper is to address that grievous sin, and call men and women to repentance.

The Foolishness Of God

The foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men (1 Corinthians 1:25).

Why was it necessary for God Incarnate to die for my sin? It makes no sense to my mortal mind.

I’m an engineer, and I design things. The design of male and female bodies is not something a human would think of. Most foolish to me is the proximity of the love making function to that of waste elimination. Listen to the Word of God:

Thou thoughtest that I was altogether such an one as thyself: but I will reprove thee, and set them in order before thine eyes. (Psalms 50:21b)

In today’s world, distinctly different male/female roles is foolishness, but you are different from God. You are not the Creator; you are not the designer, but you better take God seriously.

Now let me give two illustrations: Chances are you don’t understand electricity, and you can’t see it, but you better respect it. You may not understand the difference between male and female sexuality, but you better respect that difference.

What does God say to those who refuse biblical male/female roles? “I will reprove thee, and set them in order before thine eyes.” I believe that will take place during the Great Tribulation. Multitudes of Christians will be there. Is there any chance that I might be right?


And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory. (1 Timothy 3:16, emphasis added)

The Mystery of The First Coming
The Israelites were God’s chosen ones. Their prophets had predicted the coming Messiah, but when He came, only a handful of people recognized Him as the Messiah.

They were expecting a powerful king—someone who would overthrow Rome! And what did they get? A child who was born of common parents! And worse yet, an “illegitimate” child! He was first a carpenter, then a preacher. At 33 years-of-age he was condemned by the Jesus leaders, and then crucified by the Romans. But when Sunday arrived everyone was surprised.

Jesus rose from the dead, walked with his disciples for 40 days, and then ascended into heaven. All their pre-conceived ideas were blown to smithereens. Most Jews still don’t accept Jesus as their Messiah, but the day is coming:

And I will pour upon the house of David, and upon the inhabitants of Jerusalem, the spirit of grace and of supplications: and they shall look upon me whom they have pierced, and they shall mourn for him, as one mourneth for his only son, and shall be in bitterness for him, as one that is in bitterness for his firstborn. (Zechariah 12:10)

At the last minute, surviving Jews will be saved.

The Mystery of The Second Coming
Lots of people call themselves Christians. There are:

  • Christians who just go to church.
  • Born-again Christians—see John 3:3.
  • Christians who only claim to be born-again.

So I ask: Are Christians better prepared for the Second Coming than the Jews were for the First? The Jews had unreasonable expectations. Do we? The passage that follows seems so clear, but I suspect that many Christians will be left behind at the Rapture.

16 For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:

17 Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17)

If you’re going to claim the promises, you have to accept the Absolutes. Paul wrote the above passage; he was willing to die for Christ. So what does God expect? Commitment and Obedience!

If ye love me, keep my commandments. (John 14:15)

The godly man wants to please the Lord. That’s what it takes to be ready for the coming of the Lord. In the next passage, a great multitude wasn’t ready.

After this I beheld, and, lo, a great multitude, which no man could number, of all nations, and kindreds, and people, and tongues, stood before the throne, and before the Lamb, clothed with white robes, and palms in their hands;

13 And one of the elders answered, saying unto me, What are these which are arrayed in white robes? and whence came they?

14 And I said unto him, Sir, thou knowest. And he said to me, These are they which came out of great tribulation, and have washed their robes, and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. (Revelation 7:9,13-14, emphasis added)

The general consensus is that these Christians were saved during the Tribulation. Maybe not! They have robes that were dirty prior to the Tribulation, but are now washed in the blood of the Lamb. These appear to be worldly Christians who were left behind at the Rapture. The fact that they’re from all nations and tongues tells us they are both Jews and Gentiles.

It’s not enough to be born again; you must walk in the Spirit. You start by accepting the Absolutes.

14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. (Galatians 5:14,16, emphasis added)

The Timing of God
Growing up in Detroit, I followed the Lions. Quarterback Bobby Layne always won the game in the last two minutes. That seems to be the case with the Lord. He lets the devil think he’s winning; then he pulls the rug from under him. That’s what happened at Calvary, when Jesus rose from the dead.

Abraham’s promised son, Isaac came after Sarah was past the age of child bearing, and had given up. Ditto for Elizabeth, the mother of John the Baptist. At the Red Sea, God parted the waters in the nick of time.

For about 6,000 years, rebellious man has defied the living God, and seems to be winning. Toward the end, the Antichrist will again appear to be winning: “Who is like the beast? Who is able to make war with him?” (Revelation 13:4b)

The final conflict at the Battle of Armageddon wraps up everything at the last minute, in just three verses—see Revelation 19:19-21. At the last minute, the Lord shows himself strong. He’s never late.

And so it will be with many Believers. They will be cleaned up at the last minute. That is part of the mystery of godliness.

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Chapter 3, Hope

The Bible clearly defines marriage. Any other definition is seriously flawed, and is an affront to God. 

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)

Each of us has one head and one heart. If your wife gave birth, and your child had two heads or two hearts, you would be alarmed. And so it should be in marriage. Marriage is a union in which the two become one. By God’s design, he is the head, and she is the heart.

Their Jobs

  • His job is to shepherd his wife and children.
  • Her job is to be his wife, and raise the kids.
  • She helps him oversee the family.
  • He helps her raise the kids.

The Star
In this paper, I tell how women have led our civilization astray. Before I get into the negatives, I want to share a recent discovery that offers hope. Former Full House star Candace Cameron Bure recently wrote a book explaining her decision to be a submissive wife. It became a New York Times best seller.

The author was slammed: “What a prehistoric notion, to be subservient to your husband.” In that context, I did some market research. At my dental office, I was talking with Jennifer. She is about 45, and said: “I would like to retire, but my husband wouldn’t allow it.”

I moved in for some fun. “You should obey your husband,” Oh my! Did I get Jennifer’s attention! I referred to the book on submission, and asked if she had heard of it. She had, and she was animated. “I’m not about to read it,” she said. (Jennifer didn’t understand because she didn’t want to understand.)

For almost three years, I’ve been writing about wives who have decimated our marriages and families. I didn’t expect to reach women, but in the providence of God it is happening, thanks to Mrs. Bure.

My prayer and hope is that Mrs. Bure, and the submissive wives who are following her leadership, will start to reverse the damage done by the Suffragists.

The Submissive Wives
I copied all of the text from the link that follows, just in case the website disappears. You can read the information on this paper. To see the original, including the pictures, click on the link.

Let me make some observations.

  • The ladies in the picture have their heads covered. In Scripture, that’s a symbol of submission.
  • These are energetic young women who have set for themselves really lofty goals.

“A day in the life of a submissive wife,” is not a formula for all women. My wife was submissive, but our marriage was quite different from theirs.

A day in the life of a submissive wife

iVillage Team

February 3, 2014

Submissive wives are all the rage. The idea of letting your husband lead the way has obviously hit a sweet spot for some stressed-out women. But what’s it really like to be one?

When former Full House star Candace Cameron Bure released a book explaining her decision to be a submissive wife, she was slammed. What a pre-historic notion, to be subservient to your husband. However we here at iVillage are happy to explore any and every lifestyle choice. Who knows, there might just be something to this whole ‘submissive wife’ thing. Hey, we said ‘might’.

So, it turns out that the philosophy behind this whole submissive wife thing is strength, not weakness. It’s not about service, or being timid. It’s about making the decision to have a truly contented marriage.

Not convinced? Christian website Reason4Living does a much better job of explaining it than we ever could:

A submissive wife is one who makes a choice not to resist her husband’s will.  That is not to say that she cannot disagree with him or that she cannot express an opinion.  Indeed the submissive wife is, by definition, a strong woman and will usually therefore have her own opinions and these may often be different to the opinions of her husband.  Can she express them?  Of course she can, and indeed it might often be wrong for her not to express them since she is, after all, supposed to be her husband’s helper, not his slave or doormat.  Expressing her opinions and giving advice and suggestions will often be a valuable part of the help that she gives her husband.


So, we thought we’d take a look at the typical day in the life of a submissive wife:


A submissive wife wakes up before her family, to get ready for the day ahead. She’ll get dressed first so her husband wakes up to an attractive, well-groomed wife who is calm and in control. She’ll then make sure the house is tidy and pack bags and lunches for her children and her husband.

A submissive wife will prepare breakfast for her family so as they wake up they can eat a healthy and delicious meal to start the day.

At no time does she seem disorganised, rushed, or lose her temper.

Her husbands clothes for the day are washed, ironed and hung up ready for him. After breakfast, just before he leaves for work, she leaves him with a kiss and a smile, telling him to have a great day.


Once her husband leaves for work and the children are at school a submissive wife will use her morning to run errands vital to the smooth running of the family. She’ll drop off and pick up dry cleaning, grocery shop, attend to her own needs like hair and nails and have everything done by lunch time.

A submissive wife should never grocery shop while her husband is at home with the children. She’ll make sure all errands are completed while he is at work so that when he gets home they spend that time together. He doesn’t need to help her with any errands or with any of the cooking and cleaning, unless he wants to. She runs the house smoothly and efficiently, leaving their time together as peaceful and as harmonious as possible.


After a quick lunch a submissive wife will spend the afternoon tidying the house and preparing for her family to return. The cleaning is done and dinner is started. If she does any work from home or charity work she will get that done in the afternoon as well.


Once her children return home they are given snacks and do homework. All of the children’s activities and homework are completed by the time the submissive wife’s husband comes home so he can relax after a long day.

When her husband arrives home he walks into a clean house, receives a warm welcome from his wife who is happy to see him and spends some time relaxing while she finishes up dinner. During dinner a submissive wife will attend to all of her family’s needs and after dinner will clean up so her husband can spend time with their children.


A submissive wife will organise for the children to go to bed each evening. Her husband may wish to read them a bedtime story but she will dress them for bed, supervise baths and the brushing of teeth and ultimately tuck them in. The rest of the evening is spent with her husband. That time is spent talking, discussing issues and not fighting. The real skill of being a submissive wife is ensuring all communication with her husband is as happy and as calm as possible.

Disagreements are quickly deflated by her, not necessarily through giving in to her husband’s point of view but by being willing to do what makes him happy. She chooses to prioritise his happiness over her own and does this willingly, with no expectation from him.


Sex is an experience of love and is shared as often as her husband desires. She is happy to have sex as often as he likes and will always do her best to make it an amazing experience. Sex with a submissive wife is pretty awesome and because their relationship is harmonious, her pleasure is just as important as his.

Each evening ends in a happy and fulfilled state with a kiss and and “I love you”.

So, what do you think it would be like to be a submissive wife for just one day, if not a lifetime?

What you just read is a modern version of the Proverbs 31 woman. As you read the biblical account, please note the following:

  • The Proverbs 31 woman was the homemaker.
  • The Proverbs 31 man sat in the gates.
  • The Proverbs 31 man found it easy to love his wife.
  • They had good kids.

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:10-31)

The ladies from ivillage connected their readers to Their article, Submission of Christian wives to their husbands, appears in my Appendix A.

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Submission of Wives
The author of, Submission of Christian wives to their husbands, does a fabulous job of explaining the basics of male headship. The goal is for each wife to accept her husband’s position of authority, and then to respect him as the head-of-the-house. The ivillage ladies have obviously done that.

The idea of male headship is an Absolute. The idea of the female as help meet is an Absolute, but the working out of the details requires intelligence that is directed by both the Word and the Holy Spirit.

As I explained earlier, the Christian faith is not just a matter of following Rules, Regulations, and Procedures (RR&P). The second half of Appendix A seems to focus on the rules at the expense of Christian dynamics. In the first part of his article, the author does a far better job than I could have. But I think I can improve on the second part, which deals with the hard cases.

Marital Dynamics
Recall that I contrasted the Absolutes of the Faith to Christian Choices. I want to apply this juxtaposition to the submission of a wife to her husband. I will start with some Absolutes.

If ye love me, keep my commandments. (John 14:15)

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

A wife, who loves the Lord, will obey the Lord by submitting to her husband. For her, all things will work together for good. The following quotation has been taken from Appendix A.

A submissive wife is one whose heart is inclined towards satisfying her husband and who has made a choice to be led by her husband, to accept his authority and to be his helper in the broad biblical sense of that word. She does not seek to please her husband because she is afraid of his rebuke or rejection or punishment, but because she delights to please him and finds satisfaction in doing so.

The second part of the article deals with the hard cases.

A Hard Case
Let me use a ridiculous example: A Christian wife is married to an unsaved husband. He wants her to drive the getaway car while he robs a bank. An obedient wife would. A submissive wife wouldn’t.

The basic Choice, to submit, is an Absolute, but the process of submission varies for different wives in different circumstances. Now let’s flip the coin, and look at the husband’s calling to love his wife.

Scripture tells me to love my wife. That is an Absolute! But the process of loving my wife required the application of Scripture, and the leading of the Holy Spirit. I had to make Choices. I defied the Rules, Regulations, and Procedures.

For 32 years, I lived with an unsubmissive wife. In my eulogy, I told the many ways I had tried to love my wife into submission. When all else failed, in obedience to the leading of the Holy Spirit, I filed for divorce.

I recommend Appendix A, but I choose to focus on the basics of submission rather than on the difficult Choices that come with the hard cases. When Theresa accepted me as head-of-the-house, I loved her so thoroughly that she never had to make a hard Choice. Her final cogent words to me were, “You’re Wonderful; I love you so much.” Two weeks later, she went to be with Jesus.

The Comparison
The Jews had their Rules, Regulations, & Procedures. They were taken directly from Scripture. Jesus healed on the Sabbath, and it actually worked. The people got well, but the Jews were offended.

We Christians have our Rules, Regulations & Procedures. They are taken directly from the Bible. For 32 years, Theresa and I had an ungodly marriage. She was at fault. I filed for divorce, and it worked. She shaped up—it’s called repentance! For 15 years we had a heavenly marriage. Again, God’s people were offended that I filed for divorce.

Like Jesus, I defied the Rules, Regulations, & Procedures. Like Jesus, I offended many of God’s people. Like Jesus, I honored the Lord and gained His approval.

Lots of Christians can’t identify an Absolute. “Thou shalt not divorce,” is not an Absolute—see Ezra Chapter 10! The day will come when those who have refused the gift of Salvation will find themselves in hell. That is The Great Divorce, as written by C.S. Lewis.

As a man who truly loved the Lord, and had accepted God’s calling to love my wife, I could claim Romans 8:28, and know that whatever I did would work out for good. Faced with impending divorce, Theresa went into depression. It was in that context, that the Lord gave my wife an attitude adjustment. She repented, and became a submissive wife. Our marriage suddenly became heavenly—overnight!

Summary And Application
Now let me summarize: The Christian life starts with obedience to the Absolutes, and continues with Choices as directed by the Word and His Blessed Holy Spirit. How different that is from Rules, Regulations, and Procedures as practiced by Islam, Mormonism, and so many Christians who refuse the Absolutes.

Now let me make the application to so many Christian wives: They don’t love the Lord sufficiently to obey the simple command to submit to their husband. Romans 8:28 doesn’t apply to them, and things DON’T work together for good for them, their husband, or their children!

The wife is at fault, but God holds the husband responsible. The Lord put me in charge. I took my responsibility seriously, and for 32 years I took the necessary steps to lead my wife into submission. But I couldn’t force the matter. When she finally became a submissive wife, it was her Choice.

What made my job so difficult was the lack of support from the Christian community. I’ll explain. Shortly after Women’s Suffrage in 1920, traditional wedding vows disappeared from the wedding ceremony. Christians quickly conformed to the culture. Not surprisingly, our churches now have divorce recovery programs.

They Don’t Understand

18 Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: (Isaiah 1:18a)

Throughout this paper, I declare that females are driven by feelings, while men are more objective. It had appeared to me that many modern “equality” women could not be reached by logic; I’d not been able to reason with them. My conclusion: If They don’t understand, it’s probably because they don’t want to understand.

Christians For Biblical Equality (CBE) led by my former pastor, Gilbert Bilezikian, actually tried to prove from the Greek Scripture that God never intended for wives to submit to their husbands. My younger sister claims that the new covenant made submission obsolete. So where did she come up with that idea? Probably from the following:

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:28)

We need to put that into context.

26 For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.

27 For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.

28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

29 And if ye be Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise. (Galatians 3:26-29)

Let me interpret: Anyone who has faith in Christ Jesus will be saved. Furthermore, he will be an heir to the promise given to Abraham. That has absolutely nothing to do with male/female roles in marriage. To take Galatians 3:28 out of context, one has to ignore what is said about roles in the passages that follow:

  • Ephesians 5:22-33
  • Colossians 3:18-19
  • 1 Timothy 2:11-14
  • 1 Peter 3:1-7
  • 1 Corinthians 14:34-35
  • Titus 2:1-5

The submissive wives, as described in this chapter, have shown that women CAN understand, and they can be entirely logical. To support their case, they cite the article that appears in my Appendix A. I encourage every man to read the article, Submission of Christian wives to their husbands.

A Logical Agreement
My computer specialist is Victor. He and his wife Rebecca met online January 2010—Catholic Match! They met in person in April 2010. Three months later, she moved from Indiana to Texas. In November of 2010, Victor proposed, and she accepted.

Rebecca’s father was an alcoholic; that left her mother to run the home. Children usually learn by example. Would Rebecca accept Victor as head-of-the-house? He told her that a ship could only have one captain. After months of logical discussion, the matter was settled: Victor would be that captain. They married in July of 2011.

It was a win-win for both of them. Rebecca would influence Victor, who would then decide. As the decision maker, Victor took responsibility for the outcome. That took a burden from Rebecca, and gave Victor his rightful place as captain.

It took 32 years for me to convince my wife that I should be in charge. Victor did it in months, but he had an advantage. He had a good example, at home, where his father was “captain of the ship.”

Self-Willed Wives
To be an unsubmissive wife, a woman must disobey God, and she must resist her husband’s will. Her home will be filled with conflict. She will bring up undisciplined children, and probably have strangers help raise her kids. She and the kids will be right at home in our rebellious society. Her offspring will:

  • Rebel against their father.
  • Rebel against their mother.
  • Rebel against their boss.
  • Rebel against their God.
  • Rebel against anyone and everyone.

When a child turns out bad, parents think they were just unlucky. Nonsense! The kid was the logical result of poor parenting.

In Toronto, this past Monday, 4/23/18, Alek M. (25 years old) rented a van; then deliberately drove it over pedestrians. He killed 10 and injured 15. Alek was not a terrorist. He was a mixed up North American. So what is this young man’s problem? Let me take a wild guess: He’s the product of lousy parenting.

A Tragic Example
Patrick works for me. He’s the 12th of twelve children—seven boys and five girls! (Two of the boys are deceased.) The oldest and youngest are males—57 and 32 respectively! The following quotation is from, Submission of Christian wives to their husbands—See my Appendix A.

A submissive wife is one who makes a choice not to resist her husband’s will. … In the disharmonious family there is a quarrel, there is cajoling or bullying, there is intimidation and bitter words. The quarrel might last for the rest of their lives with neither giving ground … with one of them feeling resentful and both of them feeling bruised and wary of the other, or if they could not even obtain an unpleasant agreement then the marriage might simply fall apart and they separate…

In 1999, when Patrick was 14, his mother, Yolanda divorced her husband, Alfredo. The family had been disharmonious for many years—everyone was badly bruised! The carnage remains, but the following is remarkable:

  • Half of the siblings respect their father.
  • The other siblings don’t. Patrick’s sister, Sandra told me she hadn’t spoken to her Dad for 22 years.

So what do we make of the above? Alfredo saw himself as head-of-the-house; the siblings, who accept traditional marriage, respect him. Yolanda wanted an “equality” marriage, and the other siblings agree with her.

In today’s world, many women think it’s okay to resist the will of a husband. It’s still the nature of men to be in charge, and you can’t change human nature. That’s where the “fireworks” begin.

Patrick has been my competent and reliable employee for 3.5 years. Someday, he will own the company, and for free. I’m grateful that Alfredo stayed the course, and raised Patrick God’s way. I’m giving my business to a man I trust. And what do I get out of it? The satisfaction that my legacy will continue! But more than that I get an eternal reward for having lived the Great Commandment, which says that I’m to love God and love my neighbor.

And P.S. Patrick says his Dad is just like me. We’ve had lunch twice, and I love the man. I asked Alfredo if he was interested in another marriage. He said, “I could use some help, but they’re not worth the trouble.”

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The Far-Reaching Consequences
By refusing the rightful authority of her husband, Yolanda wrongfully influenced her children, grandchildren, etc. She now has Alzheimer’s, so it’s too late for her to repent. Anything she could suffer on this earth is nothing compared to the loss she will bear in the next life.

And P.S. I was married to a self-willed wife, but Theresa repented before she came down with Alzheimer’s.

In the shadow of this tragic example, the submissive wives are re-discovering the secret of harmonious marriage and family. This could be the start of something really grand—I’m thrilled beyond measure! My prayer is that the flicker of hope I’ve discussed will burst into flame.

Another Star
Today is 11/25/17. Unlike Candace Cameron Bure, this lady is a star, but known only to the Lord and a select few. Patricia Lassiter is the wife of Gerald T. Lassiter. Her husband has been disabled for over five years. Since then, she and two of her daughters have served as Gerald’s caregivers—24/7!

Besides that, she has done his job and her job. She’s a strong woman, who’s a great manager. Mrs. Lassiter has brought up and homeschooled eight good kids under difficult circumstances. She now has 16 wonderful grandchildren. One could say that Mrs. Lassiter is a Proverbs 31 woman, but that would be an understatement.

So what is the secret to her success? She loves the Lord and respects her husband. That has enabled her to lay a solid family foundation.

To love the Lord and respect her husband, a woman must obey God. She works in partnership with the Lord. The woman who disobeys the Lord, and does not respect her husband, is in need of correction. As it was in the Garden of Eden, so it is today.

  • Obedience to the Lord has both spiritual and physical rewards.
  • Disobedience brings both spiritual and physical consequences.

Two springs ago, Mrs. Lassiter called me to replace an AC system. I told her we shouldn’t exceed 14 SEER. I also said we should remove the heat pump, and replace it with a regular air conditioner. She quickly said, “You’ll have to convince Gerald.”

We’re both hard of hearing, so we yelled at each other until there was agreement. He accepted both of my arguments. Then Mrs. Lassiter and I took care of the details. She doesn’t resist her husband’s will. He’s clearly in charge. Two things:

  • God sees that he’s in charge.
  • The children see that he’s in charge.

In that context, Patricia Lassiter has been free to nurture good children. Because she is a godly woman, the godliness has been passed on to the next generation, and the next. But it hasn’t been easy.

  • Her 5th child, Adam had a learning disability.
  • Her 8th child, Grace has a hearing problem.
  • Adam was killed in a canoeing accident March 31, 2012
  • Her husband, Gerald quickly became disabled.

As you’ll see in the videos, Adam recovered from his learning disability (at 16) when his mother taught him to play the piano. From then on, he succeeded beyond everyone’s imagination. He married in 2010, but was killed two years later. The entire family was devastated.

The three videos that follow are about 3 minutes each. These clips reveal a woman of immeasurable strength, faith, and courage. Most of all, Patricia Lassiter illustrates what a Christian woman can become when she accepts the feminine role for which she was created. Click on the arrow. You can terminate the presentation in one of two ways: Listen to the entire video or, at the bottom, slide the timer to the far right. Then continue reading.


Fig 3-1, Adam Lassiter’s Life


Fig 3-2, Adam Lassiter’s Death


Fig 3-3, Adam Lassiter’s Story

One more thing: For about 30 years, Patricia has led the PGM (Part of A Great Multitude) choir. There are now about 200 home-schooled students under her guidance. Twice a year they give a presentation. Adam’s body was found May 6, 2012, but the PGM spring presentation went on as scheduled—directed by Patricia Lassiter!

Success consists of going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm—Winston Churchill

The PGM Choir
Yesterday 12/18/17, I attended my 4th PGM presentation. Mrs. Lassiter and the other ladies are teaching children and young people commitment, discipline, and teamwork. In a day when children are being disposed of or neglected, these ladies are preparing the next generation to be responsible and productive adults.

To Joey With Love
If you want to see a heavenly marriage, watch, To Joey With Love, (90 minutes). Joey and Rory Feek were a husband-and-wife singing duo. Joey was a songwriter and a fabulous singer. Rory is a songwriter, a singer, an organizer, and a filmmaker. They lived the Great Commandment—love the Lord and love your neighbor!

  • Rory was clearly in charge.
  • He loved his wife as Christ loves the Church.
  • Joey was a true help meet; she respected Rory.
  • They were “one,” so there was never an argument.
  • In the midst of adversity, they honored the Lord.

When they married, she was 26 and he was 36. Twelve years later, they had their first child, a girl they named Indiana. Indiana was afflicted with Down Syndrome, but they accepted her as from the Lord. They said, “This is the child the Lord gave us, and we’re going to love her.”

Shortly after the birth of Indiana, Joey was diagnosed with cervical cancer. In just over two years, March 4, 2016, Joey was called home. She was 40.5 years old. As the end approached, Rory said, “I wish it could have been me.” Joey replied, “If it had been you, there would be no one to tell our story.”

Rory was concerned about Joey, and Joey was concerned about those who needed to hear their story. What love! Could their story be what is needed to heal marriages? In this fallen world, there is always a price to be paid.

Joey had ambitions and aspirations. In love, Rory helped her achieve her goals. As a couple, they had plans that, together, they pursued. In Ephesians 5:31-31, we read that marriage models the relationship between Christ and the Church. (Christ loves, and true Christians submit.) Rory and Joey Feek perfectly modeled the heavenly relationship between Christ and His bride.

To Joey With Love, was NOT made after the fact, using actors. The Lord led Rory to document their lives—the cameras followed them! On Facebook, multitudes learned about their loss. Hundreds of cards and letters came in. So why was there a Down Syndrome child and an early death for Joey?

For His Glory
I first saw To Joey With Love in a theater. I failed to grasp the spiritual implications. Then I ordered the DVD. It was only after my second viewing that I saw a purpose for their pain. I have to believe their loss was for our gain; that we might look upon their godly marriage, that we might emulate their relationship, and that our marriages might be healed.

For some, their testimony will be more persuasive than anything I could ever write or say.

To Joey With Love, is for the entire family—husband, wife, and children! Please click on Watch the trailer. Then click on buying options. (I bought my copy on ebay.) The DVD can be purchased for as little as $10. You’ll want to share the film with family and friends. (If you click on buying options, you might exit my paper. If so, return by entering this website. Then search using Feek.)

In The Time That You Gave Me
If you ordered the DVD, you’ll get the new Joey + Rory song, In The Time That You Gave Me.

So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. (Psalms 90:12)

In three weeks, I’ll be 79. That means I’ll have 79 years behind me, and a limited number of years left. Like Joey and Rory, I want to honor the Lord, and bless others—in the time that He gave me! In the meantime, like Joey and Rory, I’ll trust the Lord, and joyfully anticipate my eternal reward.

In 1985, Rory married Tamara Gilmer—they had two daughters! They divorced in 1992. Rory became a single father, who raised Hopie and Heidi to become Godly young women.

Scripture says, “It is not good for the man to be alone,” but Rory was, again, alone. In 2002, the Lord gave him Joey Martin. Throughout this paper, I encourage men to do all they can to rescue an unbiblical marriage. But sometimes divorce is the best path, and remarriage can be to the glory of God. Rory’s second marriage was:

  • A testimony to the grace of God.
  • A preview of a future event, “Behold I make all things new.” (Revelation 21:5)

The Rest of The Story
Today is 3/20/19 (15 months since I wrote the above) and I’ve received some really bad news. I was wrong about Rory’s daughters: Hopie is a lesbian and Heidi is an atheist. I Goggled Rory Feek Gay Wedding and found all the details. We should continue to love Rory and his girls, but there is a lesson to be learned: Love the sinner, but hate the sin.

Jesus is coming soon—the signs are everywhere! The unnatural, like abortion and homosexuality were once tolerated. Now they’re being celebrated. One of my two “Googled” articles gave six glowing examples of country artists who have come out for sodomy. First, let me comment on the Feeks, and then I’ll explain from Scripture.

Heidi is an atheist; should the family praise her atheism? Hopie is a homosexual; should she be afforded the honor that goes with a real marriage? I financially support Stephen Bennett’s ministry to gays. The goal is to bring homosexuals to repentance—not to encourage perverse relationships.

Rory wants to be non-judgmental. God has already judged atheism and homosexuality; they are absolutely sinful. Does anyone of us dare call not sinful that which God calls sin? Many people take liberties with the following: “Judge not, that you be not judged” (Matthew 7:1). That doesn’t apply to homosexuality and atheism.

Many choices are a matter of conscience—NOT absolutes! Romans chapter 14 gives several examples. Paul concludes as follows: “But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ.” (Romans 14:10).

Contrasting Examples
My first narrative was of a godly Christian marriage and family. I continue to commend Rory and Joey to you.

My last example, Rory and Hopie, is of sin that is being excused. One can love the sinner without underwriting his sin.

So how did the Feeks go from being the good example to being the bad example? Does this illustrate what has happened to the Church? Are Christians better prepared for the Second Coming than the Jews were for the First Coming?

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Chapter 4, Getting Started

There are two types of people:

  • God’s people—Jews and Christians!
  • Those who aren’t God’s people.

The Jewish Messiah, Jesus, invites everyone to join God’s people. The next passage declares the sovereignty of God. 

A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps. (Proverbs 16:9)

We make plans, but God ultimately decides the outcome. We have three choices:

  • We can work in partnership with the Lord.
  • We can work independently of God.
  • We can work in opposition to the Lord.

But no matter which path a man takes, God will accomplish His purposes.

Mrs. Patricia Lassiter works in partnership with the Lord. Under very difficult circumstances, she continues to give of herself to honor the Lord, and meet the needs of others. The fruit of her labor is seen in the PGM choir, and in her family. She is being guided in paths of righteousness (Psalms 23:3).

Of her seven surviving children, three live out of town and one, out of state. At Christmas, all 30 of them, including her 16 grandchildren, gathered at the Lassiter home. This godly family is a tribute to the faithfulness of Mrs. Lassiter.

My primary focus, in this paper, is Christians, who work independently of the Lord. Assertive women and subservient men ignore the Word of God, and live as if God doesn’t see. A glaring example is Arthur H. and his wife. By sheer weight of their charming personality, this couple enjoys the respect of the Christian community.

But what about those who work in opposition to the Lord?—those who have a false god! They are NOT God’s people—outside the Church and Israel! They are like the chaff that the wind drives away. (See Psalms 1:4.) The Lord uses them to punish and correct his wayward people.

But let’s stop, and review the invitation: Walid Shoebat was a PLO terrorist, but he repented, and joined God’s people. He loves Jews and Christians. Now he is being used of the Lord for righteous purposes. We are all being used of the Lord—one way or another!

Statism is the principle or policy of concentrating extensive economic, political, and related controls in the State, at the cost of individual liberty—the collective seeks to replace the individual! Statism comes from:

  • The Left that seeks to replace God with government.
  • Islam that has a demonic god.

For over 100 years, socialistic government has aggressively tried to replace God. Examples include Fascism, Nazism, Communism, and the American Left. The latter calls itself Progressive, Liberal, and the Democrat Party.

All forms of Socialism are on the Left, and are A priori, i.e. arrived at prior to or independent of experience. Neither has ever succeeded. Not in The Soviet Union, North Korea, Cuba, Venezuela, or anywhere else! Yet the Socialists are convinced it will work, so they keep trying. When it doesn’t work, they always blame someone or something outside of their system of thought.

Socialism, in the West, has been largely promoted in three ways:

  1. By the introduction and affirmation of the “egalitarian” ideology.
  2. By deficit spending.
  3. By making as many citizens as possible dependent on government handouts.

Islam enslaves 1.6B people. Radical Islam is spreading like wildfire, and may soon bury all socialistic endeavors, along with the American Republic.

The West, including Israel and American conservatives, has bought into the “egalitarian” ideology. Tragically, we applaud the “egalitarian” idea that men and women are interchangeable. As such we are contributing to the demise of Western Civilization. We’re setting the stage for Islam to rule us. I hope I’m wrong.

The Hijrah Into Europe
Muslims are flooding into Europe—invasion by emigration! This is an alternative to Jihad, a way to peacefully conquer. Muslims call it Hijrah. The civil war in Syria is generating “refugees” for Hijrah. The heart of Islam is “martyrdom,” so the product of the civil war is a positive for them.

Western Progressives are sympathetic to those who share their ideas of replacing Individual Freedom with Collectivism. In ignorance, they have opened their gates to Muslims, who pose as refugees, but are, in reality, invaders. Click the following link to read more on the topic –

Europe is a magnet for Muslim emigrants for two reasons: There’s a spiritual vacuum, and Europe is fairly close to the Middle East. In America, we still have a strong Christian influence, and we’re distant from the Islamic nations. Obama and the Leftists encouraged Muslim emigration, but President Trump is opposed. The Lord has given America some time.

The Evolution of American Socialism
The seeds of American Socialism were planted in 1848, at the first women’s rights convention. It took root in 1920, with Women’s Suffrage. Socialism is a feelings-based ideology, but it also includes men. Karl Marx was an “egalitarian.” As women were integrated into the workforce, and then into the military, Socialism really took off.

For centuries, marriage was a hierarchical institution, with men in charge. Over decades it has morphed into “equality” marriage. The result has been marital conflict and broken homes. Fathers disappear, and children are left with their mothers. (For high school drop-outs, 71% are from fatherless homes.)

According to Pew Research, only 46% of children under 18 are living in a traditional home with two married heterosexual parents in their first marriage. Broken homes promote the leftist agenda.

Women run the show, and the kids grow up to have a feminine, feel-good mentality. Politically, they are ready-made candidates for Liberalism. Institutions of higher learning complete the leftist brainwashing.

What Feels Good
This paper is written entirely using logic based on Scriptural Truth. But that’s not what drives Western Culture. What feels good trumps the facts. Let me give a couple of examples:

  1. Recycling of paper and plastic requires a lot of manpower for sorting, pickup, and then more sorting. The cost of the trucks and handling equipment is considerable. The sale price of the material is minimal. In short, recycling is not cost-effective, but it feels good.
  2. We live in a high-tech age, but sometimes the application is expensive, while repairs are both troublesome and costly. High-tech is often NOT cost-effective. But we do it, anyway, because it feels good.

This is what happens when we do what feels good, instead of what is good.

We, on the Right—Christians and Conservatives—have unwittingly promoted Socialism—at home and at school! In Figure 8-2, Dennnis Prager says: The kids haven’t learned how to “do good,” but they know what feels good. We complain about the tyranny of the Left, but fail to see ourselves as enablers. We continue to promote the Socialist ideology by celebrating “egalitarianism.”

There is no logic on the Left. “Egalitarianism” is clearly a leftist idea. Yet it and its offspring, “Equality” Marriage have been adopted by Conservatives. The fact that they fail socially and economically testifies to their lack of legitimacy, and to our lack of understanding.

A Mouthpiece For The Lord

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. (Psalms 1:1)

I’m a man of integrity, in the midst of a crooked, perverse, and compromising world. If you’re a seeker after truth, you should listen to me. Here’s a comment left online by one of my A/C customers: “Dr. Kool tells it like it is. If you can’t handle that, then he might not be for you.”

The Big Picture
The world is descending into darkness. With the exception of men like Ronald Reagan and Donald Trump, the term “public servant” has become an oxymoron. Politics is about money and power.

Greedy people vote for greedy politicians, to gain a financial advantage. Confused people vote for confused politicians, to force their goofy ideas on everyone else.

Like John the Baptist: Dennis Prager, Dr. Kool, and the Israeli Video Network are voices crying in the wilderness.

I’ll try to explain why!

Government starts at home; mankind has failed miserably. Creation Order requires both a man and a woman. He is to be the head, and she is to be the heart.

In the Middle East, men run things, while women are little more than puppets. They have no heart!

In the West, women run things, while men are little more than puppets. They have no head!

This paper will show how those who have no head are setting themselves up to be ruled by those who have no heart.

A New Commandment
There’s an 11th Commandment: It’s not found in the Bible or the Constitution, but it’s the unwritten law of the land—Thou Shalt Not Offend!

It started with the women’s movement, around the turn of the 20th Century. It was driven by the “egalitarian” idea that men and women are interchangeable, in the home and in society. In its path are fractured marriages, wayward children, and a society that is just keeping its head above water. Economically, we have “one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel.”

From the Left, Political Correctness denigrates our friends and rewards our enemies. If there’s hope, it lies with mature, conservative citizens. The young people have fallen prey to government schools, the media, and institutions of higher learning. For them, “My feelings trump your opinions or even your facts.”

The Test
If there is to be correction, someone must be willing to offend. To do so is to return to a biblical modus operandi. The prophets, Jesus, and the Apostles were offensive.

53 Then Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except ye eat the flesh of the Son of man, and drink his blood, ye have no life in you.

60 Many therefore of his disciples, when they had heard this, said, This is an hard saying; who can hear it?

61 When Jesus knew in himself that his disciples murmured at it, he said unto them, Doth this offend you? (John 6:53,60-61)

Read that passage again. Jesus was referring to the Lord’s Supper, which we now celebrate. Why would Jesus present the Gospel in such offensive terms? A true Believer might not understand, but he wouldn’t be offended.

God told Abraham to offer his son, Isaac, as a burned sacrifice. This didn’t make any sense to Abraham, but he was a man of faith so he obeyed—until God stopped him!

I’m trying to make a point: Offense is often needed to test the faith of someone else. In this paper, I must offend. In Matthew 11:6, Jesus said, “And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.”

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The Great Commission
Last night I saw a drama/film presentation entitled: Heaven’s Gates Or The Flames of Hell? They went through a number of live scenes where people had either accepted or rejected Christ. Next, they showed, on screen, an accident that took the lives of the actors. The angels escorted some into heaven and into the arms of Jesus. Satan escorted the others into the flames of hell.

It was an excellent example of the Great Commission in action. Numerous people, in the audience, came forward to accept Christ. But there’s something more urgent than the Great Commission. “WHAT’S THAT?” you ask.

Let me say it again: There’s something more urgent than the Great Commission. A wholesome marriage and family is God’s primary means of populating the earth with a righteous seed. There’s no better example than the Lassiter family that I mention in this paper. Trying to convince unbelieving adults is a major challenge. But that’s where we focus our energy, while we neglect our marriages and children.

We should start at home, before we go abroad. We haven’t properly trained husbands and wives, and for that reason, our marriages are upside down, and multitudes of children are lost.

My next article is entitled, “Seeing Through A Glass Darkly,” by Debi Pearl. To read the entire 3 pages, click on the following link – I’ll quote Debi’s last two paragraphs.

When you are a young mother raising a family, it is so easy to care about your own feelings, your own hurts, your little fuss with your husband. Oh, but Mother, there is coming a day when your own feelings, hurts, and fusses will seem so immaterial, so silly. It is that atmosphere emanating from your relationship to your husband, your attitude and responses that help decide your baby’s future in eternity. It is not your child training techniques; it is who you are today. It is how you respond to life’s ups and downs and to life’s grief and joy. It is how you honor your husband, thus how you honor God.

We go through life so protective of our children’s bodies. Let us as mothers early look to the protection of their souls. The enemy is not death. The enemy is not outside, lurking to get in; the enemy is a mother’s heart dedicated to a mother’s feelings. It is our own selfishness, our own anger, our own bitterness, and our own disappointments. The enemy is Mother, doing what is right in her own eyes instead of obeying God. God, grant us the wisdom to get beyond instinct to the wisdom of true love. God, grant us hearts to see, to feel, and to live with eternity in our eyes. (emphasis added)

“The aged women likewise, that…they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children” (Titus 2:3-4).

Thou Shalt Not Offend
We live in a feminized society, where we aren’t allowed to offend. About 25 years ago, The Council On Biblical Manhood and Womanhood mounted a massive effort to educate Christian husbands and wives on their marital roles. They were unwilling to offend.

I was working on the same problem when I published, Restoring The Father To The Family. They said that I would offend even my friends. Twenty-five years later I ask: “Who says we can’t offend?”

Jeremiah and Ezekiel warned Israel of coming judgment—they were offensive! Few Israelites heeded their warnings, but they were warned.

The Man Is In Charge
In Genesis 2:7, the Lord created Adam. In Genesis 2:15, He put Adam in charge of His creation. In Genesis 2:21-22, the Lord made a woman to be Adam’s help meet. Adam was in charge. Eve was his suitable helper.

Creation Order has the man in charge, and he will always be in charge. Creation Order has the woman as his suitable helper, and she will always be his suitable helper. Without a wife, a man is incomplete. A man needs a wife, and a woman needs to be a wife. Husband and wife are a team. Together, they can do what neither of them could do alone—to the glory of God! These facts are depicted in my illustration.

Let’s examine them one by one.

God Made Woman From Man/For Man—To Be His Wife!
The Lord created the man with a sexual desire that could only be satisfied by a woman. Then God made a woman to meet that need. (Scripture tells the woman to submit to her husband.) For Theresa and me, lovemaking was a chore—like taking out the trash! Something that had to be done from time to time! For 32 years we argued incessantly. From my Chapter 3, I take the following quotation that was written by a submissive wife: “Sex with a submissive wife is pretty awesome.”

To Bear His Children
Almost any woman can give birth, but only a submissive wife can nurture children who will grow up to be responsible and godly members of the Christian Community.

To Keep His House
Keeping house is much more than just organizing and cleaning the place.

She is his wife, the children are his children, and the house is his. In God’s economy, everything revolves around the man. But his wife trains the next generation. The responsible husband will love and provide for his wife and children.

Both husband and wife find fulfillment when they dutifully accept their God-given roles. The trouble starts when they resist or refuse Creation Order.

A mother should be home, submitted to her husband, and raising the kids. Instead, she may be in the workplace, or at home arguing with her husband. Children never mature into adults. We have children trying to raise children. The carnage gets worse with each succeeding generation.

Truth Will Triumph
At the judgment, only truth will stand. Both men and women must decide whether they will accept or reject truth. Those who claim to be Christians, but reject marital truth, are on dangerous ground.

But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: (Ephesians 4:15)

To speak the truth is to grow up. To endure offense is to grow up. We are three months into the Trump presidency, and I am so thrilled to finally have adults in the White House.

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Chapter 5, The Problem

In The Image of God
Men were created in the image of God. That is NOT true for animals. The Lord God has given us gifts, and we’re to use them responsibly. Men like King David and the Apostle Paul were especially gifted, but everyone has the gift of intelligence. The world is in turmoil not because of the animals, but because intelligent people have misused their gifts.

  • People have been negligent in using their gift of intelligence.
  • Other people have used their gift of intelligence in a malevolent way—against God and against their fellow men!

I am deeply troubled by the state of our marriages and families. They’re in trouble primarily because of negligence. Christians have conformed their marriages to the world, rather than to the Word of God.

Christians live in a world where wicked men are in opposition to God and His Chosen people, Israel. The past 120 years has seen a social and cultural upheaval unlike anything in past history. As I see it, these have been the birth pangs surrounding the restoration of Israel.

In this context Christians, who should be “overcomers,” have conformed to the world. So during this paper I’ll also get into politics and false religions. I start with the basics of marriage.

Masters Of Ourselves
My premise, from Scripture, is that marital partners are to complement rather than to duplicate one another. For that to happen we must be masters of ourselves. The following is from Chapter 42, of Let Me Be A Woman, by Elisabeth Elliot:

No woman who has not learned to master herself can be trusted to submit willingly to her husband. And that word willingly means that she does not merely resign herself to something she can’t avoid. It means by an act of her own will she gives herself. With gladness she submits because she understands that voluntary submission is her very strength. Because it is the thing asked of her by her Creator, it is the thing that assures her of fulfillment. It is the task assigned her which, willingly performed, actually strengthens the husband in his weakness.

The husband strengthens the wife in her weakness by obeying the command to command. But he, too, must first have mastered himself. … Many men protest that it is not their nature to dominate. Many see their wives as superior to them in intelligence, strength of character, physical endurance, or spiritual perception, and use this as an excuse to let them lead. But the roles are not assigned on the basis of capability. They were determined at the beginning of Creation to be a man’s role and a woman’s role and again, we are not free to experiment, tamper with, or exchange them.

It takes self-discipline and it takes humility to do your job. We can count on the God who issued the order, to provide the strength to carry it out. No man has sufficient strength in himself properly to be the head of his wife. No woman can rightly submit to his headship. It takes grace, and grace is a gift, but we are to use the means of grace. Self-discipline helps. Prayer helps. Christ, who is the Head of all of us, stands ready to help any man or woman who asks Him.


The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. (Proverbs 9:10a)

The fear of a woman is the beginning of folly—C. Russell Yates

The woman’s movement emerged with Women’s Suffrage. Thus began the folly of “egalitarianism”—the idea that men and women are the same! My link will take you to a 5-minute video from PragerU that illustrates this perfectly.

Women With Alzheimer’s
Throughout this paper, I’ll mention that my wife, Theresa, has Alzheimer’s. Click on the link that follows and see that 5.4M Americans suffer from Alzheimer’s and 3.2M of them are women – Sixty percent of the patients are women, and no one knows why. In America the average life for a man is 75. For a woman, it’s 81, but that, they say, doesn’t account for the disparity between males and females with Alzheimer’s.

To me the answer seems obvious: It has to do with stress. God designed the male to take the stress that goes with being in charge. According to 1 Peter 3:7, the wife is the weaker vessel. She is not designed for that type of stress.

My wife wanted to be in charge, but she also had to fight me in the process. We argued incessantly. For 32 years the pressure accumulated. I think it eventually overloaded her brain. In January of 2011, at 75, Theresa came down with Alzheimer’s. I went through the same arguments, but at 78, my mind remains really sharp. (Later, I’ll tell how Theresa became a biblical wife.)

In our “egalitarian” society, when a marriage breaks up, the mother gets the children. She then tries to serve as both mother and father. She, alone, is the nurturer, provider, and authority figure. In court, she is awarded child support, but collecting the money adds one more burden to her load. Eventually, her brain overloads.

That’s not to say that all controlling wives or all single mothers will come down with Alzheimer’s, but I believe that accounts for the larger number of females with Alzheimer’s.

The Fall—Part 2
A woman’s “Love, Honor, and Obey,” wedding vows had continued for centuries in Christian beliefs and social rules, but shortly after Women’s Suffrage of 1920, they disappeared. I have a Baptist Pastor’s manual, Broadman Press, copyright 1934. “Egalitarian” wedding vows are in that manual.

God designed men to govern, but once Suffrage passed, the men quickly surrendered. Their acquiescence further legitimized the measure. The sons of Adam proved to be just like their generations-removed granddaddy. Hey guys! By God’s appointment, you’re in charge—no-ifs-ands-or-buts about it!

The Illustration
The example, I give, goes back over 60 years—the Lord has given me a fabulous memory! My brother Byron was five years older. He had a date, and my mother asked, “Why not send Russell?” Byron replied, “You don’t send a boy to do a man’s job.”

Well, “You don’t send a woman to do a man’s job.” But that’s exactly what we in the West have done. Men were created to govern. To disagree is to argue with God.

Woe unto him that striveth with his Maker! (Isaiah 45:9a)

Hypocrisy 101
“Egalitarianism” is a fancy word that means men and women are the same, in marriage and for government. The idea is diametrically opposed to the Bible; it’s also a charade. Still, it’s been the pretense of the Western World—including Christendom—for the past 100 years.

People who have argued for equality are now celebrating the fact that we’re different. Is it possible to be different while being the same? Bobby Brooks will soon serve as the first openly gay Student Body President at Texas A&M University.

In a March 21, 2017 CNN article, the story is told. Their picture shows a bunch of happy kids that depict diversity.

In a related Article, former Texas governor, Rick Perry claims that the election was “engineered,” to achieve the desired diversity objective.

The Homosexual Myth
For unknown reasons, the homosexual is just born that way—that’s what they say! But I see things differently. Homosexuality thrives in an “egalitarian” environment.

“Egalitarianism” has tried to abolish male/female marital roles. As a result the kids don’t know whether they are a he, a she, or an “it.” The recent SBP election reveals that about half of the students have no problem with the gay lifestyle. Wow!

The Myth of Democracy
Democracy only works for godly people. Let me explain starting with a quotation:

Truth is not determined by a majority vote—Pope Benedict XVI

The ideology of “egalitarianism” continues in Western Civilization—not because it’s true, but because it’s the majority opinion!

The Muslims don’t believe Jesus is God. Could 1.6B Muslims be wrong? Christians believe in “egalitarianism.” Could over 2B Christians be wrong? Numbers mean nothing. Usually, the majority is wrong.

13 Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat:

14 Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it. (Matthew 7:13-14)

Christian marriages are often built on the sandy foundation of “egalitarianism.” They are living in disobedience to the clear Word of God; so what should they expect? I’ll give passages from the Old and from the New Testament.

Be sure your sin will find you out. (Numbers 32:23b)

Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; (Galatians 6:7-6:8a)

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The Compromised Christian
Multitudes of Christians have conformed their marriages to the world’s paradigm. Christian divorce statistics are the same as for the ungodly.

“Progressive” Ideas
For centuries, men and women accepted their differences and related to one another accordingly. Today, we live in an increasingly “egalitarian,” “equality,” gender-neutral society. We in the West think we’ve come of age. We’re proud of the “progress” we’ve made.

End-Times Phenomena

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. (2 Timothy 3:1)

Starting with the 20th Century, numerous ideologies have impacted Western culture. The result has been the perilous times of the last 100 years.

  • “Egalitarianism” has weakened us morally.
  • Nazism, Communism, and Socialism has weakened us financially.
  • We are now vulnerable to Islamic domination.

Here’s what I see ahead: Our Western economies are deeply in debt, and will eventually crash—maybe at the start of the Great Tribulation spoken of in Revelation!

This paper is primarily for a Western audience, but in God’s economy Israel is central. So let me switch gears, and put things into perspective.


The Refinement
The holocaust was predicted in Zechariah. In 1933, the Jewish population of Europe was just over 9M. First I’ll give a quotation from The Holocaust Encyclopedia, then one from Scripture.

In little more than a decade, most of Europe would be conquered, occupied, or annexed by Nazi Germany and its Axis partners, and the majority of European Jews—two out of every three—would be dead.

And it shall come to pass, that in all the land, saith the Lord, two parts therein shall be cut off and die; but the third shall be left therein. (Zechariah 13:8)

Next, Zechariah tells that God will refine that third part—the survivors of The Holocaust!

And I will bring the third part through the fire, and will refine them as silver is refined, and will try them as gold is tried: they shall call on my name, and I will hear them: I will say, It is my people: and they shall say, The Lord is my God. (Zechariah 13:9)

Three years after WWII ended, by UN mandate, the nation of Israel was legally established as a Jewish homeland. The details of that establishment are given in the following 5-minute presentation:

The Arabs refused to accept the new nation. In the War of Independence, about 600,000 Jews fought five Arab armies, and won. By 2018, Jewish population, in Israel, has grown to 6.6M.

The holocaust lasted seven years (1938-1945). For over 70 years Israel has been under siege by their Islamic neighbors. Sometimes their very existence has been threatened. In that context, God continues to refine them as silver and as gold. But as a people, they have yet to call on the Lord—Zechariah 13:9 is still in progress!

But this is more than just the refinement of Israel. God is also testing the Gentiles. In Matthew 25:31-46 we have the judgment of the nations based on their treatment of the Jews. At this moment we see:

  • Worldwide anti-Semitism.
  • Muslim wars and atrocities against the Jewish State.
  • Terrorism against Israeli citizens.
  • Western support for the enemies of Israel.
  • Christian churches that oppose Israel.
  • Christians who support the Palestinian impostors.
  • Bias news reporting that supports Israel’s enemies.

The level of deceit is mind-boggling. As I said, while God is refining the Jews, He’s also testing the Gentiles. Someday, everyone will give account for his treatment of God’s people. In Genesis 12:3, God said He would bless those who bless the Jews, and curse those who curse them.

Israel’s Restoration
Since 1947 Israel has been at war with its Arab neighbors. The most significant wars were as follows:

  • The War of Independence (1947-1949)
  • The Six-Day War (June 1967)
  • The Yom Kippur War (1973)

In the above wars, Israel withstood 4-10 opposing armies. Against overwhelming odds, Israel always won. Today, we see the fulfillment of multiple prophecies:

  • Ezekiel Chapter 37 and many other passages predict the re-gathering and restoration of the Jewish nation.
  • Isaiah 35:1 says, “The desert shall blossom as the rose.”
  • Ezekiel 37:10 foretells that Israel will become a great army.

Today, the Israelis are the most creative and innovation people in the world. Their army has become so strong that their Arab neighbors don’t dare take on another full-fledged war. As shown in the next 15-sec. link, they can only resort to terror and harassment. IDF Soldiers being “Peacefully” Stoned.

It’s been 70 years since the start of the War of Independence. It’s been 45 years since the 1973 Yom Kippur war. Israel continues to prosper, and gain military strength.

Today is 5/4/18. In just ten days, May 14, 2018, Israel will celebrate her 70th Anniversary. History repeats, and 70 is a significant biblical number. After 70 years, I’m looking for a repeat of an earlier restoration that happened after the Babylonian Captivity.

I Daniel understood by books the number of the years, whereof the word of the Lord came to Jeremiah the prophet, that he would accomplish seventy years in the desolations of Jerusalem. (Daniel 9:2b)

Once Babylon fell to Persia, the Lord moved the King.

Thus saith Cyrus king of Persia, The Lord God of heaven hath given me all the kingdoms of the earth; and he hath charged me to build him an house at Jerusalem, which is in Judah. (Ezra 1:2)

So just how significant is the number 70? In Psalms 90:10, Moses writes, “The days of our years are threescore years and ten.” David was born on the festival of Shavuot, and died 70 years later on his birthday. It was God who established the Jews as the eternal people. It was David who established Jerusalem as the eternal city.

May 14, 2018 was Israel’s 70th Anniversary. May 20 will be the anniversary of David’s 70 years on this earth. So what am I expecting? A miracle that will bring the Israeli people to faith! Before the end of the Age, something good must happen for Israel.

The Final Generation
In Luke Chapter 21, Jesus foretells what will happen to the Jewish people from 70 AD until the Second Coming of Christ. The following is history:

  • The destruction of the Temple in 70 AD.
  • The destruction of Jerusalem in 70 AD.
  • The dispersion and persecution of the Jews.
  • The re-gathering and restoration of Israel in 1948.
  • The return of Jerusalem to Israel in 1967.

Israel is now flourishing and prospering, but we ARE approaching the end of the final generation. Still, lots of trouble lies ahead.

Jacob’s Trouble
Please read Jeremiah 30:5-7, and try to predict what could bring Israel to the state of fearfulness Jeremiah predicts.

For thus saith the Lord; We have heard a voice of trembling, of fear, and not of peace.

Ask ye now, and see whether a man doth travail with child? wherefore do I see every man with his hands on his loins, as a woman in travail, and all faces are turned into paleness?

Alas! for that day is great, so that none is like it: it is even the time of Jacob’s trouble, but he shall be saved out of it. (Jeremiah 30:5-7)

The Great Depression lasted from 1930-1941. It’s only a matter of time until that historical event will be repeated on a much larger scale. If that happens, Islam will suddenly come to power, but Israel will be saved. Read Jeremiah 30:5-7 again, and tell me if it doesn’t fit.

If I see things correctly, the West has gotten into such debt as to make a depression inevitable. It may be the time of Jacob’s trouble; but due to our feminized society, it will be the time of America’s calamity.


God intended for men to govern.

  • In the home!
  • In the nation!

When women govern alongside men, The Tyranny of Feelings takes over. Feelings become more important than truth. Eventually the entire nation is infected. To govern according to one’s feelings is a weakness. The tragedy is that multitudes see sexual “equality” as strength rather than as weakness.

The feminization of society is bad enough in good times. During a depression, a feminized society will be a disaster area. The Old Testament accurately describes our current condition.

The mighty men of Babylon have forborne to fight, they have remained in their holds: their might hath failed; they became as women: they have burned her dwelling places; her bars are broken. (Jeremiah 51:30)

“The mighty men have become as women”; that tells you that men and women are different.

“Their might has failed them”; that tells you that feminized males are defenseless.

“They have burned her dwelling places; her bars are broken”; that tells you the enemy has defeated the mighty men. It also tells you the mighty men are no longer mighty.

That is where we stand today, and there’s no turning back. As I will say again and again, there is a remedy, but it’s an individual one. Those who are right with God will be saved.

The best example of legitimate governance is that of the newly founded United States of America. It was founded on Christian principles, and only certain men were franchised to vote.

My Goal
My goal is to make this message available to every man in the English-speaking world. I’m doing this as an act of obedience to the Lord.

In Chapter 13, I predict that the Antichrist will be Islamic. If I’m right, then every soul will then convert or face the sword. As I explain later, I believe those in right relationship with the Lord will be in heaven, rather than on earth.

How you respond to this message is between you and God. Let me put it another way: If not a soul agrees with me, it’s okay. But if even one marriage is rescued, or one man is corrected in his thinking, the angels and I will celebrate.

Three Types of People

  • Some people make things happen.
  • Some people watch things happen.
  • Some people wonder what happened.

For almost 40 years, my primary goal has been to please the Lord. I work in partnership with God. I make good things happen.

Those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened are just bystanders. They live to please themselves.

Those who lie, cheat, and steal are in partnership with the devil. That includes Muslims, Democrats, and far too many Republicans. They make bad things happen.

Read The Everlasting Hatred, by Hal Lindsey for the Muslim story. Watch the film, Hillary’s America, by Dinesh D’Souza for the hidden history of the Democratic Party. Harry Truman and Ronald Reagan—men of integrity—were affiliated with the Democratic Party. If they had seen Hillary’s America, they would never have been Democrats. Reagan left the Democratic Party in 1962.

 The Post-Truth Era
Ralph Keyes wrote a book by that title, The Post-Truth Era. We have “progressed” from the Era of Truth to a Post-Truth Era. How did that happen?

America was founded on Christian principles, but for the past 100 years our society has put feelings over truth. In Christian homes, the wife is often in charge. Her feelings prevail. Let’s see what Jesus has to say about truth.

Then said Jesus to those Jews who believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. (John 8:31-32, emphasis added)

A man I admired for over 25 years gave the best definition of truth I’ve heard.

Truth is everything as God sees it—Arthur Katz

Under the leadership of women like Susan B. Anthony, America and the entire Western World have increasingly become a feelings-driven culture. Jesus didn’t say that feelings would make you free.

To say we have a feminized culture would be an understatement.

  • Truth takes a backseat to feelings.
  • Feelings override truth.
  • Feelings replace truth.
  • Feelings rule.

If truth will make you free, what can be expected when feelings are supreme?

  • Deceit and deception!
  • Enmity & Strife!
  • Marital conflict!
  • Broken relationships!
  • Wayward children!
  • Non-relational adults!
  • Dysfunctional adults!
  • Muslims and Liberals!
  • War!

So what will truth make you free from? Most of the above!

In America and the West, feelings are now Queen. Western Civilization is now imploding. To be saved from calamity requires an individual commitment to truth. Those in right relationship with God will be saved.

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Another Voice
How could an entire society—family-by-family—stray so drastically from the truth as to destroy itself? George Franklin Gilder and I share the same birth-year, 1939. Are we the last to understand what has been happening, right before our eyes? The following quotation is from Wikipedia:

Gilder is a conservative American investor, writer, and economist. In the 1970s, Gilder established himself as a critic of feminism and government welfare policies, arguing that they eroded the “sexual constitution” that civilized and socialized men in the roles of fathers and providers.

His book entitled, Sexual Suicide, was published in 1973. He updated that book with, Men and Marriage, published in 1986. Gilder writes in just social terms, while my paper is based on the Bible. Our warnings of impending calamity are the same. I now give a quotation from the Preface of, Men and Marriage:

Though rejecting feminist politics and lesbian posturing, American culture has absorbed the underlying ideology like a sponge. The principal tenets of sexual liberation or sexual liberalism—the obsolescence of masculinity and femininity, of sex roles, and of heterosexual monogamy as the moral norm—have diffused through the system and become part of America’s conventional wisdom. Taught in most of the nation’s schools and colleges and proclaimed insistently in the media, sexual liberalism prevails, even where feminism seems increasingly irrelevant.

Like Islam, Liberalism is driven by lies. Both are suicidal. The only difference has to do with timing. “Sexual Suicide” just takes longer.

The Truth Shall Make You Free
Jesus was referring to diligent people who follow through sufficiently to know deeper truth.

  • Truth that leads to Salvation.
  • Truth that leads to good relationships.
  • Truth that leads to good marriages.
  • Truth that results in well-adjusted children.
  • Truth that leads to peace.

In this paper, I refer to Jews and Christians as God’s people. Some of them carefully practice truth. Others are careless with truth.

Not God’s People
There’s another group that are NOT God’s people. They’re blind to truth, and they aren’t free. Long ago, Pontius Pilate asked Jesus, “What is truth?” For him and multitudes today, truth is thought to be relative, rather than Absolute—whatever works!

In Paul’s letter that follows, he refers to those who have rejected revealed truth. All they have to offer is an opinion; they will sacrifice truth on the altar of self.

2 Thessalonians Chapter 2 begins with the Rapture, which is followed by the Antichrist. He then refers to the wicked described above.

And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth that they might be saved. (2 Thessalonians 2:10, emphasis added)

And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness. (2 Thessalonians 2:11-12, emphasis added)

“Strong delusion, that they should believe a lie.” These are NOT God’s people; they include Muslims and Left-leaning Westerners. So why are Liberals so deceived? Strong delusion sent by the Lord!

A One-World Government
At the Tower of Babel, Genesis Chapter 11, they tried to establish the first one-world government, but God confounded their language. A one-world government will never happen, but that doesn’t stop sinful man from trying.

Satan has inspired men who, by deceit and deception, are moving us in that direction. “Egalitarianism” and Environmentalism are being used to destroy Western economies.

To be more specific: “Equality” Marriage, Energy Conservation, Recycling, Endangered species, the Ozone-depletion Theory, and Global Warming are key weapons in their arsenal to destroy Western Civilization.

Islam is also a key part of the effort to destroy our culture. (But more than anything else, they want to destroy Israel.)

Western globalists want a secular one-world government. Muslims want a one-world Islamic theocracy. For now, they are partners in crime. I repeat: When it comes to deceit and deception, they are both masters.

What if a one-world system did become a reality, but it turned out to be an Islamic theocracy? Wouldn’t the Western Leftists be surprised! As my mother would say:

Today’s anti-Trump demonstrators are “showing their tails,” but tomorrow they’ll be dragging their tails.

Under the new world-order, they’d be bowing toward Mecca. I cannot think of a greater humiliation for Western globalists—Democrats, Liberal professors, agnostics and atheists! “Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools.” (Romans 1:22)

Partners In Crime
Socialists, Liberals, Muslims, Feminists, Black Lives Matter, and Gays appear to be working together to destroy our American way of life. So what do they have in common? It is Collectivism vs. Individual Freedom. For them, “The enemy of my enemy is my friend!” That is clearly revealed in the next one-minute video—this is awesome!




Fig 5-1, Partners in Crime

Individual Freedom 

Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty. (2 Corinthians 3:17)

America was founded on Christian principles. As shown in Scripture—from beginning to end—God’s dealings have always been with individuals. Never with the collective! For example, Salvation (or damnation) is an individual Choice—not a collective Choice!

The goal of Islam and the Left is Authoritarian Control. And that is contrary to the God of the Bible.

Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. (Revelation 3:20)

In contrast to Islam and the Left. the Lord will never break down the door.

And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely. (Revelation 22:17, emphasis added)

Good Government
A rich and powerful King lives in heaven. He wants to adopt you as his son, but you must trust Him. To show His love, he sent His Son to die for you. Finally, to show  that He’s for real, this King brought His dead Son back to life, and took Him to heaven. Finally, He promises to send His Son back to get you. (If you should die before His Son returns, you’ll be resurrected.)

To qualify for adoption, you must agree to put yourself under His authority. Would you trust this King? But the King is in heaven, while you’re still on earth. The King has a Book called the Bible; it tells you how to have a good marriage. Would you take His Book seriously?

Good Government Starts At Home
In America: Good, traditional marriage was once taken for granted. That is no longer true, but still there are many good marriages. Strangely, it often has no connection to Christianity.

I discussed Patricia Lassiter in Chapters 3 & 4. Her parents had a traditional marriage. She learned marriage from the example set by her parents and from Scripture. At 24, she married. Later she became a Christian, but she already understood her role as a wife. Her children have learned from their mother. Her daughters now have good biblical marriages.

Anytime a husband is a benevolent leader, and his wife follows that leadership, they will have a good marriage. If both husband and wife are godly people, they’ll have a heavenly marriage. Their marriage will prepare them for heaven. They will serve one another out of love. Never by compulsion!

God’s design, for marriage, is that the woman influences, but the man decides—it shouldn’t be that difficult! He’s the authority and the manager. She’s the adviser and the homemaker. When two people love and respect one another, they’ll have a great marriage and well-adjusted children.

God Said So
According to Creation Order, a husband is the head-of-the-house. God said so.

Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. (Genesis 3:16b)

To rule is merely to govern. Unlike Islam, God never advocates tyranny.

We’ve tried to change God’s order, and the results haven’t been pretty. This paper is an affirmation to those who believe Genesis 3:16, and a challenge to those who don’t understand.

Life And Godliness
From the beginning, marriage hasn’t fared that well. In the Old Testament, they had cumulative polygamy. Today, we have sequential polygamy. But is marriage really that important? I contend that life is a preparation for eternity, and marriage is the crucible. Paul summarizes marriage in just 12 verses.

Ephesians 5:22-33 tells wives to submit to their husbands, and husbands to love their wives. Paul compares marital submission-and-love to the relationship between Christ and the Church. In just two verses, he equates the oneness of a husband and his wife to the oneness between Christ and His church.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5:31-32)

What is meant by, “For this cause?” The cause is the relationship between Christ and the Church, and marriage is the supreme means for molding and illustrating a heavenly, eternal relationship. And P.S. both marriages—earthly and heavenly—are a great mystery. (In the Bible, there is only one other great mystery.)

So how important is marriage? Things don’t end when you die; you’re just getting started. I’m here to tell you:

A bad marriage can be turned around—I’ve done it!

Three Types of Religious People

  • Those who live to please the Lord!
  • Those who live to please themselves!
  • Those who live to please the devil!

Muslims, and many on the Left, live to please the devil. Too many Christians live to please themselves. Some Christians live to please the Lord.

It took me 32 years to turn my bad marriage around. Now for my secret: I live to please the Lord. Even if you are one of the few who live for Jesus, there’s no guarantee that you’ll save your bad marriage, but that’s what worked for me.

What about those on the Left? They claim to be secular—nonsense! They’re out there picking up aluminum cans and plastic bottles. Environmentalism is their religion. They are the earth dwellers spoken of in Luke 21:35.

Cultural Marriage
Two significant cultures come to mind: Islamic culture and Western “egalitarianism.” Adherents to both of these cultures almost always have bad marriages. So what does it take for an American or other Westerner to have a good marriage? You have to be counter-cultural, or you have to be lucky.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2a, emphasis added)

A biblical marriage is counter-cultural. My neighbor has a great marriage, but he’s not a Christian—he’s lucky! He’s a natural leader, and his wife’s a natural follower. So he has a biblical marriage, even though he’s not a Christian. He’s a great neighbor, despite the fact that he’s a Liberal.

Most people have a cultural marriage. If you conform to the culture you’ll lose; your kids will lose; your descendants will lose.

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee … seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children. (Hosea 4:6, emphasis added)

Because Thou Hast Rejected Knowledge
God has revealed himself in the Bible. He wants to relate to us. Yet few people read Scripture. Even fewer obey the Bible. They continue to reject knowledge. The Lord sends special messengers (preachers and teachers) who interpret the Word, but Christians aren’t listening.

I don’t expect to change Western culture—I have no illusions! Any change will be on an individual basis. In the book of Revelation, eight times, the Lord promises rewards to those who overcome the culture. If you do marriage and family God’s way, you’ll win—not just for this life, but forever!

I Will Also Forget Thy Children
What I do as a husband and father rubs off on my wife and children. My most significant accomplishment in life was how the Lord and I rescued my wife from her “equality” mindset. I influenced my wife and daughter for godliness—not by tyranny, but by persuasion! And it happened BEFORE she came down with Alzheimer’s.

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More Easily Deceived
“Egalitarianism,” the idea that men and women are the same, must be the third most serious and destructive idea in human history. So just how destructive is it?

The following two passages make it clear that a woman is more vulnerable to deception than a man.

And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:14)

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel. (1 Peter 3:7a)

Part of a woman’s weakness—the weaker vessel—is that she’s more easily deceived. That’s why a woman must be submitted to a man—her father and then her husband! In the traditional “giving away” of the bride, the father transfers his authority to his new son-in-law.

Scott Lively has an ongoing commentary on how our corrupt political system impacts the family. His website is http://ScottLively.Net. My next quotation has been taken from one of his articles:

There’s a good reason that both men and women were once subject to a Bible-based system in which men traded sexual freedom for control and women traded independence for security: it was the only way to channel human nature away from the destructive consequences of self-centeredness into the mutually beneficial family-centered structure that is the foundational prerequisite to healthy civilization.

The biblical model that served civilization so well for so very long is summarized in Ephesians, Chapter 5: the duty of a man is to protect and to cherish his wife above his own life. The duty of a women is to defer to first her father and then her husband, and to respect their authority as God’s provision for the security and happiness of herself and her children.

Love And Submit
To love and submit requires compromise, sensitivity, and humility. Both husband and wife must be teachable. The loving husband will respect the opinion of his wife. The submissive wife will respect the authority of her husband. She will influence in a way that glorifies God—in a responsible way! He will decide to the glory of God.

There should NEVER be an argument. Discussion, yes! Argument, no! When husband and wife argue, the children become insecure. When parents of their friends divorce, that increases their insecurity. When their parents divorce, the kids are usually devastated.

If you want to see good male/female relationships, read the book of Ruth. There are four chapters, and seven significant people. The women submitted, and the man loved. They were godly people who lived according to the Great Commandment. There is no record of a sin, a battle, a conflict, or an argument. Later Paul writes as follows:

For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. (Galatians 5:14)

When husbands and wives follow Galatians 5:14, they’ll have good kids. Count on it!

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Chapter 6, Disenfranchised Males

When it comes to correcting bad marriages, I consider Created To Be His Help Meet, by Debi Pearl, to be the very best. The letters from distraught wives must be in the hundreds. More often than not, the husband is a jerk. How did that happen? Are there no good men to pick from?

If a man is a good husband, he probably had a good mother. If he’s a jerk—like I was—he probably had a lousy mother. The bad guys greatly outnumber the good ones. So what does that tell you? There’s a shortage of good mothers.

Because the home is her domain, a wife has the power. If a take-charge wife reads Debi’s book, if she learns to be a Help Meet to her husband, she will be a good wife and a good mother. Her good marriage will insure that her sons will be good husband material.

Just because her mother-in-law gave a bad husband to her, doesn’t mean she must give her daughter-in-law a difficult husband. The chain can be broken.

On P.35 of The Abolition of Man, C.S. Lewis writes the following:

We continue to clamour for those very qualities we are rendering impossible. … In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honour and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful. (Emphasis added)

About 50 years ago, a lady on television said the following: “A woman wants love. A man wants cooperation.” The Lord created men and women with unique natures; they are perfectly suited to the roles He assigned them!

  1. The woman was made for the support role—she needs to be loved and appreciated! In Ephesians 5:25, husbands are told to love their wives.
  2. The man was made to be the family manager. He needs cooperation. In Ephesians 5:24, wives are told to cooperate with their husbands.

Over about 100 years, our society has become increasingly feminized. Today’s husband gets little cooperation from his wife. (His wife gets little love.) The result has been the disenfranchised male, who becomes little more than a sperm donor. His aggressive nature causes him to be disruptive and even dangerous. A large billboard declares: Stop The Violence! But no one seems to identify the reason for that violence.

A disenfranchised male will usually try to prove himself. I once bought a house on my lunch period, without consulting my wife. (I wanted to show I was the boss.) Later, I discovered it was down the road from a junkyard. I surrendered my earnest money.

The Black American male has been disenfranchised to the detriment of everyone. Largely, the fault lies with Lyndon Johnson’s Great Society [enslavement] program. Click HERE for the original link to the source of the statistics I give below.


Amount of people in poverty would drop – 34%,
The prison population would go down by -37%,
Welfare recipients would go down by – – – 42%,
Gang members would go down by – – – – – 53%

Chlamydia cases would go down – – – – – – 54%,
Homelessness would go down – – – – – – – -57%
Syphilis would go down  – – – – – – – – – – – – 58%.
AIDS & HIV would go down by – – – – – – – -65%,
Gonorrhea would go down – – – – – – – – – – -69%,

Average ACT scores would go UP – – – – – 5.5 points.
Average IQ would go UP – – – – – – – – – – – -7.4 points,  putting us 3rd in the world tied with Japan,
Average SAT scores would go UP almost – – – – -100 points,
The average income for Americans would go UP over $20,000 a year,


And, many criminal defense attorneys would have to find another line of work!

On p.146 of Created To Be His Help Meet, Debi Pearl writes that men were created to be leaders and rulers.

“Kings And Kingdoms”
God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever rule is their own little kingdom called home. At the least, every man’s destiny is to be the leader of his household. To deny him this birthright is contrary to his nature and God’s will. When a man is not in command of his little kingdom and is not shown the deference and reverence that goes with that position, his household will not be ruled correctly, and the subjects of that kingdom will not experience the benevolence of a king who truly loves and cherishes them. When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children, and your husband. (Emphasis added)

In today’s world, “neglect” has given way to usurpation. The disenfranchised male is the rule—not the exception! I was a disenfranchised male. Here’s how it happened. My father’s parents never married, and back then it was a disgrace. Dad lacked confidence. My maternal grandfather was heavy-handed.

My mother was ready for a man she could control. Mom became the family governor. In so doing, she programmed all six of her surviving children for female leadership. Her sons were disenfranchised, and her daughters became controlling wives.

I was frustrated. At 28, I found a counselor who said, “Russell, I’m not telling you to cut the apron strings; I’m telling you to cut the umbilical cord.” It took me about ten years, but I overcame my improper mothering.

The masculine deprivation gets passed from generation to generation—father, son, grandson, etc.—unless someone has the humility and fortitude to break the cycle! The Lord and I broke the cycle, but it wasn’t easy. Disenfranchised men can be pretty aggressive.

George Gilder wrote Sexual Suicide, and then later Men and Marriage. He saw the abolition of distinct and separate sexual roles as a serious threat to our society. What follows doesn’t surprise me. This is not rocket science.

Church Shootings
Sutherland Springs, TX—Nov. 5, 2017­: Devin Patrick Kelley, 26, killed 26 and wounded at least 20 at First Baptist. Kelley is now dead.

Fresno, CA—Nov. 5, 2017: Manuel Garcia, 64, shot his wife and her boyfriend at St. Alphonsus Catholic Church. Garcia took his own life.

Antioch, TN—Sept. 24. 2017: Emanuel Samson, 25, killed one person and shot six others at Burnette Chapel Church of Christ. He has been charged with murder.

Charleston, S.C.—June 15, 2015: Dylann Roof, 23, killed nine people at Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church. Roof is on death row.

Knoxville, TN—July 27, 2008: Jim Adkisson killed two people and wounded six others at the Tennessee Valley Unitarian Church. He is serving a life-sentence.

Brookfield, Wis.—March 12, 2005: Terry Ratzman, 44, killed seven people and injured four at a church service in a hotel.

Fort Worth, TX—Sept. 15, 1999: Larry Ashbrook killed seven and hurt seven others at Wedgwood Baptist Church. He later took his own life.

The Las Vegas Shooting
October 1, 2017: Stephen Paddock, 64, killed 58 and wounded over 500 at the “Route 91 Harvest Music Festival.”

The Florida High School Shooting
February 14, 2018: Nikolas Cruz, 19, killed 17 and wounded 16 at the Marjorie Stoneham Douglas HS in Parkland FL.

THE SHOOTERS WERE ALL MEN—most likely disenfranchised men!

Fatherless Children
Children raised in fatherless homes, especially black children, are more likely to be irresponsible or criminals. The NFL has more than their share.

  • Antonio Cromartie has 12 children, by 9 different women.
  • Travis Henry has 11 children, by 10 women.
  • Willis McGahee has 9 children, by 8 women.
  • Derrick Thomas has 7 children, by 5 women.
  • Bennie Blades has 6 children, by 6 women.
  • Ray Lewis has 6 children, by 4 women.
  • Marshall Faulk has 6 children, by 3 women.

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What Went Wrong

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. (2 Timothy 3:1)

Read 2 Timothy 3:2-13, and see the sins that have impacted our families. Both Christians and unbelievers have succumbed to the allurements of affluence and technology. This has been an end-times challenge, without historical precedent. The few who pass the test are referred to in Scripture as Overcomers.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2a, emphasis added)

Traditional Marriage
The husband was the breadwinner, and the wife was the homemaker. Marriage and family were marked by distinct roles for men and women. Children were loved and nurtured. They grew up to be responsible citizens who could be trusted.

Contemporary Marriage
Husbands no longer lead, and wives no longer follow. Husbands and wives both work, while the kids are left with strangers. Children are no longer being educated; instead they’re being brainwashed.

The Western World is full of people I call adult children, e.g. the entire Democratic Party. Everyone wants something for nothing. Love has become a lost commodity. Rules, Regulations, and Procedures have taken the place of relationship.


And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18, emphasis added)

The woman was created to help her husband succeed as the family authority and provider. This interdependence leads to family relationships. That in turn leads to heavenly relationships between each individual and his God.

“Egalitarianism” has removed God-ordained interdependence, and replaced it with independence. Marriages and families are destroyed. The State then lures individuals into the larger family that is described by Dinesh D’Souza, in his best selling book, The big Lie. 

The larger family appears as different forms of Socialism that go by the names Fascism, Nazism, Communism, Progressivism, and the Democrat Party. Authority no longer belongs to the father or to God the Father, but to an all-powerful State that sees itself as God. Freedom is but a memory.

In the absence of children, if a woman has sufficient funds and a good security system, she can get along quite well without a man. In so doing she misses her entire calling which is to be a man’s help meet.

The Bible says it is not good for a man to be alone. But the woman who chooses to be alone leaves some man alone. (Women instigate divorce far more often than do men.) The result of female independence is antipathy between the sexes, sexual harassment, and sexual violence.

The attempt to make everyone equal has led to conflict first in the home, and then in society. Few grown kids even know how to work. For all the good that comes from home schooling, it becomes an opportunity for a woman to replace her husband as head-of-the-house.

God NEVER said, “It is not good for the woman to be alone.” Women do much better alone than do men. But the ultimate result is dreadful. Relationship between man and wife is a thing of the past, relationship between God and man is history.

Fascism, Nazism, Communism, Progressivism, and the Democrat Party are man’s ideas that seek to replace the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. They have never succeeded, and they never will. “Egalitarianism” is the most dreadful sin to ever afflict the Western World. Yet Christians have swallowed the “Big Lie,” hook-line-and-sinker.

The Butthole Wife
I read the following article, and found it touching. Then I realized that the author, like so many in the Western World, is a victim of “egalitarianism.”

I use quotes with “egalitarian” because there is no such thing. Someone will always end up on top, and that is especially true in marriage. So who becomes boss? The wife! I quote from Woman and The Republic—p.128

If a man really could “share his sovereignty,” there might be some show of reason in the Suffrage claim that he should do so. But unless he can abdicate the very essentials of his sex condition, he cannot abdicate his sovereignty.

His sex condition was established at Creation. So to abdicate male sovereignty, one must first do away with the sovereignty of God. That has been Satan’s goal from the beginning.

It appears that Debbie Wilkins Baisden is a sincere Christian woman who has been taken by “equality” marriage. In our culture, it’s assumed to be gospel, even though it violates Scripture.

What is a butthole wife? Baisden doesn’t tell us, and no one seems to know, but I think I’ve figured it out: She starts out being a pain in the neck. But, with time, the pain keeps getting lower until it settles in the butt.

Before I comment further, I invite you to read her article.

Stop Being a Butthole Wife, written by, Debbie Wilkins Baisden.

Stop being a butthole wife. No, I’m serious. End it.

Let’s start with the laundry angst. I get it; the guy can’t find the hamper. It’s maddening. It’s insanity. Why, why, must he leave piles of clothes scattered, the same way that the toddler does, right? I mean, grow up and help out around here, man. There is no laundry fairy.

What if that pile of laundry is a gift in disguise from a God you can’t (yet) see?  Don’t roll your eyes; hear me out on this one.

I was a butthole wife. Until my husband died!

The day my husband left earth for heaven, all of my marriage problems vanished. There was no one to fuss at, negotiate with, or play possum at bedtime (you know, when you pretend you’re asleep to bypass sex).

Marriage is designed to be a reflection of Christ’s love for His people. It’s supposed to be beautifully harmonious and intimate. How often I screwed that up with bickering and manipulating. I wanted a perfect husband who acted how I wanted, and if that didn’t happen, well, butthole wife was in full effect. If only he could understand how right I was and how wrong he’d always be. I needed to instruct him, question him, and remind him of his shortcomings. After all, I was his “helpmate.”

The reality is, I wasn’t helping him or our marriage. By pointing out each fault, I was poisoning the relationship. Oh, it was still a good marriage and we deeply loved each other, but it was not what it could have been. And now it was too late.

Days after his funeral, I stared at our dirty clothes-basket that sat atop our dryer, knowing his clothes were inside. I sighed so deeply. Before me was the last load of laundry I would ever wash for that sweet man. There would be no more dirty socks to pick up around the house. Ever.

A week before I would have rolled my eyes at that basket. But now, it held priceless treasures. I waited weeks to wash those clothes. My heart ached for dirty socks to once more be a part of my days.

Those messes dotted around the house are reminders of God’s gifts to us. Like Jesus, we have the opportunity to demonstrate love by serving those we live with. And the last time I checked, not a single person is perfect. How many times had my husband kept quiet, listened, and endured? He shared no list of ways that I needed refinement. He simply loved me.

Those clothes were painfully cleaned and boxed away or donated. The tears, countless.

And God, the Lover of my soul, in His infinite mercy, later gave me a special gift. He has allowed me to love again, to wear a second wedding dress, and to be a better wife. I married a wonderful man. I am still a butthole wife, but I am working on edifying the man who provides for my sons and me. I now strive to hug more and nag less. My goal is to make him feel respected, important, valued. I want to live love.

Recently, I walked into the master bedroom and I stopped, nearly bursting into tears. I saw a pile of dirty clothes that my new husband had abandoned on the floor. As I stared at the pile, I smiled. I knew he had hurried to change out of work clothes into comfy clothes so he could spend time with his new family. He had chosen what is more important. I happily scooped the treasures into my arms and carried them to the washing machine.


I get to do this! I get to serve! I get to live with a wonderful man who ditches laundry for people.

“Let us not become weary in doing good.” (Galatians 6:9)

Creation Order
Debbie has provided information, while expressing her feelings—tears come to my eyes! I’m a man, but part of my nature is sensitive—almost feminine! I weep for what could have been, but never was. Along with my feminine sensitivities, I’m an unusually objective man. The Lord has given me insight that few people—men or women—have.

What Debbie has described in The Butthole Wife, are just symptoms of a much deeper problem. Hugging more and nagging less will not solve this problem—it’s foundational!

God made a man to be his representative on earth. The woman was created to help the man represent God. Men have done a terrible job as God’s representatives. So it’s pretty tough for a woman to help an irresponsible man. The result has been:

  • Men are living for themselves rather than for God.
  • Women are trying to do a man’s job and, of course, they’re failing.

What seemed necessary has become a generational curse. Correction will come only through great endurance. In marriage, the two should become one flesh.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)

From the one he made two. Then from the two he makes one—C. Russell Yates

For that to happen, they must have separate and distinct roles as spelled out in Scripture. But that is completely foreign to this generation.

God gave the husband an objectivity that puts truth before feelings. He absolutely must be in charge, and he must faithfully represent his Maker. If his wife serves as his help meet, they will complement one another. For now, this will only happen one marriage at a time.

In contemporary marriage, the two remain two; they never become one.

The Cultural Disorder
In so-called equality marriage, the wife always ends up in charge—even for Christians! I’m reading between the lines, but as I see it, Debbie has a new husband; still, she’s in charge. And that’s despite the fact that Scripture clearly identifies the husband as the head-of-the-house.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24, emphasis added)

Christian men and women, who don’t accept the idea of male headship, are refusing the headship of Christ over the Church. Is that serious or what?

The following quotation is from The Everlasting Hatred, by Hal Lindsey, p. 200.

It is a fearful thing to defy the Word of the living God. If you don’t believe that, buckle up.

Hal is talking about the disintegration of the British Empire that occurred because they ignored God’s prophetic Word on Israel.

I’m talking about the disintegration of Christian families that is occurring because we’ve ignored God’s mandate that calls for distinct male/female roles in marriage.

Our marriages and families are in shambles, and we Christians have not yet made the connection. In amazement, we just wring our hands over the carnage. Hey! Christians divorce as often as do unbelievers.

Detail Oriented Vs. Big Picture
Women are more detail oriented. That’s what is needed to nurture children, but it’s exactly what is NOT needed to be in charge at home. Women, who try to run things, get caught up in the details and miss the big picture.

The Entire Picture
When it comes to convenience, preferences, and sensibilities, compromise like crazy. In short, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” (Ephesians 5:21). That is a more feminine calling.

When it comes to truth, morality, and principles, stand fast. Immovable! “Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all to stand” (Ephesians 6:13). That is a more masculine calling.

Knowing when to submit and when to stand, is paramount. Most people have it backwards. On the details, women stand fast, when they should yield. When it comes to principles, men give in when they should stand fast.

There are no easy answers, but there are simple answers. We must have the courage to do what is morally right—Ronald Reagan

When a woman assumes the headship role, details like picking up after a husband become glaring. She will naturally begin to “train” her man.

In her book, Created To Be His Help Meet, Debbie Pearl tells how Michael broke a bag of refuse, and then left her to pick it up. Debbie humbly submitted to the task.

Most men are big picture—that’s the way God made them! They make important decisions, and do so objectively. Still, they can be pretty messy. But there are exceptions, and I want to tell our story. Like most engineers, I’m detail oriented. Super detail oriented!

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Our Story
A friend, Lena Junek, was lecturing Theresa and me, on that very subject, when Theresa interrupted: “Not in our house!” she said.

I’m an unusually detailed man while Theresa is an unusually big picture woman. If something was broken, I had it fixed before Theresa even knew it needed fixing. But we were the exception.

For the past six years, Theresa has had Alzheimer’s. For the past year, she has been in a nursing home. I’m now alone, but even when Theresa was with me, I would not leave dirty clothes, etc. for her to pick up.

Once a month, a lady cleans my house. Maria said, “You’re not a messy guy.” My point is this: In defending messy men, I’m not defending myself. A fellow contractor said to me: “You’re too organized to suit me.”

My attention to detail, and being organized, is God’s gift to me and to my readers. I’m able to objectively organize facts (the truth) and present them in an understandable way.

A man’s primary weakness is his need for sex. A woman desires sex, but it’s not urgent. The following anonymous quotation came from a friend:

Sex for a woman means that: She had a good day at work, they didn’t spill the groceries, she isn’t tired, the house is clean, the kids aren’t rowdy, the wine must be correct for the occasion, and the correct music must be playing for the right ambience. For men, sex is like air. If we don’t get it regularly, we die.

Elisabeth Elliot said a submissive wife strengthens her husband in his weakness. Even if she doesn’t feel like it, the godly wife submits to her husband’s NEED for sex. It is in giving herself, that she finds fulfillment. And Surprise! Surprise! She actually enjoys it.

Debbie Baisden talks about playing possum at bedtime (you know, when you pretend you’re asleep to bypass sex). By her own words, she admits that they have sex when she’s in the mood. That puts her in charge, rather than her husband. A wife who loves the Lord (and her husband) won’t withhold sex just because she’s not in the mood.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church … Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24, emphasis added)

In Everything
The Bible says a wife should be subject to her husband in everything. SHE empowers her husband. A wife who is not subject to her husband in everything is NOT subject to Christ. Is that serious or what?

  • A wife who submits in bed will submit to her husband’s authority.
  • A wife who doesn’t submit in bed will not submit to his authority.

In conclusion, the submission is all or nothing. God created the man with a sexual need. Then he created his wife to meet that need—it’s that simple! In her book, Created To Be His Help Meet, Debbie Pearl makes that clear. She joyfully makes herself available; she ministers to Michael’s need. As she puts it, “I’m a mighty good minister.”

The Need For Training
I don’t think Debbie Baisden is a devious or deceitful woman, but she does need training. “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). Mrs. Baisden needs to read Created To Be His Help Meet. If she has read it, she needs to, prayerfully, read it again.

In The Butthole Wife, we see her feelings on display, and we’re touched, but there’s something infinitely more important than feelings—the glory of God and the integrity of the Baisden family! I repeat and I emphasize: It’s truth that makes us free. There’s a place for feelings, but never at the expense of truth.

When it comes to marital roles—a man’s role and a woman’s role—truth is found in Scripture, and it’s Absolute. No room for negotiation! The failure to accept marital roles is a dreadfully serious and destructive sin.

Let me tell a family story that involves a cousin. Her grandmother was “big mama.” Her mother was “big mama.” She’s “big mama.” These things get passed down through the generations. And P.S. my explanation went into one ear and out the other. She likes being in charge, and that’s not going to change.

A Feminized Society
If you and your wife have a marital problem, it’s wrongly assumed that you’re at fault—almost always! Why is that? We live in a feminized society. One wife said, “I have to get Mark trained.” Does that not sound like the butthole wife?


For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. (Hebrews 12:6)

In this paper, I will refer to people in the Old Testament that God used for correction. I will also give examples from my experience. My goal is correction, not condemnation.

When we men take our proper place of leadership and authority, our women will find their proper place in the support role. But it won’t happen without a struggle.

As Elisabeth Elliot wrote:

The roles are not assigned on the basis of capability. They were determined at the beginning of Creation to be a man’s role and a woman’s role and again, we are not free to experiment, tamper with, or exchange them.

I’m telling you, this is serious: “Egalitarianism” is the most serious sin to afflict the West since the First Coming. In the book of Judges, the Israelites went through cycles.

  • They would go into idolatry.
  • God would allow their ungodly neighbors to oppress them.
  • They would cry out to the Lord.
  • God would raise up a judge, and deliver them.
  • They would have rest until the judge died.
  • Then they would repeat the cycle.

“Egalitarianism” is the idolatry of modern man. It’s also the idolatry of many Christians. It appears to me that, at the Second Coming, the Lord will use Islam to punish and correct the Western World. I don’t see another iteration. But there’s still time for repentance.

An Absolute Absolute
If there ever was a non-negotiable Absolute, it’s the matter of marital roles. I again quote a portion of Elizabeth Elliot’s words: “We are not free to experiment, tamper, or exchange them.” I’m going to give four traumatic examples.

(First Example)
If an attractive woman wants to be married, but hasn’t found a permanent relationship by the time she reaches 40, she is probably an argumentative girl. God created men to be in charge at home; it’s in their nature. When a prospective wife argues with her would-be, she insults his manhood.

Lady X is an argumentative woman; I’m her “adopted” father. She tells me things: One of her dates called her a smart-ass, and then totally checked out. With another man, her fiancé, she got into an argument. He tore the TV from the wall, and threw it at her. Then he grabbed a tomahawk. She fled, and didn’t look back. He tried to call 50 times, but she refused his calls.

This man obviously had something wrong with him, but what? From a masculine perspective, this is what I see: As the years rolled by, he had interacted with woman after woman—all of whom argued with him—all of whom insulted his manhood. The frustration accumulated until Lady X triggered an explosion. Lady X didn’t understand that. All she saw was the explosion.

(Second Example)
The above happened when Lady X was in her 30’s. Last Saturday I had lunch with her and her two children—she is now 41! She opened a book and a picture fell out. At age 20, she and a young man had lived together for a year. “What happened?” I asked. “He committed suicide,” she said. The two of them were arguing. Then he shot himself in the head. She was traumatized for two years.

Over the years, she had had several boyfriends. “How many of them did you argue with?” I asked. “All of them,” she replied. I told her to stop arguing with her man. She should tell him how she feels, and them let him decide. The next day she sent me a text.

Her girl friend had been trying to set her up with a divorced man who gets along with his ex. But she had refused. Her friend said, “Not everyone has strife like your family did, and some people get along for their kids sake.” She has agreed to take my advice. She’ll meet Jerry, and try not to argue.

(Third Example)
Sixty years ago, when I was a teenager, I really admired my Uncle Noel. On a vacation trip, he and his wife got into an argument. He committed suicide using a shotgun. She became a single mother, and was left with three children. (According to Dennis Prager, white males commit suicide more frequently than any other group.)

(Fourth Example)
As I tell elsewhere, my wife Theresa and I argued for 32 years. It was traumatic, but I didn’t commit suicide. I stood my ground until my wife repented. But the damage had already been done to our daughter. Deborah is a godly woman, but she was seriously affected by the arguments. Hey! Someone has to be in charge, and according to the Lord it’s the man.

Making The Connection
Failure to faithfully adhere to marital roles damages everyone in the family. Few Christians are able to make the connection. When their children go astray, they think the fault lies with the kid. Logic—even biblical truth—will seldom convince a modern woman.

I’m writing to men so THEY will make the connection. If I convince men, they can convince their wives. When women try to take over, it comes natural for men to do stupid things. DON’T! Do the spiritual thing: Love your wife as Christ loved the Church.

Just because I filed for divorce doesn’t mean you should. You have Scripture, the Holy Spirit and prayer. The Lord will show you what to do. Explain things to her from Scripture. Even if your wife doesn’t shape up, that’s no excuse for you. When the trumpet sounds you want to be ready even if she isn’t.

Here’s another approach: Love her so thoroughly she will become addicted to your love. Along the way, you can explain to her, from the Bible, that you’re supposed to be in charge. If persuasion doesn’t work, you might gently explain that you have no choice but to file for divorce.

Women don’t understand the nature of men, and they are clueless when a man reacts badly. But most women understand real love; the idea of losing a good, loving husband will persuade some women when words won’t. That has been my experience.

I rescued my wife from her “equality” mindset, and now she is safely home with the Lord. I encourage men to be as gentle as possible, but as firm as necessary. Try to present your wife blameless before the Lord—see Ephesians 5:24-27!

In Chapter 9, I tell that my mother was dominant in our family. I also tell the struggle I went through to recover from the damage she inflicted on us. I won’t retell it here, but I have another story—this time involving my in-laws!

Vito And Lucy Carucci
Theresa’s parents came up without significant problems. Pa was a pastor, who lived to be 92. Ma lived to be 96. They were godly people, but all three of their children had noteworthy problems.

The oldest was Mary, a godly woman who never married. There was a young man who liked Mary, but he had dirty fingernails, and that offended her feminine sensibilities. The next was John; he had serious relational problems. He never married, but died when he was 42. The next was Theresa, who became my wife. For 32 years, she fought me “tooth and nail” over every decision.

Why would such godly parents have problematic children? My mother-in-law was dominant. She assumed my father-in-law’s role, but she was not a usurper. They were both Italian immigrants, but Ma came to America as a child, whereas Pa immigrated as an adult. Her superior use of English naturally caused her to become the leader. Pa became the follower.

Children learn best by example. Inadvertently, by example, Ma taught her children that the mother should be in charge. All three children were programmed for female leadership.

One would think that godly parents would leave a godly posterity, but Vito and Lucy Carucci had only one grandchild and no great-grandchildren. I’m sure they never made the connection that I just described: If you want good children, the father must clearly be the head-of-the-house.

When it comes to marital roles and good kids, one’s faith or lack of faith doesn’t seem to make much difference. In this paper and in my letter, I refer to my agnostic neighbor; he has a good marriage and good children. There’s no substitute for male headship.

Traditional Parents
As I mentioned above, my godly in-laws had problematic children. As I have already discussed, Patricia Lassiter was born to traditional parents, who were casual in the Faith. She nurtured and homeschooled eight wholesome and well-adjusted children. The traditional marriage of her parents has been passed from generation to generation.

This lady has good children. (Good kids grow up to be secure, respectful, diligent, responsible, dependable, etc.) She is now the grandmother of 16 good kids. All because her parents had a traditional marriage!

Has anyone in their family ever understood why—that for at least three generations they have had good kids? They weren’t just lucky. The father has clearly been the head-of-the-house. We need to make the connection.

For a culture to continue, the average couple must have 2.11 children. The progeny of Vito and Lucy Carucci equals zero. As I indicated earlier, the progeny of Gerald and Patricia Lassiter now stands at 30. For two demographic reasons, Western Civilization is headed for collapse:

  1. Because of “Egalitarianism,” families are in disarray.
  2. Affluence! Women are in the work place, when they should be home rearing children.

As I explain throughout this paper, I believe this is part of the Lord’s ultimate plan for the world: Western Civilization will collapse, and the world will come under Islamic domination. I believe the collapse will be economic, rather than demographic, but the demise of Western Culture is a certainty—not if, but when!

The following 7.5 minute demographic link is 11 years old, but the fertility rates are probably accurate.

The Woman Is At Fault
In the Western World, almost every marital and family problem is a woman’s fault—either the man’s wife or his mother! Let me say it again: The woman is at fault. The mother is the nurturer. She shapes the next generation.

The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. (Proverbs 29:15)

It didn’t say, “bringeth his father to shame.”

The mother is the nurturer, but she needs the authority of her husband to discipline the children. When a woman refuses the authority of her husband, she, by example, teaches the children to disrespect and disobey their father. The shame the child brings to his mother is often self-inflicted.

But please understand: Feminine usurpation has been rampant since Women’s Suffrage. A controlling mother will damage both her male and female children. With successive generations, “the egg gets exceedingly scrambled.”

In summary: The woman, who tries to do her husband’s job, will fail to do her own job. The family will be a non-relational. Their children will be non-relational or dysfunctional.

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The Case For Christ
I recently saw a movie entitled, The Case for Christ. Lee Strobel is the husband of Leslie—they were both atheists! It was a touching story of how they found Christ—first Leslie, then Lee!

The problem was clearly on the masculine side, but Lee didn’t have a good father. Was his paternal grandmother the source of the problem? Or was it his paternal great-grandmother? Since the mother is the nurturer, every relational problem eventually goes back to a feminine failure.

Our new pastor was David Higgs. When I met his Dad, I commended him for bringing up such a godly son. He quickly set me straight: “It was his mother’s doing,” said Daddy Higgs.

Fault Vs. Responsibility
If your kid breaks a neighbor’s window, he’s at fault, but you’re responsible: You pay for the damages. If your kid goes astray, it will be your wife’s fault, but you will be responsible. In the Garden of Eden, the Original Sin was Eve’s fault, but Adam was held responsible—nothing has changed!


Is it possible for a man to understand a woman? It helps if you can have fun along the way. “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine” (Proverbs 17:22a). I think the following story is kool.

A man said to his wife: “How can someone so beautiful be so dumb?”

She replied: “The Lord made me beautiful so you could love me. He made me dumb so I could love you.”

Women are neither inferior nor superior to men—just different! Unfortunately, many modern women have been corrupted by “egalitarianism.”

If the following quotations ring true, you’re probably married to a modern “equality” wife.





I recall an interesting dialogue between Winston Churchill and Lady Astor.

“If you were my husband, I’d poison you,” said Lady Astor.

“If you were my wife, I’d drink it,” replied Churchill.

The Virtuous Woman
I’m touched by love stories, and that between Boaz and Ruth is my favorite.

 And now, my daughter, fear not; I will do to thee all that thou requirest: for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman. (Ruth 3:11, emphasis added)

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10)

I think it’s safe to say that virtuous women are rare—both in olden times and today.

For 32 years I was married to a contentious, “equality” wife. In April of 2002, she repented, and became a virtuous woman. Theresa has Alzheimer’s, and it appears that she will depart this life before me. I’ve lived alone now for over 3 years, and I don’t like it. I want another shot at marriage, and I’ll move heaven and earth to find a virtuous woman.

Speaking The Truth In Love
This paper is my testimony. A personal story can benefit others, but my experience has been this: Whenever a marriage has been salvaged, neither husband nor wife is willing to share their story with others.

The Bible tells everything, without using aliases. Rahab became a godly woman, but will forever be known as a former prostitute. David, the man after God’s own heart, has been recorded in Scripture as an adulterer and a murderer. Must God tell the whole world?

The Old Testament prophets were offensive. For Jeremiah’s testimony, they sought to kill him by putting him into a miry dungeon—See Jeremiah 38:1-14. They crucified Jesus because he was offensive. The entire Bible is offensive.

God’s calling for every man is to love God and serve others. That means we must risk everything. I put my reputation on the line to help others. Of necessity, I’m offensive.

The Challenge
The Bible says you can understand your wife. If you have a bad wife, it didn’t take you long to figure that out. I love quotations, and here’s one of my favorites.

By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher—Socrates

If you get a virtuous wife, you still need some training. I quote two passages as follows:

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:25)

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. (Colossians 3:19)

God tells me to love my wife; then He warns that it won’t be easy—be not bitter against her! But is it possible to understand her?

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge. (1 Peter 3:7a)

You need to understand women in general, and your wife in particular. I’ve been on this earth 78 years, and I’ve studied men and women. In this paper and in my companion book, http://TwoLoves.Net, I teach things you need to know. You can at least start to understand your wife, but it’ll take commitment and personal discipline. With the guidance of the Word and the Holy Spirit, you can make it happen.

The Spirit of Truth
Walid Shoebat was a PLO terrorist. His mother was a Christian, but his father was a Muslim. It was the “spirit of truth” that led him to buy a Bible. There he discovered the Gospel Truth, in contrast to the falsehood of Islam. I am writing this paper in the “spirit of truth.”

Today, we have a complete Bible, the testimony of Jesus’ Death, Burial, Resurrection, and Ascension, along with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Still, we’re surrounded by falsehood. “The whole world lieth in wickedness” (1 John 5:19b). We must embrace the spirit of truth; it will see us through this life, and to eternal life. We must love the praise of God over the praise of men—see John 12:42-43!


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Chapter 7, In the Image of Man

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27)

God made us for relationship—an everlasting one that is both heavenly and earthly!

And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent. (John 17:3)

But we, as created beings, have our own ideas. We want relationship, but on our terms. For the entirety of man’s existence, he has tried to re-create God is his image. Each man wants his own personal God. Below I give a menu from which men choose.

  • A visible God
  • An invented God
  • A procedural God
  • A social God
  • An all purpose God
  • A maybe God
  • No God

All of these ideas about God are but a fantasy based on feelings rather than on truth. God is Almighty, and you come to the Lord on His terms. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

This paper is about man’s attempt to re-create God in his image, and how it has affected our marriages, families, and people groups. I’ve given seven false ideas that men have about the Lord. One by one, I’ll now discuss these deceptions.


Very few men will trust an unseen God, but Job was such a man—he’s our example! During his severe trial, Job said, “Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him” (Job 13:15a).

The Israelites felt like they had to have a visible God. They couldn’t see the only True God, so they substituted a god of their own making.

Let me tell how it usually happens with God’s people: It comes natural for women to take the spiritual leadership—they do! It comes natural for men to follow women into sin—they do! The “Overcomer” doesn’t do what comes natural.

Jewish Idolatry
Exodus Chapter 32 tells how the Israelites made a golden calf to substitute for their unseen God.

They have turned aside quickly out of the way which I commanded them: they have made them a molten calf, and worshipped it, and have sacrificed thereunto, and said, These be thy gods, O Israel, which have brought thee up out of the land of Egypt. (Deuteronomy 32:6)

Jeremiah 32:28-36 is a litany of the offenses of God’s Old Testament people. For this, they were handed over to Babylon.

And the Chaldeans, that fight against this city, shall come and set fire on this city, and burn it with the houses, upon whose roofs they have offered incense unto Baal, and poured out drink offerings unto other gods, to provoke me to anger. (Jeremiah 32:29)

The Southern Kingdom of Judah was more righteous than the Northern Kingdom of Israel. Israel went into captivity first. Then, Judah went into captivity for 70 years, but they failed to learn their lesson. Later they came under Roman Occupation.

During that time, Jesus appeared as God Incarnate. Finally they had the chance to see God. Jesus said, “If you’ve seen me, you’ve seen the Father” (John 14:9). Still most Jews didn’t recognize Him as God. Why?

Jesus didn’t come the way they thought He would. That was God’s test: Would they go by feelings or would they have the spiritual discernment to recognize truth? They couldn’t accept what they couldn’t see, so truth took a backseat to feelings.

Then in 70 A.D. the Roman general, Titus, destroyed Jerusalem and their temple. The Jews were scattered throughout the earth. Only now are they returning to the land of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. And P.S. It’s the land of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob—not the land of Sarah, Rebekah, and Rachel!


Religion Or Relationship
The True God first revealed himself to Israel, and then to the Church. All other gods have been invented—the imagination of men’s hearts, under the guidance of Satan! Men are attracted to false religions like that of Joseph Smith and Mohammed because they appeal to the “flesh”—human appetites and human achievement! Later, I’ll talk about the procedural Christian. He, too, is trying to satisfy God by “doing.”

How does one go to heaven? Salvation requires faith. He who believes on the Lord, and trusts God, will enter into everlasting life. On earth, he will find a loving relationship that includes God and his fellow men! After death, he will be resurrected, and have an immortal body that will never die.

In summary, Christianity is a relationship, separate and completely different from any religion of man. But, as I said, many Christians continue to ignore the Word of God, and substitute their ideas.

Christian Idolatry
In contrast to the Israelites, Christians are more likely to worship their ideas and achievements than they are to worship images. That is “Christian” idolatry! Again, we see a lack of trust for the unseen God.

This is where men substitute their ideas about men and women for Gospel truth.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27, emphasis added)

As shown above, the idea that males and females think alike is totally unscriptural. Yet “egalitarianism” has captivated the Christian Church. They see “egalitarianism” as progressive—part of the New Covenant!

Christian “egalitarians” have intellectually bypassed the clear Word of God. One could not find a better example of “Christian” idolatry, where feelings replace truth.

“Equality” Marriage (EM)
This is where men substitute their ideas about marriage for Gospel truth. EM is just an adaptation of “Egalitarianism.” God’s chastisement on the Jews is history. Christians have yet to be corrected.

The remainder of this section, “An Invented God,” deals primarily with Israel.


RT is man’s false ideas about Israel. Augustine laid the groundwork for this teaching in the fifth century A.D. He taught that the Church had become Israel, and was now God’s kingdom on earth. This theological error empowered the Roman Church, which became the driving force behind Western anti-Semitism. The Protestant Churches followed suit.

Here’s how Augustine and the others saw it: “The Jews had rejected their Messiah, and were no longer God’s people.” God’s covenant promises to Abraham were then transferred to the Church.

To this day, the Jews are the world’s scapegoat. And it started with people who called themselves Christians. Should such Christians expect Jews to respond to their preaching of the Gospel? Mama Mia!

These Christians have intellectualized, spiritualized, and allegorized Scripture. For them, unfulfilled prophecy is as nebulous as an unseen God. Again, it’s a failure to trust God, so men substitute their ideas.

God’s Commitment to Israel
(My book http://TwoLoves Chapter 24 gives a lengthy discourse on the Jews as God’s chosen people.) For eight months I’ve been visiting a Protestant church. On my first visit, I asked a greeter, “What is your attitude toward Israel?” “We love Israel,” was her reply.

When it comes to relationships, they’re wonderful. But there’s a dark side: About two weeks ago, I was shocked to learn of their RT belief. “We, `the Church,’” are Israel,” I was told. … Huh?

The following 18-page documentary is entitled, The Evil of Replacement Theology, by David R. Reagan. It is sub-titled “The Historical Abuse of the Jews by the Church.” To say I was shocked by Reagan’s article would be an understatement. Catholic and Protestant churches have been the architects of anti-Semitism in the Western World. Added to the existing Arab anti-Semitism, the Jews continue to face persecution that appears to be endless.

In 1543, Luther wrote a pamphlet entitled, “Concerning the Jews and Their Lies.” He called them names like miserable, blind, senseless, thieves, robbers, and vermin. He recommended the destruction of their synagogues, schools, houses, and writings. Their money should be taken from them, and they should be compelled into forced labor [made slaves].

Luther wrote the script for the Holocaust, which occurred 400 years later. David Reagan writes as follows:

The terrible truth that Christians do not like to face, and which many are unaware of, is that the Holocaust was the product of 1,900 years of virulent Christian anti-Semitism.

If nothing else, our despicable treatment of the Jews should prove that RT is a heresy. How any Christian could continue to defend RT is beyond me. Still, nearly every Catholic and Protestant church continues to support the Palestinians and oppose Israel. And P.S. Baptists, Pentecostals, Jewish Believers, and Arab converts are solidly behind the Jewish nation.

An Eternal People
Scripture says that Abraham believed God and it was accounted to him for righteousness (Galatians 3:6). It says that he looked for a city, which has foundations, whose builder and maker is God (Hebrews 11:10). That city is the New Jerusalem that will be ruled by Christ during the Millennium. Is there not a glorious future for the descendants of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob?

Then and now, allegorical Christians have written off the Jews. If they would read Scripture literally, it would be obvious. Paul could not have made his case more clear.

I say then, Hath God cast away his people? God forbid. For I also am an Israelite, of the seed of Abraham, of the tribe of Benjamin. God hath not cast away his people which he foreknew. (Romans 11:2a, emphasis added)

In Romans Chapter 11, Israel is the good olive tree. The Gentiles are taken from a wild olive tree, and then grafted into Israel.

For if thou wert cut out of the olive tree which is wild by nature, and wert graffed contrary to nature into a good olive tree: how much more shall these, which be the natural branches, be graffed into their own olive tree? (Romans 11:24, emphasis added)

The Church Age
Paul then describes how Israel has been temporarily set-aside for the Church Age. He also tells the Gentiles to humbly respect Israel, as God’s chosen people.

For I would not, brethren, that ye should be ignorant of this mystery, lest ye should be wise in your own conceits; that blindness in part is happened to Israel, until the fullness of the Gentiles be come in. And so all Israel shall be saved: as it is written, There shall come out of Sion the Deliverer, and shall turn away ungodliness from Jacob. (Romans 11:25-26, emphasis added)

And how will it happen? That Israel will be saved!

They shall look upon me whom they have pierced, and they shall mourn for him, as one mourneth for his only son, and shall be in bitterness for him, as one that is in bitterness for his firstborn. (Zechariah 12:10b)

Finally Paul affirms God’s unconditional covenant with Abraham, and the election of the Jewish people.

For this is my covenant unto them, when I shall take away their sins. As concerning the gospel, they are enemies for your sakes: but as touching the election, they are beloved for the fathers’ sakes. For the gifts and calling of God are without repentance. (Romans 11:27-29, emphasis added)

The Magnitude of the RT Sin
The RT church says that a Jew can only find salvation through the Christian Church. In their thinking, the wild olive tree has taken the place of the good tree, and vice versa. That is like adopted kids taking over the house, and then kicking-out their parents.

And what do they make of the nation of Israel that was re-born in 1948? Many RT Christians see Israel as an occupier that has taken the land of the “Palestinians.” Sorry! God gave the land to Abraham and his descendants. The “Palestinians” are the would-be occupiers.

The Consequence of the RT Sin
Adherents to RT see the Millennium as something other than 1,000 years. It started with the Church, and is open-ended. They don’t believe Christ will return to earth, and they don’t believe in the Rapture.

Replacement Theology has led to the abuse and deaths of millions of God’s Chosen People. Galatians 6:7 reads as follows: “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”

In Revelation, chapters 6-19, we read of a 7-year period called the Tribulation. Jeremiah 30:7-8 refers to it as the time of Jacob’s Trouble. I think the RT crowd will be there as well. Christians, who are in right relationship with God, will be gone—Raptured!

I declared to a Jewish lady, “The Jews are God’s Chosen People.” Her reply: “Chosen for what? To suffer?” If you want the blessings, you can’t bypass the suffering. As Christians we’re called to love, support, and pray for the Jewish people and the nation of Israel (Psalms 122:6). One more passage! To Abraham the Lord said:

And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed. (Genesis 12:3)

The Jewish Roots of Christianity
How many times do certain words appear in Scripture? My King James Software gave me the following:

  • Abram or Abraham—285 times!
  • Isaac—128 times!
  • Jacob—358 times!
  • Israel—2565 times!
  • Jerusalem—811 times!
  • Christian or Christians—3 times!
  • Church—77 times!
  • Churches—37 times!

Words that have to do with Israel appear 36 times as often as words that have to do with the Church. In review, Romans Chapter 11 tells that the gentile church was grafted into Israel. Any notion that the Church has replaced Israel is nonsense. The Lord’s unwavering commitment to the nation of Israel appears in the book of Jeremiah as follows:

33 But this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel; After those days, saith the Lord, I will put my law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people.

34 And they shall teach no more every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the Lord: for they shall all know me, from the least of them unto the greatest of them, saith the Lord: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more.

35 Thus saith the Lord, which giveth the sun for a light by day, and the ordinances of the moon and of the stars for a light by night, which divideth the sea when the waves thereof roar; The Lord of hosts is his name:

36 If those ordinances depart from before me, saith the Lord, then the seed of Israel also shall cease from being a nation before me for ever.

37 Thus saith the Lord; If heaven above can be measured, and the foundations of the earth searched out beneath, I will also cast off all the seed of Israel for all that they have done, saith the Lord. (Jeremiah 31:33-37, emphasis added)

An Unholy Alliance
The nation of Israel was reborn on May 14, 1948, but man’s wrong ideas about Israel continue. Replacement Theology is rampant in both Catholic and Protestant churches today. Almost everyone is opposed to Israel, and that includes multitudes of American Jews who take the side of the Palestinians. Still, there are but two major players against Israel—people who are really dangerous!

  • The Muslims
  • The Radical Left

These two have the same objective—world domination! They will lie, cheat and steal. But more than that, they will kill. The obvious atrocities of the Muslims are not so obvious for the radical Leftists. The Leftists won’t cut off your head, but you might mysteriously end up dead.

World Net Daily Published on 8/21/2016 the following: “‘Clinton death list’: 33 spine-tingling cases.” Bill and Hillary’s friends fall off buildings, crash planes, die in freak accidents. Then there was the mysterious death of Judge Scalia, in which no autopsy was ordered.

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A Spiritual Battle
Israel, God’s Chosen People stand in the way of the ungodly. Liberal Jews are in the thick of it. I’ll give a link from a NYC demonstration that took place in 2003, but first a few brief quotations:


We mourn the 55-year existence of the state of Israel.

ZIONISTS have no right to rule over ANY PART of the HOLY LAND.


The sea of protest signs is beyond my comprehension. Take a look.

A Google search for ‘Jews Against Israel’

Dennis Prager is a politically conservative, religious, Jewish commentator. In a recent “Rubin” interview, he said the following:

The Jews are to ‘ism’s what the Italians are to operas. Every ‘ism [ideology] Jews either created or led—Communism, Humanism, Socialism, Feminism, Environmentalism—everything but Nazism!

They are not just Left-wingers. They are Left-zingers. The Jews have truly been God’s wayward people. In America they overwhelmingly vote Democratic.

In a 13-minute presentation to the Israeli American Council (IAC), Prager tells why non-resident Jews should support Israel. I can’t remember the last time I heard such a stirring speech. I’ve already watched the presentation four times. I encourage you to see it at least once.

The Nation of Israel
As a refuge for persecuted Jews, the nation of Israel was formed. Multitudes have fled Muslim and other lands. America Jews are secure, and fail to appreciate the plight of their brethren who left everything behind, and fled with just the clothes on their backs. Once Sharia becomes law in America, these Left-zinger Jews will be ready to emmigrate to Israel.

Dennis Prager said, I’ve just been touched by the… “I’m a Jew; I’m overwhelmed by the kindness from so many Evangelical Christians.” So what’s the difference between those who support Israel and those who violently oppose them? People with a heart for God (Evangelical Christians) actually read their Bibles, and interpret them literally. The Jews are God’s Chosen people; their restoration to the Holy Land began with the Balfour Declaration in 1917.

Those who are NOT God’s people, rely entirely on their intellect and are deceived. Allegorical Christians are also deceived; they’re in bad company.

An Eternal Covenant
God said to Abraham, “And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.” (Genesis 12:3)

Our Lord, Jesus Christ, was a physical descendant of Abraham—a Jew! Jesus’ birth, death, burial, and resurrection was a fulfillment of Genesis 12:3b, “In thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.” The early Church was entirely Jewish.

The Jews are God’s chosen people. The Lord has punished them for their disobedience, but He has NOT cast them off as the Replacement Theology crowd claims. We read in Isaiah 66:8 that Israel would be reborn in one day. Amos declares the permanence of the nation.

And I will plant them upon their land, and they shall no more be pulled up out of their land which I have given them, saith the Lord thy God. (Amos 9:15)

Zechariah 2:1-8 tells of Israel’s re-gathering, her prosperity, and God’s protection. Selected passages follow:

Ho, ho, come forth, and flee from the land of the north, saith the Lord: for I have spread you abroad as the four winds of heaven, saith the Lord. (Zechariah 2:6)

Jerusalem shall be inhabited as towns without walls for the multitude of men and cattle therein: For I, saith the Lord, will be unto her a wall of fire round about, and will be the glory in the midst of her. (Zechariah 2:4-5)

For thus saith the Lord of hosts; After the glory hath he sent me unto the nations which spoiled you: for he that toucheth you toucheth the apple of his eye. (Zechariah 2:8)

The Cursed and The Blessed
As Hal Lindsey has shown in The Everlasting Hatred, the Arabs have persecuted the Jews for 4000 years. Six hundred years after Christ, Mohammed invented a religion that incorporated their hatred into what has become their “holy war.” The Everlasting Hatred and the punishment reserved for the Arabs is revealed clearly in the passage that follows:

Thus saith the Lord; for three transgressions of Edom [the Arabs], and for four, I will not turn away the punishment thereof; because he did pursue his brother [Israel] with the sword, and did cast off all pity, and his anger did tear perpetually, and he kept his wrath for ever: (Amos 1:11)

Examine that passage again. The sword and beheadings are characteristic of Islam. Hal Lindsey has rightfully called this The Everlasting Hatred. “His anger did tear perpetually, and he kept his wrath for ever.”

At about the same time as Mohammed, Augustine led the church into Replacement Theology. At this time in history we have both Muslims and Christians in opposition to Israel.

But during most of her existence, the United States has supported Israel. We were instrumental in the creation of Israel in May 14, 1948. Since then, Israel has been attacked, and won five major wars with the Arab states. America has helped her. Only during the Obama administration has America turned against Israel, and sided with the Arabs.

According to Genesis 12:3, the Arabs are a cursed people. Those who side with the Arabs are also cursed. Those who support Israel will be blessed. For the last eight years, Obama has brought curses on America. Even on his way out, Obama has shown his hatred for America and Israel.

Donald Trump campaigned on the promise that he would “Make America Great Again.” God has raised-up President Trump so that America would again bless Israel. Along with Israel, America will be blessed. We are rapidly moving toward the fulfillment of prophecy regarding Israel, and the Second Coming of Christ.

David and Goliath
I believe this is more than just a Bible story. Goliath was a giant warrior, while David was only a shepherd boy. David slew the giant; it was an immediate victory, but also a prophetic sign.

Today’s world population includes 1.8B Muslims and 14.5M Jews. There are 125 Muslims for every Jew. The Muslims are as intent on killing Jews as Goliath was, and they have the support of the UN, and most churches. In the end, the little guy (Israel) will win, and the big guy (Islam) will lose.

The Psalms 83 War
Bill Salas wrote a book entitled, The Psalms 83 War. He sees the war as yet future. But I see the Six-Day War of 1967 as the fulfillment. In the following 26-minute documentary, the commentator ties the 1967 war in with the Psalms 83 prophecy.

The Arabs outnumbered the Jews in men and military might, but with God that was not a problem. As in David and Goliath, the little guy won. The prophecy follows:

Keep not thy silence, O God: hold not the peace, and be not still, O God. For, lo, thine enemies make a tumult: and they that hate thee have lifted up the head. (Psalms 83:1-2)

They have taken crafty counsel against thy people, and consulted against thy hidden ones. They have said, Come, and let us cut them off from being a nation; that the name of Israel may be no more in remembrance. (Psalms 83:3-4)

For they have consulted together with one consent: they are confederate against thee: (Psalms 83:5)

Who were these enemies of Israel? They were all Arab nations.

The tabernacles of Edom, and the Ismaelites; of Moab, and the Hagarenes; Gebal, and ammon, and Malek; the Philistines with the inhabitants of Tyre; Assur also is joined with they; they have holpen the children of Lot. (Psalms 83:6-8)

In 1967, the Arab coalition was defeated and severely humiliated. Both the defeat and the humiliation were predicted as follows:

Do unto them as unto the Midianites; as to Sisera, as to Jabin, at the brook of Kison:

10 Which perished at Endor: they became as dung for the earth. (Psalms 83:9-10, emphasis added)

11 Make their nobles like Oreb, and like Zeeb: yea, all their princes as Zebah, and as Zalmunna:

16 Fill their faces with shame; that they may seek thy name, O Lord.

17 Let them be confounded and troubled for ever; yea, let them be put to shame, and perish: (Psalms 83:16-17, emphasis added)

I watched a documentary that ran almost 2 hours. Many dead Arab soldiers were as dung on the earth. Nasser’s fake news reported glowing victories, but when the truth was finally revealed, the entire Arab coalition had not only been defeated, but also dreadfully humiliated.

Iran is Muslim, but not Arabic; they weren’t involved in the Psalms 83 war. The battle of Gog and Magog should be next, and Iran will be there—see Ezekiel chapters 38-39.

Those Who Repent
Muslims, along with unbelieving Jews and gentiles, are invited to enter the kingdom of God as guests of the Jewish Messiah, Jesus.

Kamal Saleem was a Muslim terrorist who killed many people. He is now a forgiven Christian. Kamal said the following: “On this earth, I may yet pay for my past deeds, but my soul is eternally secure.”

What a wonderful God we serve! Muslims  and Leftists could save themselves a lot of grief if they would just embrace the God of Israel, and love the Jews.

The Tribulation
I believe in a pre-Tribulation Rapture, but I may be wrong. One thing is certain: We live in the end-times, and nothing but trouble lies ahead. The only safe place is to be in right relationship with the Lord, honoring Him, and living in obedience.

At the end, a  Muslim Antichrist, the Mahdi, will reign for 7 years, but the Tribulation will be for the latter 3.5 years of his reign. In his book, God’s War On Terror, Walid Shoebat gives a comprehensive report on Islam and the end-times. This is valuable information. His website is

Ahead I see the Ezekiel 38-39 war, and then Armageddon. Shoebat explains, from Scripture, that Russia is not the Gog and Magog of Ezekiel 38-39. When it comes to end-times conflict, the Muslim nations are the main players.

The next three passages speak of the carnage to come.

And power was given unto them over the fourth part of the earth, to kill with the sword, and with hunger, and with death, and with the beasts of the earth. (Revelation 6:8b, emphasis added)

And the four angels were loosed … to slay the third part of men. By these three were the third part of men killed, by the fire, and by the smoke, and by the brimstone, which issued out of their mouth. (Revelation 9:15,18, emphasis added)

And the slain of the LORD shall be at that day from one end of the earth even unto the other end of the earth: they shall not be lamented, neither gathered, nor buried; they shall be dung upon the ground. (Jeremiah 25:33)

I’m convinced the slain will include those who are NOT God’s people—Muslims and Left-wingers who have taken a stand against Israel and the One True God. So what about the Christians and Jews—God’s people?

Who will go in the Rapture? “Gather my saints together unto me; those who have made a covenant with me by sacrifice” (Psalms 50:5). Mostly they’ll be persecuted Christians who have taken a stand for the Lord. Many have died at the hands of the Muslims, and then been resurrected for the Rapture. A few Americans will be caught away in the Rapture, but the others will be left behind for the time of the Antichrist.

According to Acts 14:22, it is through much tribulation that we enter the Kingdom of God. I predict that more people will be saved during the time of the Antichrist, than from the entire Church age.

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The idea of satisfying God, by “doing” (going through the motions), is universal. Good examples appear in the liturgical church and in cults like Mormonism and The Jehovah’s Witnesses. I’d say a fundamentalist Baptist church would be a good example. The most glaring of all is that of Islam.

I’m not saying that a creed or a liturgy is necessarily wrong—only when it takes the place of relationship! An evangelical church service can be right for one man, but procedural for another. Anything that replaces relationship makes God in the image of man.


The Social Gospel
Christians take what I call weekend mission trips. They construct buildings and dig wells, etc. If they preach the Gospel, they do so in a cursory manner. The real missionaries are gone for months or years. They win souls, and then disciple the converts.

For Communism and Western Socialism, the goal is the same: To substitute the state for God. A check from the government is something a Christian can get his hands on.

In the South, most blacks are Baptists. Yet in 2008, 95% of them voted Democratic. They have compromised truth for a financial benefit. And what has Democratic Liberalism given besides a check from the government?

  • Removal of prayer from government schools.
  • Removal of God from the public arena.
  • “Egalitarianism”—everywhere!
  • Abortion on demand.
  • Same-sex marriage.
  • A massive national debt.
  • Huge unfunded entitlements.
  • A betrayal of Israel.
  • A betrayal of America.
  • Promotion of Islam.
  • Importation of terrorists.
  • Etc. Etc. & Etc.

It’s one thing to receive a Social Security check, but it’s quite another thing to vote for ungodly people—idolatry!

Summary Statement
I don’t see much difference between the idolatry of God’s Old Testament people and the idolatry of God’s New Testament people (Christians). In direct violation of Scripture they have conformed to the culture.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:2a, emphasis added)

For that reason I say: The Church is no better prepared for the Second Coming than the Jews were for the First Coming.

If these things are true, what should a guilty Christian do? Repent! “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent” (Revelation 3:19). Today, God is as eager to forgive as ever.


Name It And Claim It
These Christians are self-centered rather than Christ-centered. Under the guise of loving the Lord, they’re quick to quote the following:

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

Sorry, but that passage is only for those who love the Lord. “Name-it-and-claim-it Christians” put themselves before God. In a word, they are “disobedient.”

As I read Scripture, Divine Healing is to glorify the Lord. I was brought up in a Pentecostal church, with a woman pastor. Healing and tongues were spiritual toys—for the glory of man, and for the glory of the lady pastor!

A Woman Pastor?
The following passage is pretty clear: A woman is NOT to be a pastor, yet my parents brought me up in such a church.

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:12-14, emphasis added)

For the above passage, the context is authority and authoritative teaching. The woman, who would challenge male authority, is “to be in silence.” Then Paul underscores male objectivity in contrast to female subjectivity. It was the woman who was deceived, not the man. Of course, the entire Suffrage movement was about women challenging male authority.

Helen Kendrick Johnson’s anti-Suffrage book, Woman and the Republic, was published in 1897. The Suffrage movement had been underway for 50 years. Women preachers like Anne Hutchinson, Ann Lee, Francis Wright, and Lucretia Mott were already invading the pulpit. Perhaps the most egregious was the preaching of Ann Lee.

She proclaimed that God was revealed a dual being, male and female, to the Jews; that Jesus revealed to the world God as a Father, and that she—Ann Lee, Mother Ann”—was God’s revelation of the Mother, “the bearing spirit of the creation of God.”

For 19 years, my pastor was Myrtle Beall. She said there was no man for the job. She felt a calling, so that made it okay.

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Sister Beall’s Church
This lady left the Catholic Church, and then started her own non-denominational, charismatic church—Bethesda Missionary Temple in Detroit, Michigan.

Not surprisingly, she brought some baggage with her. Baptists have two sacraments: Baptism and Communion. Catholics have seven sacraments. Sister Beall developed her own set of ordinances and sacraments:

  • Baptism
  • The Lord’s Supper
  • Dedication of Children
  • Catechism
  • Confirmation
  • Foot Washing
  • Marriage

Baptism was by immersion, and Sister Beall had a revelation. She decided we had all been baptized wrong. All members who had been baptized, “In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit,” had to be baptized again—this time in the name of Jesus! Everyone dutifully complied. I was a really difficult case, so I had to be baptized a third time.

Kay Arthur’s Ministry
God made men to be leaders, and women to be followers. In the world, and in the church, women are leading, and men are following. What happened in the Garden is being repeated on a grand scale.

In Evangelical circles, Kay Arthur’s Precept Ministry is popular and respected. Her life history appears in Wikipedia. Her book, Marriage Without Regrets, seems entirely biblical. But Kay Arthur has adapted to the culture, and is doing a man’s job, rather than a woman’s. Her work is so extensive as to legitimize the “egalitarian” idea that men and women are interchangeable in the ministry.

As Helen Kendrick Johnson predicted in 1897, women are now doing a man’s job, while neglecting their job. The kids are being “raised” by a take-charge mother and someone other than their mother. As an employer, I see the results: It’s almost impossible to hire a decent man.

I know of only one place in Scripture (Titus 2:3-5) where women are told to teach other women. The aged women are to teach the younger women to be biblical wives.

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5, emphasis added)

But few women are doing that. Imagine the impact if women did the following:

  • Taught young wives to be homemakers and stay home.
  • Taught women to submit to their husbands.
  • Taught children to obey their parents.
  • Nurtured children to become godly adults.

If you’ll read my Appendix A, you’ll find the author is doing a superb job.

In her book, Created To Be His Help Meet, Debi Pearl teaches biblical marriage. As I mentioned earlier, Candace Cameron Bure is also taking the lead in teaching women to be submissive wives.

We’re still on the subject of “An All Purpose God.”

The Prosperity Gospel
The idea that Christianity will bring riches, success, and fame is divorced from truth. For them, you are the center of everythingnot Christ! Everything revolves around you. These “Christians” become “takers” rather than “givers.”


My next-door neighbor is my friend; he claims to be an agnostic—I believe him! He’s a nice guy, an excellent husband, and a good father. He has a good wife and good children. (He’s not a Christian, but his marriage and family are built on Christian principles.) Sorry, but his goodness won’t save him. Here’s the Lord’s word for him:

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:11,13, emphasis added)


Be kind to atheists, you never know when you’ll need one—Chuck Kenerly

My favorite atheist—I love Bob—is a long-time customer of mine. Bob routinely writes letters to the editor of our local paper. He wants to convince others (and perhaps himself) that his belief is correct. Here’s God’s word for Bob:

But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. (Hebrews 11:6)

Actually it takes more faith to be an atheist than it does to be a Christian. Think about it!

There’s something Bob needs to know: If there is life-after-death, he won’t spend it in heaven. C.S. Lewis’ book, The Great Divorce, is about people who don’t want to spend eternity with the Lord. But while there’s still life on this earth, there’s hope that Bob will repent. And P.S. C.S. Lewis, the author of The Great Divorce, was once an atheist.

Summary And Conclusion
I’ve discussed seven false ideas men have about the Lord. Most people try to find relationship on their terms rather than on God’s terms. Others just ignore God. But multitudes—evolutionists and Liberals—have an adversary relationship with the Lord. They’re in opposition to the Lord! Most tragic are those caught up in a false, demonic religion; they try to force their beliefs on others—conversion by the sword!

When men try to re-make God into their image, there’s a lack of relationship and a lack of truth—everywhere! For the rest of this paper, I want to show how that plays out in our marriages and families. I will also try to predict how it will end.

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Chapter 8, Marriage, Money & Power

This chapter is about people who think they know better than God. “Ye shall be as gods!” We’re on the earth for the sake of relationship—with one another and with God! Good relationships start at home, and my marriage was bad. To rescue a faulty marriage isn’t an easy task, but it can be done—I’ve done it!

In rescuing my marriage, I expected help from the church—it didn’t happen! Instead, Christians, who have accommodated feminism, were my greatest hindrance.

The End Is Near
It’s way past time we addressed the issue in a biblical way, with boldness. This message is free on the internet; every English-speaking man has access.

For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God? (1 Peter 4:17, emphasis added)

Fasten Your Seatbelts

  1. From July 1970 until April 2002, Theresa and I had an “equality” marriage.
  2. Since April 2002, we’ve had a biblical marriage.

The light shined in the darkness. Truth triumphed over feelings. Our marital experience has led me to the following conclusions:

  • An “equality” marriage is the closest thing to hell this side of hell.
  • A biblical marriage is the closest thing to heaven this side of heaven.

Overnight, our marriage was turned completely around—without a marriage counselor! Since then, Theresa and I have been 100% satisfied with our relationship. My friend Jim had a similar experience; things were suddenly turned around for Jim and Candy after 22 years.

The highest calling for any human being is to surrender his will to that of his Maker. That is best learned in marriage.

The Lord made each of us to be uniquely different. No two people—even married people—will agree on everything. By surrendering to each other, a husband and wife learn to surrender to God—that’s the gospel truth!

A wife surrenders to the authority of her husband, while a husband is thoughtful of the needs, desires, and sensibilities of his wife—that’s how God designed marriage!

Let me put it another way: A correct wife respects the authority of her husband, while a right husband respects the opinions and feelings of his wife.

I lived on a Kentucky farm from 1945-1948. We had neither indoor plumbing nor electricity. The restroom was an outhouse, and the toilet paper was a Sears Roebuck catalogue. Since then there’s been progress. We now have three restrooms, and they’re all indoors. My Jaguar-type Lincoln LS bears no resemblance to my Dad’s Model A Ford.

Marriage has been re-defined, and most people see that as progress. Yet marriage continues to go from bad to worse. Marriage counselors and marriage seminars work on the details, but ignore the foundational problem. “If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?” (Psalms 11:3).

It’s time to re-build—from the ground up!

Contemporary Marriage
Today, men and women marry thinking they can talk it over and agree—that is “equality marriage!” Since we’re all different, that sort of agreement is impossible. The typical Christian marriage will evolve as follows:

The newly married couple will talk it over and disagree. There’ll be conflict. (His objective logic is no match for her subjective reasoning.) He will give up, and she will, by default, become the head-of-the-house.

He will be disenfranchised, and will turn his attention elsewhere. It could be another woman, his business, golf, TV, sports, etc. Both of them will be unhappy. Their children will be damaged. They may divorce or stay together, but they will never be one in the spiritual sense.

Some Things Are Certain
Truth is Absolute—even if no one believes it! Death, taxes, Gravity—some things never change! What absolutely never changes is God and His word. “For I am the LORD, I change not” (Malachi 3:6a). “Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away” (Matthew 24:35).

The Few

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results—Albert Einstein

“Equality” marriage fits Einstein’s definition perfectly.

In today’s world, very few people will find a good marriage. It takes courage and humility to resist the allurement of “equality” marriage. I write to those few, who are willing to accept the truth of God’s marital order.

Hidden In Plain Sight
Scripture has the answer to the marriage problem, but many Christians haven’t seen it. Adam was created first, then Eve. She was created to be his suitable helper. The human race fell when the woman took the leadership role, and the man let her. The Lord then verbalized what should have been obvious.

He shall rule over thee. (Genesis 3:16b)

He Shall Rule Over You
By God’s design, the man should rule. Any other arrangement will lead to trouble—as it did in the chaotic Brett Kavanaugh (Supreme Court) hearings! Women and feminized males went crazy. Feelings became more important than truth. Thankfully facts won the day, and Judge Kavanaugh was confirmed.

I’ll give two examples from the Old Testament where people rebelled against God-ordained male authority.

Now all these things happened unto them for examples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come. (1 Corinthians 10:11)

In Numbers 16, Korah led a rebellion against Moses. It included 250 men who offered incense. At Moses’ Word, the earth opened and swallowed Korah along with his family and friends. Then there came fire from the Lord (Numbers 16:35) and consumed the 250 men.

In Numbers 12, Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses.

And they said, Hath the LORD indeed spoken only by Moses? Hath he not spoken also by us? (Numbers 12:2)

The next passage invites inquiry.

And the anger of the LORD was kindled against them; and he departed. And the cloud departed from off the tabernacle; and, behold, Miriam became leprous, white as snow: and Aaron looked upon Miriam, and behold she was leprous. (Numbers 12:9-10)

In Numbers 12:14-15, Miriam was put out of the camp for seven days, and then restored. As in the case of Korah, Miriam became an example for anyone who would refuse a God-appointed governor.

Wholesale Usurpation
In America, women have taken to themselves the governing function God intended for men. Like Miriam, they have challenged rightful male authority.

  • In the home!
  • In government!
  • In the military!
  • In the workplace!
  • In church!
  • Everywhere!

How serious is this? Let’s say a policeman signals for me to pull over. If I’m smart I’ll obey. Now, let’s say God is the policeman, and he signals for me to pull over. If I’m smart I’ll obey.

A husband is the Lord’s chosen representative in the family. For a wife to refuse the authority of her husband is to disobey God. As Satan tempted Eve in the Garden, he has tempted modern women. Susan B. Anthony was the ringleader.

So what lies ahead? I quote the words of a godly woman now deceased.

One of these days, it’s going to be too wet to plow—Ruth Carroll

What Lies Ahead
In my Chapters 12-13, I’ll go into detail, as to what lies ahead, but for now I’ll quote Jesus’ words as follows:

And take heed to yourselves, lest at any time your hearts be overcharged with surfeiting, and drunkenness, and cares of this life, and so that day come upon you unawares. (Luke 21:34)

What is that day Jesus is speaking of? I believe it is the Great Tribulation foretold in Revelation. Current world events indicate the end is near.

For as a snare shall it come on all them that dwell on the face of the whole earth. (Luke 21:35)

It says “on all them that dwell on the face of the earth”—Christians are included! Only those who are worthy will escape.

Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man. (Luke 21:36)

Miriam was judged, on earth, for refusing the authority of Moses. Modern women have rejected the authority of their husbands. By refusing the authority of God’s representatives, they have rejected the authority of God. In so doing, they have led their families into sin.

They will be judged. Husbands, who have followed their wives into sin, will be included. As shown in God’s dealing with Miriam, you should call it like it is.

And P.S. According to Exodus 15:20, Miriam was a prophetess—one of five spoken of in Scripture! Did that give her a special privilege when it came to the sin of rebelling against the authority of Moses?

To “rule” is nothing more than to “govern.” But without government, society would be chaotic. The question is: Who is to govern? And what is the quality of his rule?

Government starts in the home, and by the Lord’s design, the husband is the ruler. The words “govern” and “rule,” in Scripture, are used interchangeably. Contrast the KJV with the NASB—same passage!

For the kingdom is the Lord’s: and he is the governor among the nations. (Psalms 22:28, KJV)

For the kingdom is the Lord’s And He rules over the nations. (Psalms 22:28, NASB)

Righteous Vs. Unrighteous Rule
A ruler can be righteous or he can be unrighteous.

When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice: but when the wicked beareth rule, the people mourn. (Proverbs 29:2)

God’s Word For Wives

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church … Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24)

Shifting The Blame
Many women go by their feelings, rather than by God’s Word in Ephesians 55:22-24. They don’t submit to their husbands. So why should they expect a good marriage? The husband is falsely blamed, but why? We live in a feelings-driven feminized society. In many homes, today—even Christian homes—women are ruling. That is unrighteous rule. The result is conflict, with broken marriages and wayward children. People think God isn’t watching.

A Choice
In the New Testament, the submission of a wife is declared to be voluntary. In the Middle East, women have no choice. In the Western World, a woman can decide. But there’s an issue that’s common to all women—the intent of the heart!


Fig 8-1, Rules on ‘Islamic dress’ for women are enforced by police in Iran. In this photo, several policewomen (far left and far right) warn a woman (center) about her hair and clothing during a crackdown on skirting the compulsory hijab (headscarf) law in 2007. Such restrictions on clothing have been in effect for women in Iran since 1979. Majid Saeedi/Getty Images

There’s only one reason why a woman should submit to her husband: God said so! The intent of a woman’s heart is more clearly shown in Western women because they are free to decide.

We live in a fallen world, so a lack of submission from an unbeliever is to be expected. Christian women are expected to rise above the culture.

A woman doesn’t have to submit, but first she must disobey God, and that’s pretty serious.

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Another Choice
In Islam and the Western World, many husbands abuse their wives. The Lord’s word to husbands is given as follows:

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:25)

There’s only one reason why a man should love his wife: God said so. To love a wife as Christ loved the Church may require that he love someone who is entirely unlovable.

A man doesn’t have to love, but first he must disobey God, and that’s pretty serious.

The Way It Should Be
To submit and to love, as an act of obedience to God, results in great marriages and well-adjusted children. But according to God’s order, the husband must be in charge. His wife must be his suitable helper.

The pattern for a successful marriage is one of the things that never change. It worked for Joseph and Mary; it worked for Russell and Theresa; it worked for Jim and Candy; and it worked for Michael and Debi Pearl. It works every time it’s tried.

The Way It Is
The world is full of unbelievers, and those who believe in a false religion. Added to that, many Christians don’t have a “Christian” marriage. The world is in turmoil.

  • Wives don’t submit to their husbands.
  • Husbands don’t love their wives.

Overcoming The Culture
A bad marriage can be turned into a good one by either the wife or the husband, but as head-of-the-house, it’s his responsibility.


In marriage, relationships, business, politics, religion, etc. “self” is king. Most people live for their own pleasure, without regard for others or the Lord. But that isn’t biblical—it’s not even smart!

I want to examine “self” from different Scriptural perspectives. Then I want to get into politics. I’ll show how selfish Christians become dupes of politicians.

For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, shall save it. (Mark 8:35)

To save your life is to live for your own pleasure. To lose your life is to please the Lord in all you do. God incarnate died for me. It’s only reasonable that I should live for him. We were made for God.

What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

You were not put on this earth for promiscuity or even to get your own way. You are here to walk in fellowship with the Lord and with others—to glorify God! That often requires you to say “no” to certain desires—to give-in, to go the “second mile,” to acknowledge wrongdoing, and to confess your sin!

But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us. (2 Corinthians 4:7)


Almost half of this chapter is political. Multitudes vote Democratic without understanding—especially blacks and young people! In (5) 5-minute segments, Dennis Prager clearly explains the difference between the political Left and the Right. Just click on the arrow. You can terminate the presentation in one of two ways: Listen to the entire 27 minutes or, at the bottom, slide the timer to the far right. Then continue reading.

To replay, move the slider to the left, and click on the picture.




Fig 8-2, The Differences Between Left and Right

Now, I want to show how politicians take advantage of self-seeking Christians. I also want to show the terrible carnage they inflict on the populace. Toward the end of the chapter I’ll show that Islamic wealth redistribution is similar to that of the Democrats.

The Democratic Nursery

Sixty years ago, in college, my assignment was to read a short story. Philip was no longer a child when Aunt Eliza said to him: “When you were little, I used to wish you were sick so I could nurse you night and day.” But it was only wishful thinking. She never actually tried to make Philip sick.

The “Great Society”
In the movie, Hillary’s America, The actor portraying LBJ said, “I’ll have those ni**ers voting Democratic for 200 years.” Whether he said it or not, his actions proved that he meant it.

The “Great Society” was a set of domestic programs, in the United States, launched by Democratic President Lyndon B. Johnson in 1964–65. The stated goal was the elimination of poverty and racial injustice. The actual goal was to capture the black vote. He succeeded! In the 2008 presidential election, 95% of blacks voted Democratic. (Republicans claim that if they could get 20% of the black vote, they could take the presidency and both houses.)

The “Great Society” initiative was a series of wealth redistribution programs, which made blacks and others dependent. The result was a permanent underclass of people, who would always be dependent on the government, and would always vote Democratic.

It’s a crime for a citizen to steal, but government theft (wealth re-distribution) is okay. Liberal politicians are buying votes with stolen money.

Star Parker has rightly seen through their perversion. She has written four books, but I specifically point to, Uncle Sam’s Plantation, “How Big Government Enslaves America’s Poor and What We Can Do About It.” She claims that “Uncle Sam’s Plantation,” is just a continuation of historical slavery.


Fig 8-3, Uncle Sam’s Plantation by Star Parker. Star Parker/


Fig 8-4, Star Parker. Star Parker/Topeka Capital-Journal, January 2015

If the Democrats were honest, they would say the following: “Black votes matter. Black lives don’t matter.” “Honesty is the best policy,” but it’s not their policy. Lyndon Johnson’s clever “Great Society” [enslavement] program has proved to be a monumental deception that has continued now for over 50 years. (America has existed for less than 250 years.)

That’s Not All
Other issues that engender dependency are:

  1. Health Care
  2. Abortion
  3. Sexual Equality
  4. Climate Change
  5. Immigration

Obamacare puts health care in the hands of the Liberal, Democratic nanny State.

Abortion-on-demand takes a moral issue, and makes it a political one. Life itself is put into the hands of people like Obama.

Sexual equality leads to conflict between husband and wife, broken homes, and wayward children. These broken people need a nurse, and Democrats are there to help. Sexual Equality leads to sexual violence, and that requires more intervention.

The myth of climate change leaves our way of life at the mercy of godless Socialists and their Liberal “scientists.”

Immigration is where Liberals really shine. They love to take in Muslim refugees and other needy people—more dependency!

This is Aunt Eliza’s dream come true, but on a massive scale. Government becomes the nurse, and multitudes become the nursed. Welfare, food stamps, Obamacare, etc. are earmarks of the Democratic Party.

The people who caused the problem are there to “solve” it. What a deal! Lyndon Johnson’s “Great Society” [enslavement] program continues to work—to the benefit of Liberal, Socialist Democrats, and to the detriment of everyone else.

The deception has been so pervasive that the nursed will continue to vote for their government nursemaids.

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The Answer
An entire generation of precious black lives has been rendered non-productive because of LBJ’s Great Society initiative. Worst yet, the nation is being destroyed from within. How could we put a stop to the damage, and reverse governmental dependency?

The answer is simple: Anyone who applies for and receives means-tested government assistance such as welfare, food stamps, etc. would surrender his right to vote. To regain his vote, he would have to pay his own way—go to school, learn a trade, whatever it takes!

We all share the same country, and it only makes sense: Only productive citizens should choose those who will govern. That’s how it was when America was founded. Restricted voting would neutralize the Great Society [enslavement] Program.

What about the Republican problem? The swamp that needs to be drained is the House and the Senate. Term-limits would do that. Perhaps it would take a Constitutional Amendment. Then we could start to rebuild the American Republic.

The second revolutionary war is already in progress. Let’s pray that President Trump will outsmart the enemy. That’s how he got elected.

Having said all that, I don’t think that’s what God has in store for America. What I see ahead for this wayward generation is Sharia Law. I’ll talk about it in my Chapters 11-13.

I just explained Democratic wealth redistribution. Next, I want to deal with Islamic wealth redistribution. They have the same foundational premise: Instead of working productively, they want to appropriate what belongs to others.

Islamic Wealth Redistribution
For Democrats, government is the agency for theft. For Muslims, their religion sanctions conquest and robbery. My information on Islam comes from God’s War On Terror, Chapter 32, by Walid Shoebat. Proverbs 1:11-16 describes the Muslim modus operandi perfectly.

11 If they say, Come with us, let us lay wait for blood, let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause:

12 Let us swallow them up alive as the grave; and whole, as those that go down into the pit:

13 We shall find all precious substance, we shall fill our houses with spoil:

14 Cast in thy lot among us; let us all have one purse:

15 My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path:

16 For their feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood.

I now quote from p.129 of Shoebat’s book.

Muslims are fascinated with the stories of Mohammed’s conquest for land and booty. So important was the quest for booty that all Muslims were required to give a fifth of their treasure to Allah the war-god and his Nimrod Mohammed.

But what do they do when they find themselves out of money? Easy, the Qur’an says that, “whatever ye take as spoils of war, lo! A fifth thereof is for Allah and for the messenger…” (Qur’an 8:41).

So if the Muslims were running low on Zakat, that was no problem, there was always more treasure from infidels to plunder. That is how Mohammed always handled being broke. …

People often look down on career politicians for never having actually worked a real job their whole life, yet what was Mohammed’s job? He was a false prophet and a pirate—the greatest cult leader of ancient times, even modern times—Mohammed rules more people while dead than he did alive.

The next quotation is from p.130; it reveals the motivation for war.

The Qur’an even contains an entire chapter entitled Al-Anfal, which translates as “the booty” or “the spoils of war.”

After the Battle of Badr, the verse dealing with booties was first revealed. The verse introduced the rule for the first time that the spoils of war would be the property of the soldiers who actually took part in the battle… That is one of the reasons that the soldiers of Islam fought tooth and nail. They would get paradise in case of death in a Holy War, and booty in the case of conquest. Jihad is therefore the best source of all acquisitions.

The Black Muslim
I recently flew into Memphis, where I rented an Avis car. A black man named Edward put me into the car, and I immediately found him to be a dear brother in Christ. I spent the next week in Kentucky, the place of my birth. I wondered whether I would ever see Edward again.

When I returned my Avis car, there was Edward to receive it—he was with a co-worker—another black man! My last words to Edward were a hearty: “I bless you in the name of Jesus!”

Edward pointed to his co-worker and said, “We’re a team.” I asked the name of his teammate, and was shocked when it turned out to be Islamic. I didn’t know what to say, so I said nothing. He was a Muslim convert. That set in motion an analysis, which I will now present.

Online, you’ll find a myriad of reasons why Americans convert to Islam, but I see things differently. In 1964, Cassius Clay converted, and changed his name to Mohammed Ali. The former name he called his slave name, but the real slavery came with his new religion and his new name. I will now quote from p.463-464 of Walid Shoebat’s book.

Every year tens of thousands of Americans convert to Islam … If the higher figures of conversion are accurate, that would mean that as many as 60,000 Americans, who were raised in a Christian home, are converting to Islam annually… 85% of American converts to Islam are African-Americans… Islam is absolutely sweeping through the inner cities of America. One Muslim authority estimates that by 2020 most American urban centers will be predominantly Muslim.

Blacks represent only 13% of the American population, so why the disproportionate number of conversions from Christianity to Islam?

American men, including Christians, have been emasculated as their wives have aggressively taken over the reins of family government. As I indicated earlier, this is especially true in the black community due to the Democratic Great Society [Enslavement] program.

When an emasculated black man converts to Islam, he suddenly becomes a dominant man rather than a dominated man. The men rule in Islamic homes and beyond. Muslim men “call the shots.” Women are little more than possessions and baby machines.

The Qur’an encourages Muslim men to kill, dominate, and confiscate the wealth of the infidels. They are given almost unlimited freedom of choice, and very little accountability. (Every Muslim dreams of the day when Islam will rule the world.) Finally, in paradise, 72 virgins await the Shaheed, the Islamic Holy warrior who dies fighting the infidels.

Could anything be more appealing to a man who has been deprived of his male role or identity? Women don’t understand this, but every time a woman takes over family government she insults her husband’s manliness. For both of them sex becomes only a biological necessity.

Sons of God
We were born in sin. Christians have been redeemed with the precious blood of Jesus. We are to live as sons of God, empowered by the Holy Spirit. When people see you, they should see a reflection of Jesus.

Is such a life burdensome?

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me: for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. (Matthew 11:29-30)

I live for Jesus. What may appear as burdensome at the moment, always gives way to fulfillment and joy. Instead of worrying, I trust the Lord … on a daily basis!! Whether I live or die, I belong to Him. Scripture says: “Those who honor me I will honor” (1 Samuel 2:30). I invite you to join me.

Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. (1 John 3:2)

Jesus died and was then resurrected. If you believe in Jesus, and live to please him, when you die, you will later be resurrected, and have an immortal body like that of the resurrected Christ. The reward for pleasing the Lord is beyond comprehension. But it’s not just for the hereafter—it’s for now! You can live a joyful life now. Again, I invite you to join me.

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Chapter 9: A Lost Generation


And be not conformed to this world: (Romans 12:2a, emphasis added) 

My mother departed this life on Mother’s Day, 1975, but I clearly remember her oft-repeated question.

What will the neighbors think?—Novella Yates

This feminine weakness is deadly. Women will follow their neighbors into idolatry.

And what is the corresponding masculine weakness? Men will follow their wives into sin. Start at the beginning:

  1. Eve led Adam into the Original Sin, but Adam followed.
  2. The women of ancient Israel led their husbands into idolatry, but the men followed.
  3. Jezebel led Ahab into idolatry—he followed big time!
  4. Modern women are leading their husbands into the idolatry of “egalitarianism.” Modern men not only approve, but applaud male/female interchangeability.

Men are expected to say, “No!” When the men follow their wives into sin, they’re held accountable. It’s the sin of the fathers that is passed on to succeeding generations.

Visiting the iniquity of the fathers unto the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation. (Exodus 34:7b)

Our world is descending into darkness, and I claim that “egalitarianism” is the culprit. My wife tried to lead me into an “equality” marriage, but I said, “No!” I also had to withstand the judgment of my Christian friends.

In the Old Testament, God’s people were sacrificing their children to their idols.

And thou shalt not let any of thy seed pass through the fire to Molech, neither shalt thou profane the name of thy God: I am the Lord. (Leviticus 18:21)

Today’s idol is “egalitarianism.” Women learn from their neighbors, and men follow their wives. The next generation is being sacrificed on the altar of “equality.” We have an entire generation of children who live with one or both biological parents, but are still “orphans.”

Compared to women, men aren’t nearly so concerned about what the neighbors think. Besides that, men are more objective. As head-of-the-house, a man is to protect his family against evil influence. He should make sure they do the right thing, even if it offends the neighbors.

Signs Of The Times
I encourage you to click on the 5-minute video, filmed at the University of Washington. These young people are the prime products of a feminized culture.

First, I want you to know what’s coming: Most of these young people didn’t have a good parental example. They don’t know how to relate to others. They don’t know the difference between right and wrong. If you say that anything is wrong, then you’re wrong. I find the interviews to be absolutely amazing.

And P.S. Students graduate with enormous debt. We’re loaning money we don’t have, to students who can’t pay it back, to train them for jobs that no longer exist.

Joel Kirby’s Talk
Joel Kirby is a missionary to South Africa. I heard his message, entitled, “God’s Heart for the Fatherless.” Joel has four biological children and a bunch of orphans.

At the end of Joel’s talk, I suddenly realized that I was a fatherless child. (It hit me like a ton of bricks!) The man next to me was also a fatherless child, and he agreed. The next day, I suddenly realized we were also “orphans.” I told my doctor his son was an “orphan,” and after I explained, he agreed.

How could children, who grow up living with both biological parents, be “orphans?” Modern “equality” marriage has resulted in a generation of “orphans” because it violates every marital tenet in the Holy Book. These “orphans” get an F, when it comes to relational skills. They are adult children.

At 28, I had two engineering degrees; still I was an adult child. It took me 10 years to learn, as an adult, what I should have learned as a child.

The Christian Family

And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:23-24)

When the LORD God brought Eve to Adam, he liked what he saw. He immediately recognized her as like him, but different. Without a wife, Adam was incomplete. The idea of the two—same but different—becoming one flesh laid the foundation for biblical marriage. That has not been challenged until about a hundred years ago.

Common sense should affirm masculine and feminine roles. A man’s voice is more authoritative than that of a woman. A woman’s voice is more gentle and nurturing. I will give a video link that reveals a magnificent chorus where a talented man and a gifted woman sing together—Bing Crosby and Rosemary Clooney!

No two men or no two women could replicate this.

Vive La Difference!

The average American man is 5’10” tall, and weighs 196 lbs. For the average woman, the numbers are 5’4” and 166 lbs.

It’s common knowledge that men are stronger than women. 1 Peter 3:7 calls the woman the weaker vessel. Added to that, men and women have different reproductive and nurturing functions. It should be obvious: Men and women are different. The differences are critical to the success of marriage and family. Still, many women don’t understand.

When an “equality” marriage breaks up, we’re back to traditional roles. She gets the children, and he pays child support. Why is that? Because she’s the nurturer, and he’s the provider! Does the fact that she gave birth to the child give her a special privilege? If so, that’s a further acknowledgement of the differences.

According to the Bible
The Bible is written entirely in masculine terms. I give four examples with emphasis added. Scripture says, “If any man.” It never says, “If any woman.”

And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also. (Matthew 5:40)

And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. (Luke 9:23)

Now we know that God heareth not sinners: but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth. (Luke 9:31)

If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour. (John 12:26, emphasis added)

Scripture doesn’t use feminist “his or her,” terminology. There are two reasons why it never says, “If any woman.”

  • The man is in charge.
  • The woman was taken from the man.

Creation Order

  • The husband is the head of the family.
  • His wife is his help meet.

That means the man is at the center. He is:

  • The authority
  • The provider
  • The protector
  • The enabler
  • The “quarterback”

The woman is:

  • His wife
  • His lover
  • The mother of his children
  • The keeper of his house
  • The glory of her husband
  • The one who nurtures his children

In short, the man is in charge, while his wife trains the next generation.

The Football Illustration
In football, there is only one quarterback. In the huddle, they discuss, but they don’t argue. The quarterback calls the signals, and the other team members follow his leadership.

The Christian family is like a winning football team. Husband and wife discuss; then he makes the decision. There is NO argument. A child is both fathered and mothered. God’s plan for rearing children equips them for life and godliness. They grow up to be adults, rather than grown kids.

In “equality” marriage, you have two “quarterbacks.” They’re usually arguing. To say they have a losing team would be an understatement. With “equality” marriage, grown kids are NOT equipped to relate to a spouse, a boss, a child, or anyone else. On a scale of 0-10, their interactive skills are somewhere between 0 and 3. They grow up to be:

  • Dysfunctional
  • Non-relational
  • Adult Children
  • Misfits!

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The Prolonged Discussion
The only difference between an argument and a prolonged discussion is that the latter is less heated. An extended discussion is just a more subtle challenge to a man’s God-given authority.

You can only spend so much time in the huddle. Like the quarterback, the husband decides when there has been sufficient discussion. (In some cases, there will be no discussion.) If a wife wants a good marriage and good children, she must accept that. She must respect him as head-of-the-house.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)

In the above, husbands and wives are instructed differently. Just another indicator that men and women have different roles! The woman influences, but she doesn’t nag. He decides.


How much better it is to get wisdom than gold! and to get understanding rather to be chosen than silver! (Proverbs 16:16, emphasis added)

The fact that many women have NOT respected the authority of their husbands, and the fact that children have been so seriously and negatively impacted, should make it clear that these women do NOT understand the importance of separate and unique roles. A man’s thinking is more objective, and he must not allow role confusion to continue.

They Don’t Understand

  • When the kids turn out bad, it’s her fault—women don’t understand that!
  • When the kids turn out bad, it’s his responsibility—men don’t understand that!

In response to the usurpation of his wife, a friend said, “That’s Rosemary!” He was shirking his responsibility, and didn’t even know it.

The ultimate test for any man is to stand for what is right—not just before the stranger, but before the woman he loves! When we men prove we are real men, our women will understand.

The Contrast
I’ve spent most of my adult life trying to restore the distinction between male and female roles. Theresa has been my only wife and lover. I rescued her from an “equality” mindset, and turned our hellish marriage into a heavenly one.

My sister has spent most of her adult life defending “equality” marriage. She has been divorced twice, and her three children are still in need of relational healing. My sister says I have a blind spot.

A Biblical Illustration
To illustrate the Christian family, we have to look no further than Proverbs 31.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:10-12)

In the above passage, it is the man who finds a wife—not the other way around! He’s in charge, while she ministers to her husband and the children. As his help meet, she helps the family succeed. “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.” (Proverbs 31:23)

The Virtuous Woman

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. (Proverbs 31:26-28)

The virtuous woman is a homemaker who stays at home. They have godly children who mature into responsible adults. And P.S. my friend, Bill Good says a wife should stay home with the kids, even if they have to live in a tent and ride a bicycle. It’s that critical!

I visited a young mother of two. She had been giving piano lessons to 21 different students, but laid that aside as her children were born. Her home is a warm happy “nest.” (Her husband is building a new house, and I have the honor of making it kool.)

Trial and Error Marriage

  • About 40% of first marriages end in divorce.
  • That means about 60% stay together.
  • Of the 40% that divorce, most will remarry.
  • About 60% of second marriages will fail.
  • About 40% of second marriages will succeed.
  • In successful marriages, they will complement one another.

What does all this mean? Today, very few are traditional, biblical marriages. Success depends more on compatibility issues than on conforming to Creation Order. We honor the Lord when we learn to submit and love.

The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

Christian Marriage—Good!
For centuries, women were not treated with dignity. Jesus showed them respect; Paul told men to love their wives; and Peter declared a wife to be a partner with her husband—“Heirs together of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7). That was the introduction of “good” marriage, as I described it earlier.

In a good Christian marriage, husband and wife are partners who complement one another. Patriarchy is NOT biblical.

Until about 100 years ago, and in Islam today, men ruled—period! Their wives were NOT considered to be partners. Today, in Malawi, Africa they strongly practice patriarchy. During seminary training, an African pastor asked—he wasn’t kidding—“If a wife doesn’t obey, at what point is a man allowed to beat her?”

Western Matriarchy—Ugly!
America and the West are matriarchal societies. They call it “equality,” but that’s a misnomer. The language is being changed. The goal is to transition society from traditional male/female roles to “egalitarian” ones. If there ever was an example where feelings trump truth, this is it.

For example, the masculine pronoun “he” has been replaced by “he or she.” The plural pronoun “they” will sometimes take the place of the singular pronoun “he.” Even those who subscribe to traditional roles have bought into this “he/she/they” talk. I cringe. It was no accident! Read the quotation that follows:

Language is not only a bridge between the present and the past. It can also create the future—Sable Schwab

I’ll give a link, but before you click, let me tell what’s coming.

  • Sable Schwab, not her husband, James, is in charge.
  • She sees marriage as a cultural institution, rather than a biblical one.
  • She correctly sees language as the key to change.
  • She denies that husbands and wives have specific and separate duties, within the household.
  • She affirms the legitimacy of same-sex marriage.
  • She sees the submission of a wife as an injustice.
  • She advocates identical wedding vows, for the bride and the groom.
  • She gets into the minute details of language that promote “equality.”
  • She’s oblivious to the fact that “equality” marriage doesn’t work.

Click the link to read what Sable Schwab has to say about “equality” marriage.

My Assessment
For “equality” marriage, husband and wife are ostensibly partners who duplicate one another, but that is just a pretense. Women dominate. As I see it, “equality” marriage is a woman’s thing. Men and children go along for the ride. When things don’t work, it’s HIS fault—whoever he is at the time!

As I show in this paper, Matriarchy is truly ugly because children don’t learn how to relate; it destroys future generations. Patriarchy is at least decent, because future generations are preserved. For thousands of years the human race continued despite bad marriages. But within two or three generations of ugly “equality” marriages, the human race will implode. This generation may be the final one.

“Equality” Marriage
In modern marriage, all God-ordained role distinctions have been “obliterated.” In the home, the adults include men and women who “shack-up,” marry, divorce, and remarry.

A woman will be in charge of the “orphanage”—even when there is no man on the premises! There will be siblings, half-siblings, and step-siblings, but there are no real children—only “orphans!” The family of my dear friend, Hank, included:

  • Our kids
  • My kids
  • Her kids
  • Their kids

“Their kids” had been adopted.

For the modern couple, the following is a typical scenario:

  • Both parents work outside the home.
  • Strangers care for young children.
  • There is no recognized family authority.
  • The mother usually runs things.
  • The father finds other interests.

The kids are confused. That’s what happens when a feelings-driven mother manages a family, and the father has little more authority than one of the kids. I was one of those confused children.

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My Testimony—Part 1
As help meet, a woman’s role is to influence. As the head-of-the-house, a man’s role is to decide. When husband and wife argue, or even have a prolonged discussion, that is the beginning of trouble. The wife will almost always “win,” and the role reversal will be underway.

In our house, Mom took over, while Dad was just there.

  • Mom surrendered her motherhood
  • Dad surrendered his fatherhood
  • We children became “orphans”

I was one mixed up kid, and as I got older, things didn’t improve. I already had two engineering degrees, but I enrolled in Detroit Bible College thinking I would become a missionary. At 28, I was confused and indecisive. I went to the office and told them I needed help. They referred me to a counselor, David Dyke.

When my mother usurped the leadership role of my father, feelings took over—that was deadly! There were seven children, and I was Mom’s favorite! She didn’t want me to grow up.

I was already 28, when Mr. Dyke said, “I’m not telling you to cut the apron strings; I’m telling you to cut the umbilical cord.”

He walked me through the necessary steps to recovery, but it still took about ten years. As I said earlier, as an adult, I had to learn relational skills that I should have learned as a child.

Today, I’m a serious man of God, who can relate to a wife, daughter, customer, or anyone else the Lord sends my way! I’m proud that I’m married to a godly Christian wife, but that’s another story.

And P.S. Rather than trying to hide my poor social skills, I acknowledged my need for help—that was my key to success!

My Testimony—Part 2
Three years after I began counseling, I married, and guess what? My new wife was just like my mother. Theresa fought me “tooth and nail” for the headship role, and the struggle continued for 32 years. During that time, we had one child, who lived with her biological parents—us! Our home was an “orphanage,” and Deborah was an “orphan.”

I was determined: After 32 years, the Lord and I won the battle. I became the actual head-of-my-house, and Theresa became my actual “help-meet.” We were then qualified to be real parents, but the time had passed.

A Single Mother
For 32 years, my wife, Theresa, functioned as a single mother, but she didn’t have to work. I provided a house, paid the bills, and kept things fixed. But when it came to family, I was an outsider.

I didn’t give Theresa my headship role; she took it. She argued for “equality,” but what she wanted was to be in charge. Theresa tried to do my job and hers’—what a burden! She failed miserably on both counts.

In April of 2002, she finally came to herself; she said, “We’ve wasted so much time.” I immediately replied, “With the Lord, it’s how things end that counts.” Suddenly, Russell Yates, the bad guy, became Mr. Wonderful. The Lord forgives, and I immediately forgave Theresa.

I want to repeat something I said earlier. This is critical! Before a wife can receive true love from her husband, she must first be in submission to him. For 32 years my wife saw me as a bad husband. I didn’t change, but she did. Suddenly, she saw me as wonderful.

It’s now 2017, and 15 years later Theresa has Alzheimer’s; she not only knows me, but she really thinks I’m wonderful. My wife can hardly talk, but she clearly says, “I love you so much.” What an encouragement that is to me!

Of The Man, By The Woman

For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman, but all things of God. (1 Corinthians 11:12)

  • At creation, the woman was taken from the man.
  • After that every man would be born of a woman.

Intrinsic in the passage are traditional male/female roles. “Of the man,” declares him to be the provider, protector, and authority. “By the woman,” sets her forth as the homemaker and the nurturer. “But all things of God,” is a mandate for men and women to fulfill their God-ordained roles.

I keep declaring truth that leads to freedom, in hopes that people will see the bondage of living by feelings.

“Of the man…by the woman!” How does that impact the home?

  • If the man rules, the woman can nurture—they’ll have good kids!
  • If the man doesn’t rule, the woman will NOT nurture—they won’t have good kids!

When a wife takes-over, and her husband allows it, tyranny replaces truth—C. Russell Yates

Who Initiates A Divorce

  • In the Old Testament, it was always the man.
  • In the New Testament, as seen in Mark 10:12 and I Corinthians 7:10-11, it was occasionally a woman.
  • Today, 70% of divorces start with the female.
  • For college-educated women, 90% start with them.

“Equality” marriage is unrealistic. That means much of Western Society is out of touch with reality. Men know something is wrong, but what? The following quotation illustrates the masculine perception well:


25% of the women in this country are on medication for mental illness—that’s scary!
It means 75% are running around untreated.

In today’s unrealistic “equality” culture, it comes natural for a wife to take over family government. Feelings-driven, female authority is contrary to nature, so her husband will react badly. He will find other interests. The kids will be damaged.

She will feel neglected, and won’t understand why the marriage isn’t working. Such a wife will often divorce her husband, and feel entirely justified. With that mindset, she will marry again expecting different results. Thus begins the marriage/divorce/remarriage “merry-go-round.”

Today, the divorce rate is much greater than it was in biblical times. Also most divorces begin with the wife. As I will show later in this chapter, our unrealistic marital culture began with Women’s Suffrage.

Few people will blame Suffrage for the unrealistic expectations of wives. Even in Israel, “Women’s Rights” are applauded, and presented in “egalitarian” terms. We in the West are a deceived people.

A Family Illustration
My nephew, Keith was married to Pam. They are both Christians, and have two children. Out of the blue, Pam appeared with divorce papers—already drawn up! Without discussion, she had made up her mind. Let me walk you through Creation Order.

In Genesis 1:26-27, God made man. Both male and female were resident in that single body. In Genesis 2:18, God declared it “not good” that the man should be alone. In Genesis 2:21-22, the woman was taken from the man. In 1 Corinthians 11:8-9, Paul writes that the woman was created for the man—not the other way around!

For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.

Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. (1 Corinthians 11:8-9)

If the woman was created for the man—and she was—then the woman should adapt to the man. The fact that they think differently is part of the marital design.

A modern woman wants her husband to adapt to her, but that goes against Creation Order. The next passage defines marriage, and then declares its permanence.

Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. (Matthew 4b-6)

As God created them, the man was the family director—the head! The woman was the one who nourishes—the heart! So what happens when the head is separated from the heart? The body dies. When Pam divorced her husband, she killed the marital body. She also set in motion a generational curse that will be difficult to reverse.

As the nurturer, Pam’s calling was to bless her husband and her children. Instead, she turned her nourishing spirit inward. The blessing has become a curse. I want to contrast her self-centered attitude with a biblical one.

One who seeks to honor the Lord and bless others will be joyful and confident. Pam will no longer be the object of the Lord’s pleasure. But I hasten to add: There’s room for repentance.

10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)


  1. Fire is a terrible thing when it’s out of control.
  2. Fire is a wonderful thing when it’s under control.

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Out Of Control
A fiery human spirit, independent of the Lordship of Christ, is out of control. I know a “take-charge” Christian lady whose husband is a casual Christian. They’ve been married for decades. She has a lot of fire, but she’s self-centered.

She’s convinced that she’s righteous, and her husband is the problem. Truth has given way to deception. She’s a very unhappy woman. This woman is good-looking, but NOT attractive.

Her three children were severely damaged—perhaps beyond repair! One of her grown sons lived with me for 3.5 months. I’ll talk about him later—what a tragic story I have to tell!

As the nurturer, the woman is at fault. She has failed as a mother because she refused the God-given authority of her husband.

Under Control
A fiery human spirit, submitted to the Lordship of Christ, is under control. I know another Christian lady whose husband is casual in the faith. They have several children. This woman has a lot of fire, but she’s Christ-centered. In obedience to the Lord, she has accepted the authority of her husband. She submits to him! Despite his spiritual shortcomings, she is joyful, and has nurtured wholesome, godly children who now have traditional Christian marriages. She’s a good-looking woman who comes across as beautiful.

So who’s at fault for a lousy marriage?

  • A wife who usurps her husband’s role.
  • A negligent husband who doesn’t love his wife.

Who’s at fault when the children turn out bad?

  • The woman!
  • The wife!
  • The mother!
  • The nurturer!

Almost always!

Who’s Responsible?
Since the Lord put the husband in charge, he’s responsible. What does that mean? If a man has a bad marriage, it’s his job to deal with it—as gently as possible, but as firmly as necessary! It’s a tough assignment, so I encourage men to talk with me. Just click the “Contact” link on the top menu bar.

Don’t get normal counseling! It’ll just be in the context of “equality.” You have to exit the “equality” charade, and deal with the root cause.

Most marriage advice doesn’t work. In my opinion, books like Love Life, by Ed Wheat and The Act of Marriage, by Tim and Beverly LaHaye are useless. Christian marriage seminars like “A Weekend to Remember,” are events I’d like to forget.

The Surrendered Wife, a secular book by Laura Doyle, is a step in the right direction. Debi Pearl’s book, Created to Be His Help Meet, is fabulous.

Let’s return to the Garden of Eden. The woman was the culprit.

And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:14)

Eve led Adam into sin, but he followed. God held the man responsible because he was in charge. (Still, that doesn’t let her “off the hook.”) In Scripture, the Original Sin is never called the “Sin of Eve.” Always, it was the “Sin of Adam.”

For if by one man’s offence death reigned. (Romans 5:17a)

For as by one man’s disobedience many were made sinners. (Romans 5:19a)

As I said earlier, I was part of an “equality” marriage for 32 years. But God put me in charge so I was responsible; I took my responsibility seriously.

  • I went against the culture.
  • I withstood the disapproval of other Christians.
  • I eventually prevailed.
  • My “equality” wife was re-born, and became my help meet.
  • Our marriage became heavenly—overnight!

Hey! We don’t arbitrarily decide who is head of the family. And besides that a two-headed-anything is a monster. “Equality” marriage is lawlessness—disobedience to the Law of the Lord! And infinitely destructive!

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Chapter 10, A Generation of Orphans

The “Orphanage”
After a hundred years of gender confusion, the Western World is one big “orphanage.” Few people have grown-up sufficiently to even work.

This is an incompetent generation that doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong. Earmarks include tattoos and off-the wall names. One woman named her daughter Freon. Apparently, she thought it was a kool name. Some “orphans” become homosexuals. Trying to find a good worker is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

Recently, the widely read conservative website,, posted a column by Terry Jeffrey, editor of the conservative news service, in which he compared Americans “on welfare” to those who are “full-time year-round workers.” Specifically, Jeffrey wrote, there were more people on welfare than working. He wrote:

“In 2013, according to the Census Bureau, there were 105,862,000 full-time year-round workers in the United States — including 16,685,000 full-time government workers. These full-time workers were outnumbered by the 109,631,000 whom the Census Bureau says were getting benefits from means-tested federal programs — e.g. welfare — as of the fourth quarter of 2012.

“Every American family that pays its own way — and takes care of its own children whether with one or two incomes — must subsidize the 109,631,000 on welfare.”

Jeffrey’s database has been questioned, but if even half of his data is accurate, my “orphanage” premise is strongly supported.

Assessing The Damage
We now have the working half of the population supporting the non-working half. Both husband and wife have to work, and that turns their home into an orphanage. The children of the working couples will eventually join the existing pool of incompetents. The devil couldn’t have devised a more destructive plan.

A Live-In Employee
Now back to the “take-charge” woman: I hired her son. He’s an intelligent, talented, hardworking man I’ll call Jack. His son, Jay, lives with his ex-wife, Jill; they’re 30 miles north of College Station. Jack moved from Houston to College Station so he could be near Jay.

Now I’m trying to understand why. By court order, he could only visit his son if his mother was with him, and she had to drive up from The Woodlands. I did provide Jack with a job, so I guess the proximity argument was a good ploy. My main point is that I trusted him while the court didn’t. After I tell the rest of story, I think you’ll understand.

Our relationship was like family. We ate together, and attended the same church. Sometimes his mother and son were with us for meals. Almost always, I paid the bill.

But Jack got more than he bargained for. I wanted to mentor him so he would no longer be a misfit. Like most misfits, Jack thought he was okay “as is.” At 28, I was confused and indecisive. At 29, Jack is confused and impulsive. (He has two brothers who are also part of this “orphan” generation.)

Jack came up, like I did, under the influence of a dominant mother. Jack lived with his two biological parents, but was still an “orphan.” His Mom cut his Dad out of the equation, and she “ruled the roost.” By doing that, she disqualified herself from being a real mother.

When a wife takes-over, and her husband allows it, tyranny replaces truth—C. Russell Yates

His Dad allowed it, so he was disqualified from being a real father. I’ve already told how I struggled most of my adult life to restore fatherhood, so I hesitate to blame Jack’s Dad. Not many men will do what I did.

Someone who suffers from addictions and has trouble holding a job is beyond non-relational—he’s dysfunctional!

Jack has been into drugs, alcohol, and marital failure—he’s dysfunctional! Despite his intelligence and other gifts, he doesn’t know how to relate to others. His mother wrings her hands, as if it just happened. It didn’t just happen; she caused it. She’s as guilty as Eve. His father capitulated to his mother, as if he had no responsibility. He’s as guilty as Adam. Like it or not, he’s responsible before God.

Throwaway Children—Part 1
Joel Kirby’s orphanage is in Johannesburg, South Africa—some of the poorest of the poor live there! It’s not uncommon to find a newborn baby abandoned in a field. But this couldn’t happen in America…. Right? Wrong!

Our throwaway children end up in a dumpster behind the abortuary. We live in an undisciplined “Me” society. And it’s not just single women who have abortions. For many, children are an inconvenience.

Throwaway Children—Part 2
And just because a woman stays home with the children doesn’t mean she is mothering them. Jack had a stay-at-home Mom, but he wasn’t mothered. When a woman usurps the headship role of the father, she becomes a caricature of what God intended—no longer capable of mothering! So how did things work out for Jack?

Jack and Jill
For two years, Jack lived with an “equality” woman I’ll call Jill. (He has “Jill” tattooed on his left shoulder.) Then they got married, and stayed together for four years. They had one child, Jay. They divorced, and then she re-married. Her second marriage lasted two months.

While Jack was living with me, and working for me, I provided food and shelter as part of his compensation. Jack  was paying his ex-wife child support, and took every opportunity to visit his son, Jay.

So What Happened?
Jack said he could repair AC’s. If I was with him, and told him what to do, he could fix the AC. By himself, he was lost. On the positive side, he was a good installer—under the guidance of my lead man, Patrick!

I wanted to teach Jack, at 29, the relational skills that he should have learned at home. He wasn’t interested in learning. I became impatient with Jack. Once I said to him: “What do you know? You’re just a snot-nosed kid.”

He and Patrick had done three days of installing, when Jack and I got crosswise—it was a Wednesday evening! He said I wasn’t acting like a Christian, and went to his room where he started drinking.

There were three of us in my home, and I thought everyone had gone to bed. At 6:15am the third man woke me and informed me that Jack was in jail.

Arrested for DWI
He drank whiskey he had stored in his room, and then left in my company vehicle. Several people called, and reported his erratic driving. He was arrested, and now faces a DWI—this was not the first time! He also has a history of drug abuse.

His mother had refused to bail him out. I thought: At least he can’t get to alcohol or drugs. Jack spent five nights in jail; then a friend bailed him out. Oh well!

His room was a disaster area. That includes broken plasterboard. Later, I asked what happened, and he said he fell against the wall. He may have been so drunk he passed out.

I sorted through his things, and threw out the trash. I found a 2-month old receipt for Fireball Whiskey—750ml. I have the empty bottle. I knew he had been drinking some beer in my house, but I had no idea that he used hard liquor in his room.

He always kept the door closed, and I had respected his privacy. His alcohol had a cinnamon flavor which masked the normal whiskey odor. He did a fabulous job of hiding his drinking; for 3.5 months he fooled me.

In his things, I found medical paraphernalia—two oxygen concentrators my doctor said could be used to get high. So who are the tyrants? His mother and her three adult children! They are all out of touch with reality.

What Should He Have Done?
I had provided for him a job and a home near his son. I even allowed him to occasionally drive my service vehicle for personal business—even after he had wrecked my Focus to the tune of $877!

It takes humility, but he should have accepted me as his mentor, and submitted to my authority. Instead, he tried to find fault with me. After accusing me of not acting like a Christian, he got drunk, endangered other people, put my business at risk, and then got arrested—Mama Mia! The police said he was badly intoxicated, but he didn’t run into anything—thank the Lord!

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There’s More
Jack is not only impulsive, but also unpredictable. We use a water-filled fire extinguisher to flush drains. In an attic, he slammed down the fire extinguisher onto an electrical cable. He cut the insulation, created sparks, and started a small fire. That evening, I walked into my kitchen and smelled gas. Jack was using the gas cook stove, and had turned the knob so quickly that he bypassed the spark igniter.

There’s Hope
It was November 9th when Jack was arrested. On December 17th, his mother drove him to my house where he retrieved the last of his things.

He apologized for what he had done; and he thanked me for helping him. Furthermore, he’s getting professional help to deal with his addictions to alcohol and drugs. I’m hopeful and prayerful he will succeed.

But after that he’ll need help improving his relational skills—the result of poor parenting! For Jack to succeed, he’ll have to take the initiative to get help, and then he’ll have to obey his mentor.

Real Adults
When we restore real fatherhood and real motherhood, we’ll have children who grow up to be real adults. To do that, we must return to the Bible as our source for life and marriage, and then repudiate “equality” marriage.

The American family has been going downhill for well over 100 years. Have you noticed? When you’re going downhill, you pick up speed. It’s time we “take our foot off the gas,” and use the brakes. It was last Sunday night, while listening to Joel Kirby, that I quickly saw the answer.

Elijah The Prophet
The final two verses of the Old Testament are for this “orphan” generation.

Behold, I will send Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord: And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse. (Malachi 4:5-6, emphasis added)

The above prophecy fits this generation.

  1. Women assume the leadership role.
  2. Fathers are not respected.
  3. The earth, itself, is threatened with a curse—it’s that bad!
  4. It will take someone with the stature of Elijah to make things right.

Society has been increasingly feminized for over 100 years. So when will Malachi 4:5-6 be fulfilled? Let me speculate: After the Rapture, left-behind Christians will be open to correction. I see Elijah as one of the two witnesses. During the first half of the Tribulation, he will restore the father to the family.

For 32 years, my wife Theresa took over. We lived in the same house, but I was an outsider—everyone suffered! It was my anguish that inspired, first the book I published in 1993 (Restoring the Father To The Family), and then the writing of this paper.

Mutiny On The Bounty
The Western World has been blessed with the bounty of Christianity. The Lord has given us every advantage, but controlling women are destroying our marriages, our families, and our entire civilization.

The first women’s rights convention was held in Seneca Falls NY, in 1848. Ratified on August 18, 1920, the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution granted American women the right to vote. Suffrage was born of confusion as women simultaneously argued for:

  • Abolition of slavery.
  • The right to vote, and
  • Temperance, which led to Prohibition.

I thought that women fought men to gain the vote. Actually the battle was primarily a feminine one. Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Susan B. Anthony, et al argued for Suffrage. Helen Kendrick Johnson was an anti-Suffragist. In her book, Mrs. Johnson showed, in great detail, that the Suffragists arguments were disingenuous on ten different counts.

The argument was staged primarily in upstate New York—in Seneca Falls, Rochester, Syracuse, Albany, and even Utica. The battle continued from 1848 until 1920 when Suffrage passed. For over 70 years, the Suffragists were relentless, and the men finally surrendered.

15 A continual dripping on a very rainy day
And a contentious woman are alike;
16 Whoever restrains her restrains the wind….
(Proverbs 27:15-16, NKJV)

Most women were opposed to the measure, but once it passed, they accepted it. “A little leaven leaveneth the whole lump” (Galatians 5:9). Today, Suffrage is thought to be Gospel Truth.

Mrs. Johnson’s book, Woman and the Republic, was published in 1897. It’s available as a reprint from the Echo Library. She accurately prophesied the outcome should women be granted the vote. I will give a few quotations from her book as follows:

It requires no stretch of fancy to see the possibility of civil war brought to the doors of every home, when women vote—p.139

The home is not a natural institution unless it is maintained by natural means, and Woman Suffrage and the home are incompatible–p140

It is held that regulated, universal manhood Suffrage is the natural and only safe basis of government—p.142

The general conclusion of the book is that the woman’s relation to the Republic is as important as man’s. First, I’ll quote from Woman and The Republic. Then, I’ll paraphrase Mrs. Johnson’s words.

Woman deals with the beginnings of life; man, with the product made from those beginnings; and this fact marks the difference in their spheres, and reveals woman’s immense advantage in moral opportunity. It also suggests the incalculable loss in case her work isn’t done or ill done—p.144

Why are male/female roles different? The woman has to do with beginnings that shape the future. The man gives it direction, and holds it together. To have it any other way is like one hand clapping. It should be obvious that man and woman are equally important, but different.

The Case For Women
A significant male in the Messianic line was Obed. It was a woman’s influence and a man’s strength that led to his birth. There was a famine that caused Naomi and Elimelech to flee to Moab. First Naomi lost her husband. Their two sons married, but had no children. After 10 years in Moab, both husbands died. That left the women alone, and without support.

Naomi and her daughter in law, Ruth, left Moab for Israel. Naomi had a near-kinsman named Boaz; he was a godly man who was wealthy. A woman’s rightful place is to influence. She instructed Ruth on how to approach Boaz. He and Ruth married, and Obed was born. Naomi became the child’s nurse. Obed became the father of Jesse who became the father of King David. 

Naomi, Helen Kendrick Johnson, Debi Pearl, and George Gilder have heightened my appreciation for women. Naomi and Johnson show that women lay the foundation, upon which men build. Gilder says that women civilize men, while Debi Pearl shows how a woman can influence a man for good or for evil.

In Woman and The Republic, Helen Johnson describes the foundational significance of women as follows:

The American Republic depends finally for its existence and greatness upon the virtue and ability of American womanhood. If our ideals are mistaken or unworthy, then there will be ultimately no republic for men to govern or defend.

When women are Buddhists, the men build up an empire of India. When women are Mohammedans, the men construct an empire of Turkey. When women are Christians, men can conceive and bring into being a Republic like the United States. Woman is to implant the faith, man is to cause the Nation’s faith to show itself in works.

Now, I want to give two examples from The Hidden Help Meet, by Debi Pearl and Denny Kenaston. These stories show how a woman can build up or tear down her husband. (Debi has transcribed and clarified the teaching of Rev. Kenaston, now deceased.)

The book starts by showing how wives were able to empower their preaching or missionary husbands. At times, a husband did the preaching while his wife transcribed and distributed his messages. And at times, the wife was more intelligent than her husband, which further advanced his ministry.

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A Simple Faith
Jane wasn’t that pretty or dynamic, but her ministry was that of building up others. She was an excellent candidate for “The Hidden Help Meet.” There was a young man who wanted to court Jane, so she asked Denny Kenaston for his opinion. He saw the young man as just so-so, but still gave his approval if Jane felt it was of the Lord. Was Kenaston surprised!

They courted, married, and guess what she did? All those notes and prayers, all those encouraging words and good cheer, she turned them loose on that young man who I had thought was just “so-so.”

In two years time he was one of the finest leaders in the Bible college. I just shook my head in amazement and smiled. The power of a reverencing woman is more than anyone could ever know.

Sin Is Catching
In contrast is the story of a woman who tore down her husband.

One story that people know is about a nagging woman who continually dishonored her husband. She was always telling him how dumb he was and how he couldn’t do anything right. She told him he was a bum and nagged him because he wouldn’t take on the responsibilities she thought he ought to be taking.

And guess what? The woman had daughters who married, and they had daughters who married. One woman’s lack of reverence for her husband was passed down through the generations. And so it continues!

More from Woman and the Republic

The American Republic depends finally for its existence and its greatness upon the virtue and ability of American womanhood. … When women are Christians, men can conceive and bring into being a Republic like the United States. Woman is to implant the faith, man is to cause the Nation’s faith to show itself in works.

More and more these duties overlap, but they cannot become interchangeable while sex continues to divide the race into the two halves of what should become a perfect whole. Woman Suffrage aims to sweep away these natural distinctions, and make humanity a mass of individuals with an indiscriminate sphere. The attack is now bold and now subtle, now malicious and now mistaken; but it is at all times an attack.

The greatest danger with which this land is threatened comes from the ignorant and persistent zeal of some of its women. They abuse the freedom under which they live, and to gain an impossible power would fain destroy the government that alone can protect them.

What follows was true then, but not now:

The majority of women have no sympathy with this movement; and in their enlightenment, and in the consistent wisdom of our men, lies our hope of defeating this unpatriotic, unintelligent, and unjustifiable assault upon the integrity of the American Republic, emphasis added—p.144

Today, Women’s Suffrage seems right to almost everyone. But contrary to what they would have us believe, women are more subjective than men. They tend to do what seems right—even if it’s NOT right.

When Eve ate of the forbidden fruit, it seemed right to her, but Adam knew better. Still Adam followed his wife into sin. That’s why the Bible always refers to the Fall as the Sin of Adam. Like Eve, modern women are leading their men into sin. Like Adam, modern men are following.

Women’s Suffrage led to “equality” marriage, and that morphed into full-fledged “egalitarianism.” Men and women are now seen as equal and interchangeable—in the workplace—in the government—even in the military!

They Call It Progress
For thousands of years people have understood and accepted the fact that men and women are different. During the past 100 years that understanding has changed.

Starting with Women’s Suffrage, society has become increasingly gender neutral. “Egalitarianism” is contrary to Scripture, but is still seen as progressive.

Dennis Prager reports the following: “In some schools, the teacher must no longer address the class as boys and girls, but rather as students.”

Prager says: “In the absence of gender differentiation, Western Civilization cannot continue.”

Even when our Civilization ends, and I believe it will, Islam will fill the vacuum—at least for another seven years! Scripture clearly states: Men and women are different.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27, emphasis added)

When I was young, I used to wonder why God had to tell us something so obvious. I’m starting to understand.

I repeat what I asked earlier: What If Islam remains, but Western Civilization is destroyed? Then What???


For thousands of years, men ruled. Scripture not only authorizes male headship, but also predicts the results should women rule.

As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths. (Isaiah 3:12)

The battle for Suffrage, and then for “equality” tells us women thought they could do a better job. Have they? Actually, that has never been the question. The more accurate question is this: Would they obey God?

Likewise, in the Garden of Eden, the question was not whether the tree was “good for food,” etc. but one of obedience. And so it is today.

The Transition
If you put a frog in a pot of water, and then very gradually raise the temperature, he will remain there until boiled. For hundreds of years, men ruled and women influenced; that has always been God’s plan. But beginning in the mid-1800’s aggressive women started a rebellion. Isaiah 3:12, given above, is now the result.

Many women now rule homes and churches. Feelings trump facts. Hey! Does Salvation now depend on feelings? Please consider carefully the next passage.

But I have this against you, that you tolerate the woman Jezebel. (Revelation 2:20a NASB)

Who is the prophet addressing? Those in charge! The men! They are tolerating Jezebel.

I repeat: Western Society is now thoroughly feminized, run by women and feminized males. Whether we realize it or not, everyone dances to the feminine tune. They do what seems right—regardless of the laws of God! Christians and conservatives are appalled at the results:

  • No prayer in school or at public events!
  • Abortion on demand!
  • Same-sex marriage!
  • Freedom of speech as long as you don’t offend someone!

But they participated in the process when they signed on to “equality” marriage and “egalitarianism.”

The Eleventh Commandment
It’s not in the Bible—it’s not in the Constitution, but it’s now the unwritten law of the land:


While saving my marriage, I offended Elisabeth Elliot, Larry Christensen, Mark Day, and The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. In my church, I circulated an open letter than offended the women; and for that I was kicked out. One lady asked our Pastor whether there was any truth to what I had said. He lied, and said, “No.”

Political Correctness is the logical result of the Eleventh Commandment. I call it Feminine Correctness. Today, you’re not even allowed to offend a Muslim. And it all started with Women’s Suffrage.

The Tyranny of Feelings
I will give a link to a 4-minute video in which Mark Tapson exposes the Political Correctness tyranny that we find in our institutions of higher learning, and the students who are being “educated.” They insist on being protected against every possible, verbal micro-offense that might come their way. As they see it, “My feelings trump your opinions and even your facts.” Take a look!

Students voted for Hillary, but when Trump was elected they went bonkers. Here’s a quotation from an internet report:

Professors at many universities canceled classes Wednesday to help their students deal with the apparent trauma of the election results.

“Because I know this process has been difficult for many of you (emotionally and mentally), I wanted to let you know that I’m not taking roll in class tomorrow,” a professor at UConn wrote in an email to students.

She told her English students she understood if they needed a “personal day” to deal with Donald Trump being elected president.

To read more, click the video/text link.

Tapson in no way connects Political Correctness to Women’s Suffrage—I do! His solution is to flush the poison of Political Correctness out of our system. My solution is to restore traditional marriage, in which the objective husband is the head-of-the-house, and his more subjective wife is his suitable helper and adviser.

Even happily married, conservative Christians are dutifully obeying the Eleventh Commandment. In so doing, they attach undue importance to feelings, at the expense of truth.

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Chapter 11, A Lawless Generation 

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? (Jeremiah 17:9)

For the deceitful heart, Jesus is the answer, but many Christians continue to dance to the devil’s tune. These “Christians” just blend into our increasingly lawless Western Civilization. The book of Revelation reveals the judgment that lies ahead for multitudes.

The Context
As I see it, major world events, including the world wars and the re-alignment of nations, has happened so Israel might be restored. In May of 1948, Israel was restored as a nation. In June of 1967, the Six-Day War gave Jerusalem back to the Jews.

Jerusalem shall be trodden down by the Gentiles, until the times of the Gentiles be fulfilled. (Luke 21:24)

My observation is that the Gentile World has become increasingly lawless. In America, the seeds of lawlessness were planted by the women’s movement at the turn of the 20th century. Islam has always been lawless. It appears that we’re approaching the end of the Church Age, the Rapture, and the time of the Antichrist. That “man of sin”—probably Islamic— will be lawlessness personified!

Most people seem to think God isn’t watching. My next verse speaks to that issue.

I the Lord search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings. (Jeremiah 17:10)

American Laws
We have far too may laws—Rules, Regulations, and Procedures—that do nothing more than enslave us. The IRS is the prime example.

But the important laws—the laws of God—are being ignored because they offend politically correct sensibilities.

Our society has transitioned from the Era of Truth to a Post-Truth Era. Western Civilization is now thoroughly feminized. The following are now tragically infected:

  • Secular marriages
  • Christian marriages
  • Children
  • Young people
  • Public Education
  • Government
  • University students
  • Democrats
  • Liberals
  • The Supreme Court
  • American Jews
  • Anyone on the Left

The only sanity that remains is found on the right—many of them are not Christians! The nation of Israel is clearly on the right, but some of their marriages are still flawed by “egalitarianism.”

I suggest you click a link, and watch a 5-minute Israeli marital presentation.

Israeli Wedding – The Most Amazing Wedding Entrance You Will Ever See

This young woman is both beautiful and brilliant. There’s no reason why she can’t be in submission to her husband, and still use her gifts to the glory of God.

Now I want you to watch another Israeli marital presentation — 4:35 in length! Scripture says marriage models the relationship between Christ and the Church—see Ephesians 5:31-32! Read their Jewish interpretation. Then watch this absolutely stunning presentation.

Liberty Under Law

Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty. (2 Corinthians 3:17)

Blessed is the man [whose] delight is in the law of the Lord…. (Proverbs 1:1-2)

In the Garden of Eden, they were told they could eat from any tree except one. That was liberty under law.

In Exodus Chapter 20, the Lord gave the Ten Commandments. There were lots of things they could do—except for those ten things! That was liberty under law.

American Law
America was founded on Christian principles, and the Constitution was written from a biblical perspective. The intent was liberty under law. Ours was a Republic that was governed by men who represented the people. Our judiciary consists of Congress (the House and the Senate) and the court system.

We elect representatives, who pass laws that reflect a consensus opinion of the voters. The Supreme Court is the ultimate interpreter of the Law.

The End Run
To uphold the Constitution is to ascertain the meaning of the original writing, and then to apply it accordingly. The Liberal Supreme Court has declared the Constitution to be a living document, open to their interpretation. The results have been rulings that are:

  • Contrary to the intent of the founding fathers.
  • In opposition to the wishes of the voters.

They have:

  • Removed prayer from public schools.
  • Made abortion legal.
  • Legitimized same-sex marriage.

The Liberal Supreme Court has bypassed Congress, the people, and the Constitution. That is called legislating from the bench. The supreme interpreters of the Law have become lawless.

President Obama has repeatedly bypassed Congress, and governed by executive order—lawless! He and other candidates have been accused of “rigging” the election—lawless!

The Ancient Landmark

Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set. (Proverbs 22:28)

The ancient landmark for America is the Constitution that was biblically based. To pervert the meaning of that historic writing is an act of defiance against those who wrote the document, and against the God who inspired them!

The Biblical End Run
The ancient landmark for Christian America is the King James Holy Bible. We should ascertain the meaning of the ancient (1611) document, and then obey the Word. During the last 100 years, and especially since 1960, over 50 different “bible” translations have appeared out of thin air. The Bible has become a living document that allows private interpretation. We Christians have become lawless.

Lawlessness Illustrated
God created man as both male and female. That statement is found in both Genesis 1:27 and Genesis 5:2. When I was young, I wondered why God had to explain: The difference seemed so very obvious. Men and women:

  • Look different.
  • Sound different.
  • Think differently.
  • Have different reproductive functions.

Yet modern man—Christians included—say there is no difference between men and women. That is the basis for “equality” marriage. For over 100 years, the Western World has continued to mock God in this matter. Our marriages are in shambles, and our children are going astray. Yet we continue to mock God. “Be not deceived, God is not mocked.” (Galatians 6:7a). We’re  a lawless generation, and we’ll pay the price.

For whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the spirit shall of the spirit reap life everlasting. (Galatians 6:7b-6:8)

“Equality” Marriage Illustrated
Like Socialism, “equality” marriage (EM) is strictly theoretical. Both have been tried for a hundred years, but have always failed. Liberals want desperately for both Socialism and “EM” to work, so they keep trying.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results—Albert Einstein

Note the quotation marks that always surround my use of the word “equality.” As God designed us, every organization will have both leaders and followers. The biblical marriage will have the husband leading, and his wife following. In “EM,” husband and wife are supposed to equally lead and equally follow; that, of course, is physically impossible. Someone will be the leader!

An Undercover Operation
Paul Ryan was Mitt Romney’s running mate in 2012. Republicans, who thought they were voting for a Republican, were actually voting for a Liberal Democrat—for the Vice-President, anyway!

As we approach the 2016 elections, Ryan is the Speaker of the House. But he is just a front for his Liberal Democrat wife, Janna Little Ryan. She rarely grants public interviews, but seems much more comfortable pushing her ideas through her husband. He is rightly called a RINO—Republican in name only!

Conclusion & Predictions
Paul and Janna Ryan illustrate perfectly what has come to our nation. “Egalitarianism” (“EM”) and the Great Society has caused America to be ruled—in government and in the home—by women and feminized males. And that includes the Republican Party.

There is no political solution, but there is an answer. The following passage suggests what’s in store for America—Sharia Law!

Behold, thy people in the midst of thee are women: the gates of thy land shall be set wide open unto thine enemies: the fire shall devour thy bars. (Nahum 3:13)

Under Islam, that would be the end of “egalitarianism” in the West—God is not mocked! In Chapter 13, I’ll explain in detail.

Other Problems
The lawless lifestyle of Christians covers much ground. I’ve already written about sexual immorality, unbiblical marriages, dysfunctional children, Political Correctness, political corruption, and “egalitarianism.” Sometimes Christians don’t pay their bills. Chad Madaras, Tyrone Jackson, and Mannaser D. Marshall are Christians who owe me money, but don’t intend to pay. I’ve tried to contact their pastors, and have gotten court judgments, but to no avail. They think God isn’t watching.

Madalyn Murray O’Hair
The queen of modern lawlessness was Madalyn Murray O’Hair—America’s top atheist! Her interview with Dorothy Charles Banks can be read from the link that follows:

O’Hair thought she knew better than God. In 1995, O’Hair, 77, her son Jon Murray, 40, and her granddaughter Robin Murray, 30, were kidnapped and brutally murdered by David Ronald Waters and two accomplices. Their bodies suffered extensive mutilation.

The highest form of lawlessness is when one thinks he knows better than God. We know what happened to O’Hair, and we know what happened to the Israelites. We Christians need to pay attention, and not repeat their sins.

The Economy

All things were created by him, and for him. And he is before all things, and by him all things consist [hold together] (Colossians 1:16b-17).

At this time in history, we depend on government, and do business as we always have. The Lord continues to hold things together. But the time is coming when the Lord will remove His hand. Western economies will crash. There will be:

  • No government services!
  • No Social Security!
  • No welfare or food stamps!
  • No utilities!
  • No spare parts!
  • No commerce!
  • No WalMart, Home Depot, or Lowe’s!

Nothing will work, and few people will know how to work. Lawless people will riot and loot. Crime will go unchecked. Life will be chaotic. It may take the Antichrist to restore order. Time will tell.

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A Peccadillo?
The sin of Adam seems like a small matter.

He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much. (Luke 16:10a)

Actually, it wasn’t a small matter. The entire human race was cursed. Still the human race continued for thousands of years.

To say there is no difference between men and women, when Scripture says there is a difference, strikes me as more serious than the Original Sin.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. (Genesis 1:27, emphasis added)

Multitudes of Christians have the gall to challenge God on something that basic. In fact, it is the union of the male, who loves, and the female, who submits, that models the relationship between Christ and the Church.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5:31-32, emphasis added)

Common Sense
In 1976, I moved from Detroit, Michigan to College Station, Texas. As I drove in, the sign on the DQ marque at Texarkana said, “Common sense is not that common.” It’s even less common today.

Why do smart people do dumb things?

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding. (Proverbs 9:10)

Where there is no fear of the Lord, there is mass confusion and deception. That is the case for:

  • Marriage and family!
  • Personal identity!
  • Government!
  • Defense!
  • Homeland Security!
  • Transportation!
  • Aviation!
  • Municipal Development!
  • Construction!
  • Taxation!
  • Insurance!
  • Health Care!
  • Environment!
  • Education!
  • Politics!
  • Finance!
  • Technology!
  • Real Estate!
  • Advertising!
  • Sales & Service!

Let’s consider just one of the above: Homeland Security. A routine flight requires a personal inspection just short of a rectal exam. But profiling is NOT acceptable. That allowed  the 911 suicide bombers on four different flights.

Here’s a good end-times summary statement:

Many shall be purified, and made white, and tried; but the wicked shall do wickedly; and none of the wicked shall understand; but the wise shall understand. (Daniel 12:10, emphasis added)

The decline of Western Civilization, and the ultimate demise of our way of life can be laid squarely at the feet of lawlessness, i.e. “egalitarianism.” Face it: You’re on the “Titanic” and it’s sinking, but nothing says you have to “go down with the ship.”

We were created in the image of God. The Lord has given everything we need to think, work, and relate responsibly—you can do it! There’s absolutely no excuse for being so undisciplined—lawless!

Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues. (Revelation 18:4b)

Sage Advice
I have a reputation for giving sage advice. The Lord has given me certain gifts and I have applied them.

  1. I was created in the image of God, but I have no illusions. I am NOT God.
  2. He has given me himself. I fear the Lord, and that makes me wise.
  3. Over the years I’ve gotten to know the Lord. He has given me understanding.
  4. The Lord has endowed me with a fabulous memory, and I pay attention.
  5. I respect the viewpoint of others, and listen to their ideas. That’s called humility.
  6. When I’m wrong, I’m quick to seek correction.
  7. The Lord has given me compassion for others.

The result is that I make quick decisions, and give great advice. I have the mind of Christ. People who heed my advice come out much better than those who don’t. I write to this generation out of love and compassion.

Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues. (Revelation 18:4b)

Right And Wrong
Often, I find that I’m right, and everyone else is wrong. Let me give an example: In Brazos County, Texas, a heat pump is a gross misapplication, but the contractors think otherwise. The city of College Station actually has an ordinance that requires heat pumps.

Dan Turner was in charge of AC research at Texas A&M. He agreed with me, and then with a smile said, “They use them in the [Rio Grande] Valley.” On my AC website, www.DrKool.Net I give six pages on how to use a heat pump and why you shouldn’t install one in our part of the world.

Why am I right when everyone else is wrong? I’ve already explained why everyone else is wrong: They don’t fear God or they learn from those who don’t fear God. So why am I right? I’m well educated and I have 34 years AC experience, but it’s more than that.

31 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed;

32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. (John 8:31-32)

A serious Christian will know the truth. He will be right, even if everyone else is wrong. Added to that we are in the end-times, and deception permeates our world.

Increasingly, common sense and truth are being replaced by Rules, Regulations, & Procedures (RR&P). We’re becoming a nation of robots—especially in government, but also in church! Two flagrant examples are Islam and the Mormon Church, but I hasten to add that many Evangelical Christians are guilty. Last but not least: Opinion has always challenged truth. The next quotation is just for laughs.

In the Unitarian Church, if two people agree on anything, one of them has to leave—Mike McMichen

Keep It Simple Stupid! I have two engineering degrees, and was a professor at Texas A&M for 12 years. I’ve been Dr. Kool, the AC specialist, for 35 years. With my education, I could easily complicate things, but I don’t.

In this paper, I’ve been accused of over-simplifying. As a serious man of God, my ideas are in line with Scripture.

But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ. (2 Corinthians 11:3)

Every man comes into this world thinking he’s God. Observe his mindset: “If I believe something, that makes it true.” Only God can say that! Human opinion, apart from the Word of God, complicates things. That’s why people accuse me of over-simplifying things. I now give a KISS example from my AC business.

After 15-20 years, most AC equipment needs to be replaced. There are three major components to a split system:

  • The outdoor condenser.
  • The indoor evaporator coil.
  • The air handler or gas furnace that moves air.

For years and years, we could replace one of these three components without replacing the other two. But government and the manufacturers have complicated things.

Because of the ozone-layer-depletion farce, R-410a refrigerant is replacing R-22. The condenser and the coil must be changed at the same time. They continue to push for higher efficiency. To get 16 SEER, all three components must be replaced at the same time—matched!

A Recent Example
Louis had the following equipment:

  • A 26 year-old condenser and coil.
  • A 5 year-old gas furnace.

A contractor told Louis he had to replace even his 5 year-old-furnace. He could have replaced everything, and gotten 16 SEER—but at what price!

I did the job without replacing the furnace, which gave him 14 SEER—a 12% loss in efficiency from the 16 SEER!

But there’s an even more compelling reason to avoid the 16 SEER: The blower would use an Electronically Controlled motor (ECM). They are highly problematic and expensive to replace. A regular (durable) motor replacement would run $325. To replace an ECM motor might cost him $1200.

Even when I must replace the gas furnace, I never install one that has an ECM motor. That limits my customer to 14 SEER, and I explain that to him.

As a serious man of God, my first priority is the comfort of my customer. I don’t want frequent breakdowns or expensive repairs. And P.S. I pick up the pieces after the other guys.

Keep It Simple Stupid!

Freedom Under Law
The following song is for those Christians who still respect the Holy Word—those who are NOT lawless! Repeatedly Michael W. Smith uses the words, “Changing you, and changing me.” The humble are willing to change, and the time for change is now—before the calamity comes!

Ancient Words
Michael W. Smith

Holy words long preserved
for our walk in this world,
They resound with God’s own heart
Oh, let the Ancient words impart.

Words of Life, words of Hope
Give us strength, help us cope
In this world, where e’er we roam
Ancient words will guide us Home.

Ancient words ever true
Changing me, and changing you.
We have come with open hearts
Oh let the ancient words impart.

Holy words of our Faith
Handed down to this age.
Came to us through sacrifice
Oh heed the faithful words of Christ.

Holy words long preserved
For our walk in this world.
They resound with God’s own heart
Oh let the ancient words impart.

Ancient words ever true
Changing me, and changing you.
We have come with open hearts
Oh let the ancient words impart.

Ancient words ever true
Changing me, and changing you.
We have come with open hearts
Oh let the ancient words impart.

Ancient words ever true
Changing me, and changing you.
We have come with open hearts
Oh let the ancient words impart.

Ancient words ever true
Changing me, and changing you.
We have come with open hearts
Oh let the ancient words impart.

We have come with open hearts
Oh let the ancient words impart.

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Chapter 12: The Terror of The Lord

The steps of a good man are ordered of the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. (Psalms 37:23)

So who is this good man? He has believed on Jesus, has taken on the righteousness of Christ, and is walking in obedience to the Lord.

But there’s another Christian: A man who has been born-again, but is walking in disobedience. He has the righteousness of Christ, and his steps will be ordered of the Lord—but not in paths of blessing! Instead he will be led into correction and chastisement.

For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he received. (Hebrews 12:6)

This chapter is NOT about the terror of hell. God corrects His people while they are still on this earth. Christians emphasize grace, mercy, and love, but often neglect God’s righteous requirements.


The most destructive ideas in human history were proposed by women and accepted by men. According to God’s plan, women influence and men decide. Women have had some terrible ideas, and men have made some really bad decisions.

The Fall
The eating of the forbidden fruit (Genesis 3:6) was Eve’s idea, but God held Adam responsible. Since then, every man comes into this world, as a sinner, at odds with the Lord. To make reconciliation possible, the Son of God came, and gave himself as a sacrifice for sin.

Born-again Christians understand they are sinners, saved by grace. The Lost think they’re good people.

The Ismaelites
The birth of Ishmael was Sarah’s idea (Genesis 16:3-4), but Abraham was held responsible. Mohammed was a direct descendant of Ishmael. The result has been a religion that is the exact antithesis to Christianity. The Western world is convinced Sarah’s idea was a bad one. The Islamic world thinks it was good.

The idea that men and women are equal and interchangeable started with women like Susan B. Anthony. Men have accepted the idea. The Bible declares male/female roles to be different, but we, in the Western World, are still convinced that “egalitarianism” is a good idea. The Islamic world thinks the idea is a bad one.

The Contrast
We, in the West, are convinced that Muslims are grossly deceived, but they don’t think so. Is it possible that we are grossly deceived, but we don’t think so? The results of our disobedience are summed up in the passage that follows:

And if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear? (1 Peter 4:15, emphasis added)

Christians just sail past, “If the righteous scarcely be saved,” as if it doesn’t apply to them. In Genesis Chapter 19, we read of the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah. Lot was barely saved. His wife became a pillar of salt. He ended up living in a cave, and then committing incest with his two daughters. Yet 2 Peter 2:7-8 tells us Lot was a righteous man. So what did Lot do wrong?

(For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds.) (2 Peter 2:8)

Especially in our marriages, Christians have copied the unlawful deeds of their unbelieving neighbors.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:2a, emphasis added)

Such Christians will be “saved” under extenuating circumstances.

The Bride Of Christ
For almost 2000 years, God has turned His attention to the Gentiles, while Israel has been set-aside. Today, the heart of many Israeli Jews is for the coming of the Messiah. When their eyes are opened, they will know that He has already come.

Very soon the Church Age will end, and Israel will be enlightened. The Jews will then preach the Gospel instead of Christians. Remember, we Gentiles were grafted into Israel—see Romans 11:17!

Even now, the Gentile world is descending into darkness and Israel is increasingly becoming the light of the world—“A light to lighten the Gentiles, and the glory of thy people Israel” (Luke 2:32)! For now, the Jews are still largely in disbelief, but that is changing.

From the corporate body of the Church, Jesus takes his Bride. This will happen at the Rapture.

Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. (emphasis added)

And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. (Revelation 19:7-8)

So who is the Bride of Christ? That she should be arrayed in fine linen? Those who keep the commandments of the Lord!

He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. (John 14:21)

I repeat: The Bride of Christ are those who love Jesus, and prove it by keeping His commandments. The commands to submit and love that apply in marriage are paramount.

The Bride of Christ will probably be a remnant, taken from the Christian Church over about 2,000 years. It’s entirely possible that the Bride will be composed largely of resurrected saints, from prior generations, along with Christian martyrs.

And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God. (Revelation 19:9, emphasis added)


The Promised Land
There is but one parcel of land on earth that comes with a title deed from God: The land God promised to Israel is that geographic area from the Nile to the Euphrates River—see Genesis 15:18. The promise was given to Abraham and to his descendants; it is repeated throughout Scripture.

The Israelites were about to go into the Promised Land. To do so they would have to displace the inhabitants. They started by capturing Jericho. The story is told in Joshua 6.

The Lord forbade them from taking the goods of Jericho. (Only the precious metals were to come into the treasury of the Lord.) The Lord expects obedience from His people. The Israelites took Jericho, but one man, Achan took some things—a garment, silver, and gold! He hid them in his tent. This became a curse on Israel, and they were defeated in battle.

To purge the evil from the camp, Achan was taken (Joshua 7:24). He, his entire family, and his animals were stoned and then burned, along with his goods. They were then free to continue their conquest of the Promised Land. Ai was next. This time the Lord allowed them to take of the spoil.

When these things were taught in our Sunday-School class, I asked if God really expected people to obey. Does he expect us to obey? I was told that we are under a New Covenant. Yes, we’re under a new covenant, but we’re as bound to obedience as were the Israelites. Let me explain.

Now all these things happened unto them for examples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come. (1 Corinthians 10:11)

Retribution was immediately meted out to Achan, as an example for us—so we might not sin! But many Christians continue in disobedience. Because they haven’t been punished, they think they’re getting away with it.

Christians are looking to be caught away in what is known as the Rapture. The consensus is that all born-again Believers will suddenly be removed from the earth.

The Rapture
Will every born-again Christian be caught away?

  • Once I thought all would go.
  • Then I thought only certain ones would go.
  • Then I thought all would go.
  • Now I’m back to a partial Rapture.

I’m 78 but the Lord has given me a wonderful memory. Here’s what I remember from almost 70 years ago. And I believe it’s complete. After writing this paper and my companion book, http://TwoLoves.Net, I have come to certain conclusions. This children’s song from the 50’s best describes what I now believe.

Will You Be Ready?

Say, will you be ready when Jesus comes.
Are you truly born-again?
Washed in Jesus blood.
Are your garments spotless?
Are they white as snow?
Will you be ready when Jesus comes?

Two will be together, grinding at the mill.
Two will be together, sleeping calm and still.
One will be taken and the other left behind.
Will you be ready when Jesus comes?

Jesus said, “If ye love me, keep my commandments” (John 14:15). “Are your garments spotless? Are they white as snow?” The garments have to do with relationships. Did you faithfully serve the Lord and other people?

Those who walk in obedient fellowship with Jesus will be ready. But multitudes of Christians won’t be ready. The next three passages make that clear.

And when he had opened the fifth seal, I saw under the altar the souls of them that were slain for the word of God, and for the testimony which they held: (Revelation 6:9)

And white robes were given unto every one of them; and it was said unto them, that they should rest yet for a little season, until their fellowservants also and their brethren, that should be killed as they were, should be fulfilled. (Revelation 6:11)

And one of the elders answered, saying unto me, what are these which are arrayed in white robes? and whence came they? And I said unto him, Sir, thou knowest. And he said to me, These are they which came out of great tribulation, and have washed their robes, and made them white in the blood of the lamb. (Revelation 7:13-14)

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A Major Discovery
My discovery was sparked by God’s dealings with His Chosen People—the Jews! Because of disobedience, they went into Babylonian captivity for 70 years. Then they came under Roman occupation. Their temple at Jerusalem was burned, and their city destroyed. Then, for about 2000 years, the Jews were scattered to the ends of the earth.

I challenge you to read Jeremiah, Lamentations, and Ezekiel. These prophetic books, from beginning to end, are about God’s coming judgment on His people, Israel. But what lies ahead for the Christian Church?

Just ahead, I see the Rapture; then the Tribulation; then the Judgment. Anyone left behind at the Rapture will endure the Tribulation. Will it take the Tribulation to convince worldly Christians to repent?

And it was given unto him to make war with the saints, and to overcome them. (Revelation 13:7a)

And I saw as it were a sea of glass mingled with fire: and them that had gotten the victory over the beast, and over his image, and over his mark, and over the number of his name, stand on the sea of glass, having the harps of God. And they sing the song of Moses the servant of God. (Revelation 15:2-3a, emphasis added)

Jesus said, “I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33b). A worldly Christian can become an “overcomer” during the Tribulation.

And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death. (Revelation 12:11)

Ephesians 2:8-10
Ephesians 2:8-9 says we are saved by faith. The next verse says we saved “unto good works.” As I read it, Salvation is a gift, but good works determine rewards. (To go in the Rapture is a reward.) See if Jesus’ words don’t confirm what I said.

But and if that servant say in his heart, My lord delayeth his coming; and shall begin to beat the menservants and maidens, and to eat and drink, and be drunken; The lord of that servant will come in a day when he looketh not for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in sunder, and will appoint him his portion with the unbelievers. (Luke 12:45-46, emphasis added)

Better Now Than Later
Together, we need to deal with the problem. I know the Bible well enough to know that God tells it like it is—no matter what! We should “Speak the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15) and “let the chips fall where they may.”

Repentance requires a heart-felt sense of wrong, and a willingness to be corrected. Early in this paper, I gave God’s plan for marriage—different male and female roles! By the power of the Holy Spirit, just do it.

The sooner we get our families in order, the better. For mankind, the most trying time, ever, is still ahead—read the book of Revelation! I believe in “Once saved, always saved,” but the sincere Christian will follow through.

Wherefore, the rather brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall: For so an entrance shall be ministered unto you abundantly into the everlasting kingdom of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. (2 Peter 1:10-11)

The faithful Christian, like Enoch and Noah, will enter the Kingdom in style. But Christians like Lot will make it “by the skin of their teeth.”

And if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and sinner appear? (1 Peter 4:18, emphasis added)

The Catching Away
All my life there has been speculation as to when the Rapture will occur, and who will go. Earlier, I read Jesus words in Luke 12:45-46. On that basis, I said many Christians will be “left behind” at the Rapture. (Maybe these are just professing Christians.) The following words of Jesus should really get our attention: “When the Son of man cometh, shall he find faith on the earth?” (Luke 18:8b).

I cite additional evidence: In Revelation Chapters 2-3, Jesus addresses the seven churches. Only the church in Philadelphia will be caught away.

Because thou hast kept the word of my patience, I will also keep thee from the hour of temptation, which shall come upon all the world, to try them that dwell upon the earth. (Revelation 3:10)

The promise was not given to the other six churches. The Church at Laodicea is today’s Liberal church. Jesus gives their deplorable condition.

Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou are wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked: (Revelation 3:17)

Could the above apply to Evangelical churches?

Hope For The Hopeless
Is there hope? Is it possible for a man to leave the Church at Laodicea, and join the Church at Philadelphia? Can a man change churches?

I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thy eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see. As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent. (Revelation 3:18-19, emphasis added)

When the trumpet sounds, you want to be in the right church.

The Great Tribulation
The Tribulation is a seven-year period following the Rapture. During that period:

  • The Church age will end.
  • Jewish Believers will then preach the Gospel.
  • God’s wrath will be poured out on rebellious mankind.
  • Sinners will be given one last chance to repent.

Half the world’s population will die. Still there will be enough fight left in lawless man for that final War of Armageddon.

I see this undisciplined generation as a warning of a Mark yet to come—“The Mark of The Beast!” The Antichrist will reign, and only those who have his Mark will be able to buy, sell, or hold a job. I will not speculate as to what that Mark will be, but it won’t be his number, which is 666.

The Great Repentance
Let me repeat what I wrote earlier.

And if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and sinner appear? (1 Peter 4:18, emphasis added)

During the Great Tribulation, lots of folk will shape up. I, again, quote that passage from Revelation.

And one of the elders answered, saying unto me, what are these which are arrayed in white robes? and whence came they? And I said unto him, Sir, thou knowest. And he said to me, These are they which came out of great tribulation, and have washed their robes, and made them white in the blood of the lamb. (Revelation 7:13-14)

Again, the garments or robes have to do with relationships. Did you faithfully serve the Lord and other people? Many Christians are not faithfully serving the Lord. They are not faithfully serving others. Will they be left behind?

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Chapter 13: The Coming Antichrist

The Spirit of Truth
In the Old Testament, God’s Holy Spirit was available to just a few. Examples include Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses, Joshua, Deborah, Gideon, David, and all the Prophets. On the day of Pentecost, the spirit of truth was poured out on all Believers. Christian America was founded on truth.

Who is walking in truth today? Israel, some conservatives, and a few Christians! Almost everyone else is deceived: That includes Muslims, the UN, Liberal politicians, university students, “egalitarians,” the media, world governments, and most Christians.

People who surround Israel are driven, with a suicidal frenzy, to destroy Jews. They actually desire to die for Allah, and when one of them gets hurt, the world blames Israel.

The demise of truth and the ascendancy of falsehood foretells the coming of the Antichrist. Presently, Muslims have intimidated the entire Western world. Even newsmen, with biased reporting, are “sucking up” to Islam. As I read Daniel 9:25-27, the Antichrist kingdom will come quickly like a flood, and will last for at least seven years.

A Dangerous Religion
Thirty years ago, before Islam became such a force in the Western world, I declared Islam to be the most dangerous religion in the world. It is antithetical to Christianity. As Shoebat has clearly shown, everything we consider holy, they consider profane, and vice-versa. They have everything backwards.

Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! (Isaiah 5:20)

Believers have seen two major assaults on the sovereignty of God. The last assault will come soon.

  1. Darwin’s theory of evolution wasn’t widely accepted by Christians, but the next assault hit the bull’s eye.
  2. Christians have swallowed “egalitarianism,” “hook, line, and sinker.”
  3. The final assault will be from an Islamic Antichrist—the Mahdi! It will probably come during the Tribulation.

The Muslims are here for a very significant reason. During the Tribulation, our comfortable Western lifestyle will give way to a time of great trouble. The Gospel will be preached by the 144,000 Jewish Evangelists, the Two Witnesses, and the angels—see Revelation 14:6. With the Mahdi in charge, the contrast between True Religion and False Religion will be obvious. Millions will become real martyrs.

Hell On Earth
Walid Shoebat was in New York having lunch with a rabbi and a preacher. Their waiter was Muslim, so Walid greeted him in Arabic and Islamic terms. He asked the waiter: “Is it then valid to kill Jews?” The waiter replied that it was not yet time. Not knowing Arabic, the rabbi asked what the waiter had said. “This is your lucky day,” replied Shoebat.

So when will the time come? By UN mandate, the Caliphate was abolished March 3, 1924. Muslims are awaiting the restoration of that office. Their messiah, the Mahdi, the Antichrist will be in charge. I now quote from God’s War on Terror, P.453


The Caliphate confers legitimacy to jihad. According to Islamic law, without a Caliphate, it is not possible to declare a genuinely sanctioned pan-Islamic Jihad. Similar to the need for the President of the United States to declare a state of war, it is also necessary for a Caliph to be in office for any official pan-Islamic Jihad to be declared. But once a Caliph is in office, it is actually law for him to engage the non-Muslim world in war in order to spread Islam. This is not to say that Muslims have not conducted jihad against non-Muslims, but these have largely been the acts of small groups or individuals. In other words, jihad under a Caliph would be genuine “old school” jihad—not a bombing here or an attack there. It would become the modern world’s first true full-scale religious war. It would involve everything that the Islamic world could throw out, from economic jihad to withholding oil to cyber jihad to multi-front military conflicts.

I suggest you read Revelation. Chapter Six is the beginning of the Tribulation. We are close to the end, and the Antichrist will be the Islamic Mahdi—their false messiah! But he won’t be alone. He will have a huge army of Muslims behind him. We’re watching things unfold. Twenty years ago, we couldn’t have seen what seems obvious today. (A jigsaw puzzle becomes easier as the last few pieces fall in place.)

But thou, O Daniel, shut up the words, and seal the book, even to the end: many shall run to and fro, and knowledge shall be increased. (Daniel 12:4)

I, again, quote the words of Walid Shoebat, p.354.

God has made it clear that this book would be locked up and sealed until the time of the end. Why then do so many cling to the most commonly accepted, most popular interpretations of this book? If the book has truly been sealed until the time of the end, then it also stands to reason that the most popular, the most common interpretation, (The Roman Empire Theory) is also the most unlikely meaning of the prophecy.

But if the interpretation offered in this book, namely that the Islamic and not the Roman Empire is the fulfillment of Daniel’s prophecies, then it also stands to reason that the book is now beginning to be unsealed and the “Last-Days” that have forever been on the horizon are in fact now upon us.

The Time Of The End
The mystery of Daniel’s prophecy is being revealed by other end-times events. Daniel writes that the end will be marked by increased mobility and technology. Computer and cell phone technology is now worldwide. Within the past ten years, even appliances and automobiles have gone high-tech. Modern transportation is bringing Muslims to our shores.

The old Ottoman Empire ruled the Middle East from 1300-1900. During WWI, it disintegrated. Now it’s coming back. Let’s take a look at a passage that is now being re-interpreted. But first I want to list the eight world kingdoms as given by Shoebat:

  • Egypt
  • Assyria
  • Babylon
  • Persia
  • Greece
  • Rome
  • The Islamic Empire
  • The Revived Islamic Empire, under the Mahdi

And I saw one of his heads as it were wounded to death; and his deadly wound was healed: and all the world wondered after the beast. (Revelation 13:3)

All Western prophecy teachers have interpreted the head-wound as having been suffered by a man, the Antichrist. Shoebat sees it differently. I quote from p.357.

One of the heads, that is one of the seven beast empires, has a head wound. Again, we have already learned from our study of the previous snapshots of the beast empire that the empire that specifically suffers the head-wound—an apparent death—is the Islamic Empire. This head-wound may be understood as the abolition of the Caliphate that occurred in 1924. Yet, presently, the Islamic Empire is arising anew. It is reconsolidating its power and developing new bonds. Soon the head—the Caliphate—will be revived, healed and restored.

Few Westerners take Islam seriously, but the mortally wounded Islamic Caliphate is being resurrected before our eyes. The resurrected Ottoman Empire will soon try to rule the entire world under the Antichrist.

The Western Response
About 120 years ago, Helen Kendrick Johnson (an anti-suffragist) wrote the following:

The greatest danger with which this land is threatened comes from the ignorant and persistent zeal of some of its women. They abuse the freedom under which they live, and to gain an impossible power would fain destroy the government that alone can protect them.

The Allies won WWII because of the manliness of our men. Because of “egalitarianism,” Western males—with the exception of Israelis—are now beaten-down, emasculated, and feminized. Muslim men are the most aggressive on the planet, and they want to take our freedom. Where are the MEN who would withstand them?

What About Israel?

They asked of him, saying, Lord wilt thou at this time restore again the kingdom to Israel? And he said unto them, It is not for you to know the times or the seasons, which the Father hath put in his own power. (Acts 1:7)

Today, one might ask, “Will you at this time restore the kingdom to Israel?” The answer is “Soon.” God is re-gathering his ancient people. Jesus will soon return, and the Kingdom of Israel will be completely restored.

I believe the primary purpose for the Rapture is to restore the Kingdom to Israel. But for that to happen, the Lord must close the Church Age. And as I said earlier, Jesus will take His Bride out of the Church. If you love the Lord sufficiently to obey Him, you will be in the bridal party.

Thy Kingdom Come
Worldwide there are about 15M Jews. After the Rapture, 144,000 Jews start to preach the Gospel. Run the numbers, and you have one Jewish evangelist for every 100 Jews. Along with the Two Witnesses, this may be what it takes to finally bring Israel to Faith. I can hardly wait!

The video below is a plea for European Jews to move to Israel.




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We are not only in the end-times, but we’re rapidly approaching the end as foretold in Scripture. Note the following:

  • The re-birth of the nation of Israel! (Isaiah 66:7-8)
  • The exponential increase in technology & mobility! (Daniel 12:4)
  • Like Noah’s day, the world is filled with violence (Islam)! (Genesis 6:13, Matthew 24:37)
  • As in Sodom, the gays now openly demand approval! (Luke 17:28-29)
  • The ungodly are brazen in their assertiveness! (Psalms 2:1-4)
  • We live in a post-truth era! (Isaiah 59:15)

The Antichrist
The Antichrist comes in the place of Christ, and against Christ. He is the lawless one. Could there be a more lawless one than an Islamic Antichrist?

The next two passages clearly reveal a Muslim Antichrist. Whenever Islam rules, they impose their unique calendar, and Sharia Law. Christians are persecuted for 3.5 years, which is half of the Tribulation.

And he [the Antichrist] shall speak great words against the most High, and shall wear out the saints of the most High, and think to change times and laws: and they shall be given into his hand until a time and times and the dividing of time. (Daniel 7:25, emphasis added)

And the king [Antichrist] shall do according to his will: and he shall exalt himself, and magnify himself above every God, and shall speak marvelous things against the God of gods, and shall prosper till the indignation be accomplished. (Daniel 11:36a)

In Section II of God’s War On Terror, Walid Shoebat devotes 128 pages to proving the Antichrist and the Mahdi to be one and the same. The Antichrist will be a Muslim. Later, he shows the Antichrist will rule from Turkey. Logic, alone, should connect the Antichrist to Islam. The Muslims hate Israel with an everlasting hatred.

Multitudes will have to take the Mark of the Beast in order to buy, sell, or hold a job. But worse yet, men will convert to Islam or be executed. That would be the ultimate humiliation for Westerners who presently are sickened by Muslim atrocities. How about Western atheists who have refused Christianity? Will they confess Islam to save their necks?

The religious/political scenario will be infinitely worse than we Westerners had anticipated from reading the book of Revelation.

The Mark of The Beast
Almost everyone believes in life after death.

  1. Most non-Muslims think they will be saved by their good deeds.
  2. Muslims believe they will be saved by their bad deeds—Jihad!
  3. Evangelical Christians believe they will be saved by faith in Christ—See Ephesians 2:8-9.

Revelation Chapter 13 gives lots of information on the Antichrist. His number is 666, but that is NOT the Mark.

Here is wisdom. Let him that hath understanding count the number of the beast: for it is the number of a man; and his number is Six hundred threescore and six. (Revelation 13:18)

The meaning of the 666 will NOT be determined by ingenuity, but by wisdom. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” (Proverbs 111:10a). In the Bible, the number 6 symbolizes man and human weakness, the evils of Satan and the manifestation of sin.

Those who take the Mark of The Beast are depending on human achievement to be saved. It’s that simple. (See Revelation 14:9-11 for the fate of those who take The Mark of The Beast. They will be forever lost.)

Israel Vs. Islam
Both Isaac and Ishmael were sons of Abraham. We have a spiritual family controversy between God’s Chosen People and those who weren’t chosen. Israel wants peace, while the Muslims want war—Jihad! During the Tribulation, the war will escalate greatly. The Bible calls the Tribulation the time of Jacob’s Trouble. But Israel will be saved—see Jeremiah 30:7-8!

On TV, Islamic beheadings appear as beastly. On p.162 of his book, Walid Shoebat writes the following:

Rarely do Westerners examine Islam’s history of the beheadings of hundreds and thousands of Christian Armenians and Christians from Smyrna. The future will prove of millions of Christians yet to be beheaded.

Scripture confirms the above.

I saw the souls of them that were beheaded for the witness of Jesus, and the word of God, which had nor worshipped the beast, neither his image, neither had received his mark upon their foreheads or in their hands; and they lived and reigned with Christ a thousand years. (Revelation 20:4b)

Revelation Chapter 13 describes the Antichrist’s empire as a beast—“And I saw a beast rise up out of the sea!” Bible scholars interpret this to be the sea of humanity. There are 1.6B Muslims in the world today. Is that not a sea of humanity?

Islamic Dominance
In Muslim countries, one can kill, pillage, and rape without accountability. When it comes to lawlessness, there is no equal to Islam. Islam is spreading like wildfire, and their goal is to subjugate the entire world. In Europe, they are taking over by emigration and birthrate.

I give a 20-minute video link of what is happening NOW. Then I give a two-minute video video of a migrant riot in Paris.

Paris riots

Muslims are emigrating to America and other parts of the world, but there is a serious threat that few people have even considered. America and the West have an increasingly dangerous debt crisis.

I was born in the shadow of the Great Depression. As a youngster all I heard from the adults was the economic hardship they had endured. America pulled out of the depression as a result of FDR’s new deal and WWII. Both required borrowed money.

After the war, the entire Western World became more and more Socialistic. America has become increasingly a welfare state as politicians use taxpayer funds to buy votes.

The trouble with Socialism is that you eventually run out of other people’s money—Margaret Thatcher

Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery—Winston Churchill

A Democrat is someone who has nothing, and wants to share it with everyone—Warren J. Gloss III

It wouldn’t take much to trigger a Western economic crash. Let’s consider one possibility. The 1811-1812 New Madrid Earthquakes continued for 15 months, with after-shakes for 30 years. It completely reshaped the topography of the Midwest. The epicenter was in New Madrid Missouri, but it was felt as far away as Montreal.

If it happened today, every bridge across the Mississippi would be down, and America would be cut in half. Interstates, bridges, and utilities would be a tangled mess. The economic collapse would start in America, and like dominos, the entire Western world would fall. For Islam, it would be like taking candy from a baby. The Caliphate could quickly be restored.

While Islamic lawlessness is gaining traction, it does so in the shadow of Western and Christian lawlessness. Lawlessness invites more lawlessness.

Sharia Law
Sharia Law is anything but law. Their law is what they decide at the moment. They are the embodiment of lawlessness.

Imagine America under Sharia Law. People who reject the authority of God—women who refuse the authority of their husbands—suddenly come under their law.

Everything would change, and the Supreme Court Justices would be out of work. The lawless: Judges, politicians, unbelievers, and Christians, would be given a mega-dose of their own medicine.

A God of Surprises

  1. At the Red Sea both the Israelites and the Egyptians were surprised.
  2. Jesus’ ministry of teaching and healing surprised everyone.
  3. Jesus’ crucifixion surprised His followers.
  4. Jesus’ Resurrection surprised those who had crucified him.
  5. Multitudes of lawless Christians will be surprised at the Rapture.
  6. Everyone in the West will be surprised when he finds himself under Sharia Law.

I hope I’m wrong, but I’m afraid I might be right.

The Choice
You can watch the Great Tribulation from down here or from up there. As I said earlier, “When the trumpet sounds, you want to be in the right church.”

In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead be raised incorruptible, and we shall all be changed. (1 Corinthians 15:52)

Marantha! Come quickly, Lord Jesus!

What If I’m Right?
After writing this paper, I felt really bad. I see terrible things ahead for lawless Christians and unbelievers, alike.

Things are ending the way they started: The woman is at fault and the man is responsible. Multitudes will stand “naked” before the Lord with excuses like those of Adam: “The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.” And Eve: “The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.” (Genesis 3:12-13)

I explained earlier how Socialism has taken the place of Democracy in the West. The Left has put government in the place of  God, and that’s idolatry.

America and the West have chosen government over God. Government has gotten us into a precarious economic situation. Our leaders may have paved the way for Islam to conquer America.

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Chapter 14, Marital Training

Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. (Matthew 5:6)

So what is righteousness anyway? It is to be in right relationship with God and your fellow men. It is a lifetime process of becoming more like Christ, and being filled with His righteousness.

Please examine the Ten Commandments taken from Exodus 20:3-17. Can you find a single commandment that doesn’t have to do with a relationship? They appear below in abbreviated form.

  1. You shall have no other gods before Me.
  2. You shall not make idols.
  3. You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.
  4. Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
  5. Honor your father and your mother.
  6. You shall not murder.
  7. You shall not commit adultery.
  8. You shall not steal.
  9. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
  10. You shall not covet.

Training for Marriage

18 There be three things which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not:

19 The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid. (Proverbs 30:18-19)

But the “way of a man with a maid,” requires training.

A college graduate has been trained for a career. He has 16 years of formal education. Yet the most important choice he’ll ever make is the selection of a mate. How much formal marital training has he had? If both parents reared him, if they had a good marriage, he doesn’t need formal training. He learned by example.

The Rest of Us
Most of us didn’t have the luxury of such an upbringing. We desperately needed formal marital training, but didn’t know it. All we wanted was to meet someone. We quickly found that chemistry and good intentions weren’t enough.

Then we spend the rest of our lives “picking up the pieces.” Having spent 32 years “picking up the pieces,” I’ve been sufficiently self-trained to teach others. For now, what I have to offer is in print. In the future, I hope to offer classes, where we teach about biblical marriage.

If you are one of the “many” who didn’t come from a solid family—whether you are single, married, or “picking up the pieces”—I want to help you. And there’s no charge.

Few people are teachable. They’re not willing to be corrected. They will defend their position, even when they’re wrong. They do NOT hunger and thirst after His righteousness. With tenacity, they cling to their own righteousness.

The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee that I am not as other men. (Luke 18:11a)

We’re talking about marriage, and I want to help you have a good one. If you’re like the Pharisee, there’s nothing I can do for you. I’ve been on both sides of a good marriage. I’d like to tell how I made it from the wrong side to the right side. It wasn’t easy, and it didn’t happen overnight.

Early in this paper, I said that life is a preparation for eternity, and marriage is the crucible. I believe that with all my heart. If you reach that place where you are starting to be filled with His righteousness, and you want more, what do you do? You need a wife who is filled with His righteousness.

My Testimony Again
As I’ve already said, I had a poor parental example. I wanted a good marriage, but I needed help. If I had stood my ground, and defended MY righteousness, it wouldn’t have happened. I found a good counselor, and obeyed him completely—he was the expert! I didn’t argue with Mr. Dyke; I didn’t try to teach him. I humbly submitted to his superior oversight.

Mr. Dyke introduced me to a client named John—I moved in with him. John thought he knew better than his counselor, and to my knowledge he didn’t make it. Few people have a good marriage—they lack humility! I’m where I am because I’m humble. I’m not bragging; I’m just providing information.

And P.S. I’m now the expert, and will gladly help anyone who will accept that.

James Patterson is my good friend and former employee. I once told James of the time when I was really confused. He quickly replied, “You sure have your bricks lined up now.” I’m telling you: If you want to “get your bricks lined up,” it’ll take humility and hard work.

Getting Your Bricks Lined Up
I took the initiative. At 28, as a student at Detroit Bible College, I walked into the office and told them I needed help. They recommended Mr. Dyke, who became my counselor. If you want to go from where you are to where you want to be, you must take the initiative. You have to find someone you trust, and then obey him.

I’m working with a man named John Sterling. John is way ahead of where I was at 28. He relates well to everyone except a potential mate. I was non-relational, which means I didn’t relate well to anyone. If John follows my direction, he will quickly learn how to relate to the right woman. I say, “right woman,” but our society is much more feminized than it was 50 years ago so he might not find the right woman.

An Unkool Marriage
At 31, I married a woman who also had a poor parental example. I was still getting my bricks lined up when I took a wife whose bricks were in disarray. Furthermore, she fought like a tigress to defend the rightness of her wrongful condition.

I sought to persuade Theresa by first writing and publishing a book on marriage, Restoring The Father To The Family. Then I went on Christian radio for 4 years giving a weekly message on marriage. Then I wrote an open letter that got me kicked out of church. Finally, I filed for divorce, and to my surprise that did the trick. Since April 2002, we’ve had a heavenly marriage. The process took 32 years, but my friend Victor made it in only six months.

I have come to a startling conclusion: Words seldom reach many women. (Actions speak louder than words.) My book was words. My radio messages were words. My open letter was words. Women are feelings oriented. I had been a good, loving husband, and I was leaving. That didn’t “feel” good.

A good marriage models the relationship between Christ and the church. Divorce models hell. Divorce is dreadful, but sometimes necessary. You should always remember, and never forget: Hell is a reality, so marital decisions are critical.

The Nature of Men
I again quote from, Created to Be His Help Meet, by Debi Pearl:

God created Adam and commissioned him to take the position of leadership. Since then, every son of Adam has received the same mandate. Man was created to rule. It is his nature.

The Left promotes “Equality” marriage. The result is female leadership, and that suits their purposes. When husbands are denied their rightful place of leadership, Liberalism flourishes. It comes natural for a man to react in ways that offend his wife. If the man does what comes natural, his family will be disrupted. When family authority is neutered, Liberal government is empowered.

A godly man (like myself) doesn’t do what comes natural. You should be a good, loving husband who, like Christ, lays down his life for his bride. But you don’t want female usurpation to continue indefinitely. God showed me what to do, and it worked.

Women don’t understand the nature of men, and they are clueless when a man reacts badly. But most women understand real love; the idea of losing a good, loving husband may persuade them when words won’t. That has been my experience.

Did I hunger and thirst after righteousness or what? I’m in right relationship with God; I have a great marriage; and I relate well to other people. Again, I’m just providing information. If you trust me, I can help you. Life and godliness are NOT found in religion, but in relationship. You’re preparing for eternity, and you have one lifetime to do it. Go for it!

Where The Rubber Meets The Road
Before you get married, you need to pay attention, and very objectively assess the family surrounding your potential mate. It’s a lot easier to NOT get married than to get divorced after you have a child or two.

As An Adult
If you came from a lousy family situation, your relational skills probably could be described as I stated earlier:

  • Dysfunctional!
  • Non-relational!
  • Adult child!
  • Misfit!

You should make it a priority to learn how to relate to others. That’s right! Go back to kindergarten. That’s what I did. To love God and love others is the standard. Make that your goal.

And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. (Mark 12:30-31b)

If you’re into alcohol or drugs, what I’m about to say won’t help you.

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Minimize Your Negatives
If you want to attract a quality woman, you need to minimize YOUR negatives. If you’re a smoker, you should quit—“cold turkey!” I’ve already told that I found a counselor who helped ME minimize my negatives. If you want a quality wife, you need to shape up, and became a quality man.

A Generational Problem
In my Chapter 3, I told how Candace Cameron Bure has inspired other women to become submissive wives. Ditto for Debi Pearl. A modern unsubmissive wife faces two problems:

  • She probably had a poor parental example.
  • Her husband probably had a poor parental example.

Her battle will be on both fronts. But as I said earlier, women have the moral high ground. They can lead their husbands into a proper relationship by the simple act of submission.

The Christians at have covered anticipated problems. See their article that appears in my Appendix A.


Never Married, But Considering
If both of you were reared by parents who had a traditional marriage, you should ask two important questions:

  • Are you both Christians who want to please the Lord?
  • Do you like one another?

If the answer to both questions is “yes,” get married.

Never Married, But Non-Relational
If your parents had an “equality” marriage, you’re probably accustomed to conflict. You have poor relational skills. Don’t even think of marriage until you deal with YOUR problems. When it comes to human interactions, you are a child.

  • Be humble—teachable!
  • Take responsibility for yourself. Don’t blame others.
  • Find a good mentor and do what he says.
  • Put yourself under his authority.
  • Don’t allow yourself to be offended.
  • Accept criticism from a trusted source.
  • Change your behavior.
  • Practice your new relational skills.
  • Practice until it comes out your ears.
  • Cooperate with others. Give-in to others.
  • Get your mind off yourself and onto others.
  • Be thoughtful of others.
  • Take every opportunity to help someone else.

At home, I learned by example, and the examples were not good. My mother tried to force her ideas on us. I have learned to grant others the freedom God has given me. Here’s a great question you should ask a friend: “What would you like?” Be considerate of others. Don’t use them. Don’t try to manipulate. Respect the property of others.

Finally, don’t find fault with your mentor. He’s trying to help you—not the other way around! He can help you, even if he’s not perfect.

Married, But Non-Relational
In contrast to dysfunctional people, non-relational people aren’t into drugs or alcohol, and they can hold down a job. But they have poor social skills—especially with a mate!

Chances are both of you are non-relational. I was working on my relational skills, when I married a non-relational woman. She clung to her faulty marital ideas for 32 years. Once I was whole, I sought to persuade Theresa, and I finally won.

If an “equality” marriage is to be saved by a husband, his wife will probably resist. He cannot expect others to understand. My wife had plenty of support. I had very little. In contrast, my friend, Jim, stumbled into a good marriage. He couldn’t take it any more so he packed his bags, wrote a note, and left. His wife, Candy, shaped up real quick, and they now have a great marriage.

As I have said so many times, if you live in the Western World, society is feminized. That means you aren’t supposed to “rock the boat.” But that’s often what it will take to solve the problem. People will be offended; they don’t like being told they’re wrong.

When the Bible was being written, men were in charge. The Gospel is always offensive, but God forces no man; He only tells the consequences that await the ungodly. My advice to you is: If necessary, be offensive, but be wise.

There’s a book entitled, Battered Into Submission. That’s not what I’m talking about. You should love your wife, “as Christ loved the Church.” But your bottom line should be the same as the one Christ offers the rebellious sinner—either “shape up” or “ship out.” C.S. Lewis calls it The Great Divorce.

Sometimes separation will be beneficial. Often a non-relational marriage cannot be saved. You should make every effort to save the marriage, but that might require you to file for divorce. After trying every means of persuasion, I gently filed for divorce. I was on my knees begging Theresa to do the right thing. That was her wake-up call, and she shaped up.

No bluffing! If she hadn’t repented, I would have divorced her, and I wouldn’t have come to her rescue when she got Alzheimer’s. She would have been on her own.

Now, as my submissive wife, she is being loved and cared for like royalty. Today, at the nursing home, I held her hand, read the Bible to her, and prayed with her. Theresa can hardly talk, but she told me, “I love you so much.”

We live in a feminized world, run by women and feminized males. Women intimidate men. I was kicked out of my church because women complained to the pastor. He bowed to the pressure. Let me repeat what I said 47 pages ago.

I was part of an “equality” marriage for 32 years. But God put me in charge so I was responsible; I took my responsibility seriously.

  • I went against the culture.
  • I withstood the disapproval of other Christians.
  • I eventually prevailed.
  • My “equality” wife was re-born, and became my help meet.
  • Our marriage became heavenly—overnight!

The guidance I offer “Never-married, but non-relational,” applies here. You must learn to relate. You are a child. Being divorced usually brings other problems like that of having children. You’ll have to “let the chips fall where they may,” and get your own act together before moving on.

Second Things Second
Let’s say you’re divorced, and want to get married again. Don’t! You will attract another misfit. Do two things:

  • Work on your own relational skills—make it a crash course!
  • Find a good church, and fellowship with whole people.

I was brought up in a Pentecostal church that had a woman pastor. A feminized church is not a good place to find a mate. If you’re in a Charismatic church, get out. And P.S. there are lots of other churches you should leave.

Older people re-marry because of divorce or the death of a spouse. Theresa is still with me, but I’m looking—at a distance—for a widow who was submissive to her first husband. One would think she would submit to a second husband, but that could be a serious mistake.

I know three widows. Each one was submissive to her husband. They had great kids. (It’s amazing how well things work when you do things God’s way.)

But something happened after the husband died.

  1. One widow became locked into the way she and her husband did things. She flirted with me, and I responded. She immediately tried to shape me into the image of her deceased husband.
  2. A second widow “matured,” and began to build her own little kingdom. She finds “equality” marriage attractive.
  3. A third widow “matured,” and was able to build a magnificent kingdom. It would take an act of God to bring her back.

Neither of the above ladies is now fit for a biblical marriage.

When Theresa departs, of necessity, my only hope will be in recycling. Michael Pearl explains this in his book, Created to Need a Help Meet. To become a submissive wife in a second marriage can be difficult. So my advice to men is, “Be very careful.” Having said that, read on.

A Heavenly Recycled Union
My friend, Bud suddenly lost his wife, Nancy, to a brain aneurysm.  At the wake, a widow named Sandy said, “If I can ever be of help, let me know.” They had attended the same church for years. Bud and Sandy married soon thereafter; he is absolutely nuts about this woman.

A Model Biblical Marriage
In Judges Chapter 13, we read of Manoah and his wife. His name was mentioned 18 times, while the name of his wife never appears. He was the head, and she was his suitable helper. By example, they perfectly illustrate marital teamwork.

  • Love your wife.
  • Submit to your husband.

I encourage you to read the entire 13th Chapter. The Angel first instructed her. Manoah prayed, and the Angel returned to instruct him. In Judges 13:22, Manoah was fearful, but his wife had the answers he needed. “And the woman bare a son, and called his name Samson: and the child grew and the Lord blessed him.” (Judges 13:24)

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For Now
For men, the paper you are reading, How To Have a Good Marriage Without Changing Wives, should be your first priority.

A husband might direct his wife to my Introduction, Chapter 2, “Understanding God,” and Chapter 3, “Hope.” She might benefit from my Appendix A, “Submission of Christian wives to their husbands.”

For men, who want more, I offer my free, 425 page online book, Two Loves, Same Wife. See http://TwoLoves.Net.

For women, I recommend Created To Be His Help Meet, by Debi Pearl. I also recommend, The Hidden Help Meet, by Debi Pearl and Denny Kenaston.

People have been “banging their heads against a brick wall”—trying to make the unworkable work! Do things God’s way! This will be new territory. It’ll take time and practice.

Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. (Matthew 5:6)

The Lord has given each of us about 80 years in which to prepare for eternity. We start as an infant, and then progress through the stages and ages of life. We’re educated, and then work. We retire, and then we die.

We go through our daily routines: Every word we speak, every deed, every decision, every interaction is a preparation for eternity. But the most important Choice you will ever make, on this earth, is the one you marry. That will affect your eternal existence more than anything else.

Nearly every woman was created to be the help meet for some man. Her calling is to the support role, and the Bible provides all the guidance she needs.

Almost every man should be married. He is to “shepherd” his wife and children in a way that prepares them for eternity. The Bible has all the answers.

My advice is always founded in Scripture.

Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment. (Ecclesiastes 11:9)

And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:13)

He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? (Micah 6:8)

The time will come when your routine will be forgotten.

  • Your education!
  • Your business!
  • Your job!
  • Your meals!
  • Your vacations!
  • Your illnesses!
  • Everything!

Only your relationship with the Lord will matter, but that will largely depend on your past faithfulness during this brief 80 years the Lord gave you to prepare for eternity.

On that Day, what you want to hear are the words of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

His lord said unto him, well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. (Matthew 25:21, emphasis added)



Appendix A – Submission of Christian Wives to their Husbands

Original Article by Reason For Living
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Posted on this website 08/21/17

There are a lot of misconceptions about submission and submissive people. Before we can intelligently consider what the Bible has to say on the subject of submissive wives we need to clear these misconceptions out of our way. Let me begin with a few simple statements about the nature of submission:

  • Only a strong person can be submissive.
  • Submissiveness is not timidity, it is not servility, it is not subservience, it is not docility, it is not degrading, it is not a sign of weakness.
  • Submission is a sign of strength, not of weakness and a greater degree of submission requires a greater degree of strength of personal character.

Submission is an act of the will — it is the result of a Choice, a decision. The act of submission can only come from a Choice that a person makes. Submission cannot be enforced upon a person. Either a person submits of their own free will or they do not submit at all. Submission is a gift that one person chooses to give to another person. By contrast oppression is the act of extracting something from a person against their will. Submission and oppression are, therefore, opposite qualities of a relationship and not even remotely similar.

The submission of a good wife is a glorious thing that is intended to help her and her husband to have a contented life together. Problems in life and in marriage are more or less inevitable but when a woman is submissive to her man it is much more likely that those problems can be resolved harmoniously, without unpleasant quarrelling and without bitterness and resentment. Those people who look down on submission as if it were something demeaning, degrading or humiliating are merely showing that they have no understanding of what submission is and that they are quite ignorant of its power.

If you are a Christian wife who has been feeling uncomfortable with the Biblical demand that you submit to your husband then, I hope, these statements have perked up your interest and given you a glimpse of the bright cheerfulness ahead. Being submissive to your husband does not mean, as so many ignorant detractors of submission seem to think, that you should be an empty-headed bimbo, or that you should have no opinions of your own, or that you should be like a doormat.

If you are a Christian husband I hope that you will take care to understand the nature of submission and be careful to understand your responsibilities in response to your wife’s submission to you. A submissive wife is not a justification for an abusive husband. God commands men to love their wives with the same kind of love that he [God] gave to his people … that’s a pretty tough assignment to give a mortal man and it doesn’t include the possibility of abuse.

Usually when I am asked to comment regarding the submission of wives, I find myself in a debate where somebody is trying to prove from scripture that women do not really have to submit to their husbands or obey them. In this article I will attempt to demonstrate the error in such thinking. The argument is not especially difficult but it does tend to focus on the negative side of life rather a lot and consequently doesn’t make submission sound very desirable. So, before I get into the detailed passage-by-passage arguments I would like to try and explain why a wife who is submissive towards her husband is such a glorious and powerful component of an earthly family and of the Christian family at large. The Christian message is, after all, “good news” and hence a reason for delighted cheerfulness and joy, but in these focused theological debates it sometimes seems that the Christian life is all long faces and dour clothes and instructions towards restrictive behaviour.

A submissive wife is one whose heart is inclined towards satisfying her husband and who has made a choice to be led by her husband, to accept his authority and to be his helper in the broad biblical sense of that word. She does not seek to please her husband because she is afraid of his rebuke or rejection or punishment, but because she delights to please him and finds satisfaction in doing so.

For a man, a submissive wife is a pleasure to be around because she helps him to feel peaceful and contented, she is a reliable helper who can be depended upon. He can trust her with his deepest desires and fears because he is not afraid of her scorn or her rejection or her anger. He can relax with her because he knows that even when he makes mistakes, she will be working with him to put them right and minimize the consequences rather than using them to prove a point or as an excuse for rejecting him in some way. A man who has a submissive wife acquires a greater sense of self respect because he knows that she respects his authority in her life and she is not in any way trying to belittle him.

A submissive wife is one who makes a choice not to resist her husband’s will. That is not to say that she cannot disagree with him or that she cannot express an opinion. Indeed the submissive wife is, by definition, a strong woman and will usually therefore have her own opinions and these may often be different to the opinions of her husband. Can she express them? Of course she can, and indeed it might often be wrong for her not to express them since she is, after all, supposed to be her husband’s helper, not his slave or doormat. Expressing her opinions and giving advice and suggestions will often be a valuable part of the help that she gives her husband.

Let us see how this works in life by using an analogy of a road for life and junctions in the road for each of life’s decision points of choices. The married man and woman set off walking along the road of life and at each junction they choose which road to take next. Sooner or later they will arrive at a junction where they each desire to take a different road and hence there is a disagreement:

In the disharmonious family there is a quarrel, there is cajoling or bullying, there is intimidation and bitter words. The quarrel might last for the rest of their lives with neither giving ground and thus they never move on or, finally, either the husband and wife continue along one road together with one of them feeling resentful and both of them feeling bruised and wary of the other, or if they could not even obtain an unpleasant agreement then the marriage might simply fall apart and they separate, each taking a different road. None of these outcomes is pleasant or desirable.

When a submissive woman finds that her wishes conflict with those of her husband she has little or nothing to fear. If her husband is respectful then they will discuss the matter together agreeable, frankly and cheerfully and through the discussion they might reach either a compromise or one of them might change their mind completely and accept the other person’s wishes. If this happens then they can then continue along the road they have now agreed upon with no sense of bitterness and without having expressed any angry words. However agreement might not be reached so then what? If they cannot reach agreement then the submissive wife needs only to obey her husband and accept his wishes graciously. Having done this there are now only a few possible outcomes, all of which have positive aspects and none of which is particularly terrible. In the first possible outcome they will take the road the husband selects and, in due course they will discover that they have chosen a good route through life and both will be happy. In the second possible outcome they will take the road the husband selects but, in due course, they discover that it was not such a good choice after all. All they do is turn around, go back to the junction and take a different road; there has been no need for argument, nobody has felt disrespected or belittled and they have not bruised one another. Although the husband’s choice turned out to be a bad one, they have discovered the mistake together, discovered it quickly, and swiftly got back onto a better road and, in the process, they have strengthened their bond by having been able to disagree with dignity and mutual respect. They are not stuck in a perpetual argument at the junction, they have not separated and the process of finding a mutually acceptable road has not weakened their marriage.

If the submissive woman has a husband who is not respectful and who is inclined to abuse her gift of submissive then still she has little to fear. The worst possible outcome is that they will travel a bad road together until the next junction. Although the road might be bad it is good to remember the positive aspects of the situation: They have still remained together, they have kept alive the possibility of improving their relationship as they make their way through the troubles of life, they have not wasted time and damaged one another in a bitter quarrel and they are not still standing at the junction locked in argument. They have moved on, and therefore given themselves the hope of another choice later. This, remember, is the worst possible outcome. Even with a selfish husband it is still possible that he will acknowledge that the road is bad and that they will turn back to take another route.

I have mentioned this example of a road journey to try and illustrate that submission can bring real and worthwhile benefits to a marriage. The scripture also indicates that the act of submission by a woman is able to influence a bad man to change his ways but even if he doesn’t change, her choice of submission will still allow her to avoid the worst of the possible problems that a bad marriage and husband might bring.

The key text concerning the submission of wives to their husbands

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church– for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery — but I am talking about Christ and the church.

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Taken from Paul’s letter to the congregation at Ephesus, chapter 5, verses 22 to 33.

Submission in the Christian world
Submission of one person to another is described in various forms in the Christian faith. There is the submission of wives to husbands, of slaves to masters, of Christians to one another, of Christians to the ruling authorities, and Christians to God. If my own experience is anything to rely on, then it seems that we Christians do not much like the idea of submission and, if we think about it at all, then we do so on order to reduce its application to our day to day lives. In this document I hope to redress the balance slightly.

We don’t really like the idea though …
In the “Western World” of the twenty-first century, the form of submission that is perhaps most frequently contested is that of wives to husbands. It has been pointed out on several occasions and by various people that the scriptures do not say that wives are to obey their husbands — only that they are to submit to them. Now, each of the clauses in the preceding sentence is true; the problem comes with the word “only” that is used to connect the two clauses. The women (and many men) who want to limit the authority of a husband over his wife are seriously mistaken if they think that a husband can expect less compliance from a submissive wife than from an obedient one; the truth is quite the reverse. Obedience is easy. Submission is hard. Obedience demands little. Submission demands much. It is not possible for a wife to submit to her husband without also being prepared to obey him; a submissive wife is also an obedient wife.

The meanings of the words “submit” and “obey”
If I obey then I do what those who have authority over me tell me to do. There must be an explicit command given before I can obey it and consequently if no command is given then it is not possible for me to be either obedient or disobedient. Obedience does not of itself require me to be cheerful, willing, co-operative or contented. I can be surly, rude, bitter and unhelpful and still be obedient. I do not have to be willing to be merely obedient because mere obedience can be forced upon me. For these reasons, obedience is easy when compared to full submission.

In order to submit to a person who has authority over me, I do not need to wait for an explicit command but instead I can attempt to anticipate the commands and thus avoid the need for them to be given. Anticipating the commands does not mean that I can substitute my own agenda or my own will but rather that I am trying to imagine what the person in authority will want me to do next; I am trying to make my will conform to theirs. Attempting to anticipate the commands does not allow me to disobey any command that has been explicitly given — those I am still required to obey. If I am to be truly submissive I must also learn to be contented, cheerful, willing and co-operative even if I do not like doing what is required of me. Finally submission is a choice that I must continuously make. It can be seen therefore that submission is far more demanding than merely obedience and requires much more of me than does mere obedience.

It is also worth repeating that submission is NEVER enforced upon a person. Submission is the opposite of oppression. In fact submission is a gift that one person gives to another. In a marriage, submission is the wife’s gift to her husband. If the husband is wise he will treasure that gift and handle it very carefully because his own happiness depends on it. Submission is a gift that must be renewed each day or even each moment.

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Trying to wriggle out of the obligation to obey
It has been claimed that a wife need only obey her husband when her husband’s will conforms to the will of God and that is right for a wife to disobey her husband when what he commands is wrong. At first sight this argument seems to be very reasonable but unfortunately it leads into chaos and emptiness and also leaves the wives in a very cruel “no-win” situation. It is true that all husbands are fallen and sinful and it follows that they will make mistakes and that they might desire and command what they ought not desire and command. It is also true, but more frequently overlooked, that all wives are fallen and sinful and it follows that they will make mistakes and that they might desire what they ought not desire. God knew both of these facts when he arranged for scripture to be written and yet he still gave wives the instruction to submit to their husbands. He knew that husbands would wield the authority that he gave them imperfectly and he knew that wives would respond to that authority imperfectly. It is a terrible wrong for husbands to abuse their authority but it is no less terribly wrong for wives to reject or usurp their husband’s authority.

Some of the people who claim that wives have the right to selectively submit to their husbands have put much emphasis on three New Testament passages – Acts 5:1-10, Acts 4:19 (and a similar passage in Acts 5:29) and Ephesians 5:21. It is worth looking at these to see what they add to the debate.

A passage to consider: Acts 5, v1-10
The first passage concerns Ananias and his wife Sapphira who sold a field, brought the money to the Apostles feet and were promptly struck dead. It has been said that this proves that a wife who does something sinful because her husband commanded it, will be punished by God and that therefore it is right for a wife to obey her husband only when she thinks his will is in accordance with God’s will. The fact that anyone can draw such a conclusion from this passage reveals only how desperate they are to avoid having to admit that wives must obey their husbands. Even a simple reading of the passage will show quite clearly that Ananias and Sapphira were in the deceit together. There is nothing at all in the passage to suggest that Sapphira was ordered to do something that she thought wrong; indeed there is nothing to suggest that she was ordered at all. Verse 2 reads as follows:

“But with his wife’s agreement he kept part of the money for himself …” Verse 2 as presented in the Good News Bible.

“And with his wife’s knowledge and connivance he kept back and wrongfully appropriated some of the proceeds …” Verse 2 as presented in the Amplified Bible

It is very clear, then, that Sapphira was not forced by her errant husband to do something that she did not wish to do; she was not obeying an order that she thought wrong but rather she was aiding and abetting a plan of which she approved. We cannot conclude from the story that Sapphira was an innocent and unwilling partner in wrongdoing and, consequently, this passage is irrelevant to the present discussion.

A second passage to consider: Acts 4 verse 19
This passage concerns the instructions given by the Sanhedrin to Peter and John, and the reply, repeated below, that was given by the disciples:

“You yourselves judge which is right in God’s sight — to obey you or to obey God.” From the Good News Bible (the text is identical in the Amplified Bible)

Let us first state an obvious but important point: This is not a conflict between a husband and a wife but between two groups of male Jews. The relationship between the parties is therefore very different to that between a husband and a wife [footnote 1]. We also need to ask whether the Sanhedrin had any authority over Peter and John. Both parties were claiming to represent God — but which of them had the better claim? The two disciples had received their commission personally and physically from the mouth of Jesus himself. Jesus came to set aside the old religious order and to establish a new one in which the role of the Sanhedrin (assuming it had ever had any role in God’s sight) was to be diminished. This by itself gives strong reason for believing that the Sanhedrin did not have any authority over Peter and John however the words that the disciples used are perhaps more significant; they did not simply refuse to obey the Sanhedrin (though they implied that they were going to) rather they threw the whole command back at the Sanhedrin by telling the Sanhedrin members “judge for yourselves” and thereby questioned the Sanhedrin’s authority to issue the order at all. Implicit in the disciples’ response is the notion that the Sanhedrin knew, or at least ought to have known, that it was acting beyond its powers. In a modern setting the disciples might have said “If you stop and think for one moment you will realize that your own laws and rules prohibit you from giving this order.”

Also it is worth remembering that when this conversation took place Jerusalem was within the Roman empire; the final authority was not the Sanhedrin but the Roman governor and the Romans did allow a certain amount of religious freedom.

For the reasons given above this passage does not give any support to the notion that wives should only selectively obey their husbands.

The third passage to consider: Ephesians 5:21
The third passage “Submit to one another because of your reverence for Christ” is apparently given to believers in general. Consequently the form of submission referred to in this text is slightly different to that spoken of in other texts. Because this command applies to all relationships (including those between equals) it is not feasible for it to always imply unconditional or automatic obedience. Obedience to one another cannot be forced on equals since it would be impossible to know who should obey who! The other aspects of submission remain valid however. Thus although this passage does show that obedience is not always a part of submission it does not give occasion for wives to disobey their husbands because a husband and wife are not equal in role or function.

Very important side note: The inequality of role and function for a husband and a wife are biologically obvious but this does not imply inequality in value. The desire and tendency to award a value to everything is itself a symptom of our very fallen nature. Personally I would rate a wife as one of the most valuable assets in the universe and the bible lends much support to the notion that having a wife is something that a man ought to treasure and value highly.

It can be seen therefore these passages do not by themselves give a wife any grounds for disobeying her husband. To know whether there are times when a wife can legitimately disobey her husband it is necessary to look directly at the nature of sin.

The nature of sin
Without going into all the arguments and texts, the New Testament teaches that sin is, in part, the doing of what you believe to be wrong; Paul in his teachings uses the example of food. Thus if you believe that it is morally wrong for you to eat a particular food — cabbage for instance — then you sin every time you eat cabbage even though God has not prohibited the eating of cabbage. It is your belief that condemns you. Consequently if a wife really believes that it would be morally wrong to obey her husband then she will sin by obeying him and she should therefore disobey him. However, this is a very uncomfortable, unloving and unbiblical position …

A very unkind “No-win” situation
If we say that a wife can choose whether or not to obey her husband then we will often place her in a very difficult position. If she disobeys her husband in order to supposedly obey God then she has automatically disobeyed God. This means that whatever she does will be wrong and this seems to me to be an extremely unloving and burdensome position to put anyone into. God’s instructions that a wife should obey her husband are far kinder and more loving because she can always obey God by obeying her husband. If her husband tells her to do something that God disapproves of then it is her husband (not her) who will have to give an account of it to God. The woman cannot be held accountable for the matter because her responsibility (the bit that God will ask her to account for) is to obey her husband.

An obedient wife does right even when she does wrong…
If the married woman believes that is more important to obey God by submitting to and obeying her husband then she can do this with complete confidence. Sarah obeyed Abraham and went to live with both the king of Egypt [Footnote 2] and with Abimelech the king of Gerar [Footnote 3]. There is no indication that Sarah was held responsible by God or made to suffer for these events even though God was offended by them. Now, keeping these two events in mind, let us see what the Apostle Peter wrote on the subject of submission of wives to husbands:

In the same way [Footnote 4] you wives must submit to your husbands, so that if any of them do not believe God’s word, your conduct will win them over to believe. It will not be necessary for you to say a word, because they will see how pure and reverent your conduct is. You should not use outward aids to make yourself beautiful such as the way you do your hair, or the jewellery you put on, or the dresses you wear. Instead your beauty should consist of your true inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest value in God’s sight. For the devout women of the past who placed their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful by submitting to their husbands. Sarah was like that; she obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are now her daughters if you do good and are not afraid of anything.

1 Peter 3:1-7 Good News Bible

So Sarah, the woman who obeyed her husband even when what he told her to do was morally wrong, is held up as an example of how Christian wives should be. Christian women married to non-Christian men are told to submit to them and, by implication, obey them. It is almost inconceivable (to me at least) that Peter should be incapable of imagining the possible conflicts of morality between a believing wife and an unbelieving husband but nonetheless Peter doesn’t make any special provision for such a situation. Yet even in the same passage Peter tells wives that they are to “do good”. At first glance this seems grossly unfair; the wife is to obey her husband even when what he tells her to do is wrong, yet she is also to “do good”. This apparent paradox is easily removed if we remember that a person can only be held responsible for sin when they have a free choice in the matter. If Peter is assuming that the wife has no choice except to obey her husband then he is also assuming that she cannot sin in what she obediently does. In such circumstances, her only possible sin is that of disobeying her husband. Notice also that Peter describes this sort of conduct as being of “the greatest value in God’s sight”. In other words, this is what God expects and desires from a married woman and it is not the same as what he expects and desires from a married man.

A wife’s obedience to a misguided, errant or ungodly husband does not mean that any harmful consequences of his wrong actions will be avoided, but this should not concern a Christian (man or woman, in this or any similar situation) too much. Our obedience leaves room (a) for us to grow individually in the fruits of the spirit and (b) for God to act miraculously:

A couple of examples of men obeying God by submitting to sinful men
Jesus obeyed his father, was arrested illegally, tried unfairly, judged wrongly, executed without having committed a crime, suffered horribly and died. His obedience provided the means by which we are saved.

Paul of Tarsus was also treated unfairly and wrongly and he also endured great physical suffering (read 2 Corinthians 11:23-31 for Paul’s own description of his troubles). Nonetheless Paul did not seek to oppose the Governing authorities by forbidden means but instead entrusted his case to the one who always judges fairly. His obedience allowed the Gospel to be spread to the entire world.

We as mere mortals are not expected to understand all of what is happening in the world around us [Footnote 5]. We cannot see what God will do one second into the future and we are only rarely aware of what he did one second in the past. We are only capable of living moment by moment and it is in the present moment that we must obey — trusting always in God’s promise that all things work together for good for those who love the Lord (Romans 8).

Where did love go?
I would be surprised if some readers were not by now asking what has happened to the God of love and remarking that all of this seems a little harsh. To such a charge I would reply that in some ways it is very harsh. We are called to be obedient unto death. God has provided a moral law that is totally unyielding. We do not judge the moral law — it is the standard against which we are judged. If there are mitigating circumstances surrounding my failure to reach the required standard then our God, who is just, will know them and take them into account. The fact that I cannot attain the required standard on the occasions when there are no mitigating circumstances is precisely why the Son of God had to be crucified on my behalf: That is how harsh the moral law of God is and how loving and merciful our God is — it his by his law that we are condemned and by his grace and sacrifice that we are saved. Love does not set aside the requirement for obedience but on the cross at Calvary love does deal with the consequences of disobedience.

However, near the beginning of this discussion I gave an example of a husband and wife taking a journey through life and I tried to demonstrate that, in fact, where a wife has a submissive attitude and is therefore willing to obey her husband, the outcome can never be as bad as worst that can happen where there is no obedience or submission. The requirement for a woman to submit to her husband and to obey him is harsh in the sense that it is not optional but it is the harshness imposed by a loving God who knows that this strict approach will always avoid the worst of the possible outcomes and always provide the possibilities for a couple to grow together, mature, gain wisdom and learn to love one another more effectively.

The alternative, if you recall in my example, was that the couple might find themselves trudging together with bitterness and resentment, might be stuck at the same junction indefinitely and locked in unproductive argument, or they might simply separate altogether. The path of submission and attendant obedience is something our loving God has ordained for us so that we can enjoy marriage even with conflicts and disagreements. The requirement for wives to be submissive and obedient seems harsh to those who have not understood the concepts, who have not understood its rich benefits to both husband and wife, and who have not recognized the awfulness of the alternatives.

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A summary reminder: What is submission?

As already mentioned, submission is a gift that one person gives to another. Now I would like to briefly reiterate and expand upon some misconceptions about a submissive person.

Misconception: A submissive person is weak.

This is very wrong. In fact a very weak person cannot submit. Only a very strong person can submit fully. Remember, submission is a gift that must be given freely. It is impossible to force a person to submit because that is a contradiction in terms. A weak person can be manipulated and forced to obey but then that is no longer submission but oppression.

Misconception: A submissive person has no control.

Actually nobody is every fully in control of their own lives because nobody can control all of their circumstances. Submission is an act of the will; a submissive person makes a positive choice to submit to another person. Consequently a submissive person has at least as much in control as any other person, possibly more since many people never make definite positive choices but merely drift from one excuse to another.

Misconception: Submission is degrading.

In fact submission is a very beautiful and enormously valuable gift that only a strong person can give. Nobody is degraded by giving, or wanting to give, beautiful and valuable gifts to another person. Submission is a gift that benefits the giver even if the receiver is incapable of treating the gift and the giver with the appropriate respect and care.

Misconception: A submissive person is abused.

Well, it is true that a submissive person could be abused by a stupid person who does not appreciate the value of the gift. However, anybody can be abused, submissive or not, so this irrelevant.


  1. A husband and wife are bound together until separated by death; they are not free to separate from one another. The husband and one wife are made one in a fashion that does not exist between any other two of God’s people. The dispute between the disciples and the Sanhedrin is also a dispute between “equals” to the extent that all the parties to the conflict are men. A different situation arises between a married couple simply because “the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church” (cf Ephesians 5:23 and 1 Corinthians 11:3) — in other words the husband is responsible for, and will be held accountable before God for, his wife. By itself this is no easier than the original situation and it certainly does not allow the wife to act according to her own will. She now has a choice between doing what she believes her husband wants her to do and doing what she believes God wants her to do. Her own desires don’t get much chance to surface. God in his written word has told her to submit to, and hence to obey, her husband. It follows therefore that by obeying her husband she is obeying God. Nonetheless it might be that after prayerful consideration she will conclude that she must disobey her husband and if she really believes that this is God’s will then she must do it.
  2. Genesis 12:10-20
  3. Genesis 20
  4. The previous passage should also be read — it discusses the idea of doing what is right by submitting even though it might lead to unpleasantness and suffering.
  5. Proverbs, chapter 20, verse 24: The Lord has determined our path; how then can anyone understand the direction his own life is taking?

Appendix B – Theresa Marie Carucci Yates, April 6, 1936 – May 30, 2017

“He Was Wounded for Our Transgressions”
Worship music by Theresa C. Yates

Eulogy Given June 10, 2017
By Her Husband
C. Russell Yates


Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints. (Psalms 116:15) 

I lost my parents and three siblings, but this time it was different. Theresa and I had become one. I watched part of me die, and it happened over several years. Needless to say, it was traumatic for both of us.

Death is so very final, but eternity is forever. I shudder to think: What if Theresa had not been ready? I would have suffered eternal loss. But she was ready—more than ready! I believe my wife will stand before the Lord and hear Him say, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant! I am so proud of Theresa.

Scripture says, “We must through much tribulation enter into the Kingdom of God” (Acts 14:22b). It’s a matter of faith. Paul writes: “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18). Again, it’s a matter of faith.

Theresa and I were married almost 47 years, and I wouldn’t change anything—not even the disease that took her life! “For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die we die unto the Lord” (Romans 14:8a). In short, nothing is more important than honoring the Lord. 

Theresa had Alzheimer’s for over six years. She was in Navasota Nursing and rehabilitation for 16 months. I had prayed that she would always know me, and that her departure would be quick and gentle. Her departure began May 21st and ended May 30. My prayers were answered.

Over a three-year period, I had been reading the Bible to my wife. I finished the final two chapters May 25th. I closed the book, and took it home. On May 30th, an aide told the nurse to check on Theresa. Theresa’s breathing was shallow. Lanette just held Theresa’s hand until she stopped breathing. No struggle—just a peaceful departure to heaven!

My sister Linda pictured it beautifully. She had a sign in heaven that read “Welcome Home Theresa.”

The Search For Relationship
Theresa and I became one, but in today’s world that happens so seldom. Divorce is rampant among Christians and unbelievers alike. Even those who stay together hardly ever become one. The carnage continues.

People search for answers. The God, who designed marriage, gave us the answers in the Bible. But even Christians can’t seem to take the Lord seriously.

What is God’s basic requirement of every man? That each of us should surrender his will to that of his Creator! The rebellion began in the spirit world.

Satan was the anointed cherub until he rebelled against the authority of God. Jesus was the obedient Son. The contrast is obvious: A man follows the example set by Jesus or that of the devil. There’s no in-between.

God’s Plan
God’s plan calls for love and voluntary submission. Submission is first and foremost an attitude that accepts God-ordained order. Submission is always intelligent—never robotic! The men who work for me respect my authority. Sometimes my orders are inappropriate or even wrong. On the job, they will do the right thing—that’s intelligent submission!

In contrast, Islam means submission, but it is forced submission. Their false religion is robotic—Rules, Regulations, and Procedures!

That’s not what the Lord asks of us. God wants a relationship—fellowship!

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. (Matthew 11:29)

Behold I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. (Revelation 3:20)

In that context, I want to talk about love and submission.


In The Godhead
By example, the Father and the Son showed us the way.

First we see the Father’s love. When Jesus was baptized, a voice from heaven said, “Thou art my beloved Son; in thee I am well pleased.” (Luke 3:22)

Then we see the submission of Jesus.

Jesus said, “For I came down from heaven, not to do mine own will, but the will of him that sent me.” (John 6:6)

In the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus prayed, “Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine be done. (Luke 22:42)

In The Church
I’m still on the subject of love and submission. We see God’s love displayed in John 3:16—for God so loved the world! We see submission displayed every time a sinner repents.

In Marriage
God tells a husband to love his wife. A husband, who doesn’t love, is rebelling against God. God tells a wife to intelligently submit to her husband; if she doesn’t do that, she’s not just disobeying her husband; she’s disobeying the Lord.

A Special Calling
I believe that our calling—even Theresa’s death—was for a God-ordained purpose; that we might illustrate and explain a terrible end-times sin that has decimated our marriages and families. The words of Ezekiel were for Israel. In a similar way, I believe the Lord has called me to address modern couples. The words of Ezekiel follow:

17 Forbear to cry, make no mourning for the dead, bind the tire of thine head upon thee, and put on thy shoes upon thy feet, and cover not thy lips, and eat not the bread of men.

18 So I spake unto the people in the morning: and at even my wife died; and I did in the morning as I was commanded. (Ezekiel 24:17-18)

Gender Confusion
Most people see women’s participation in politics as progressive—I don’t! Women’s Suffrage has given rise to gender confusion. Many people don’t know whether they are a he, a she, or an it.

Women’s Suffrage was debated for about 70 years—it started in 1848, at the first women’s convention, in Seneca Falls, NY. I was surprised to learn there were also anti-Suffragists. Women like Helen Kendrick Johnson argued vehemently against the idea of women voting. Her book, Woman and The Republic, was published in 1897. I have a copy of that book.

As God designed marriage, the man is the head—he should be in charge! The wife is the heart. She helps her husband, and nurtures the next generation. Children can usually survive a bad father, but NOT a bad mother.

In 1897, Mrs. Johnson predicted that, if given the vote, women would try to do a man’s job, and their job would go undone or be ill done. That’s exactly what is happening at this very moment. I repeat:

For well over a hundred years, women have been trying to do a man’s job while their job goes undone or is ill done.

In the first chapter of Genesis, we’re told that God created them male and female. That means they’re different—Christians should know that!

Theresa and I were born into this time of gender confusion. For years we struggled as we found our way to a biblical marriage. I was ahead in the learning curve, and rightly so. I took the initiative to lead my wife into a God-honoring marriage. To the glory of God, we have succeeded, but like Ezekiel, I’ve lost my wife. I want to teach these things to as many people as will listen.

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“Egalitarianism” is a fancy word that claims men and women are the same. The idea is diametrically opposed to the Bible. Still the Western World proudly declares it to be progressive. What they call progress; God calls sin.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:2a, emphasis added)

Biblical marriage says a man should love his wife as Christ loved the church. It says a woman should submit to her husband as the Church obeys its Lord. For a man to love and for a woman to submit requires sacrifice, and Scripture says that is our reasonable service.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. (Romans 12:1, emphasis added)

My Calling
I’m a highly disciplined, detailed man who has been gifted with a fabulous memory. God has used my gifts in my ministry. For over 34 years, I’ve been repairing and replacing air conditioners. My former pastor, Dick Bieber, commented as follows: “You’re not running a business; you’re running a ministry.”

Within a year, I expect to leave my AC ministry and devote my efforts to helping Christians who have marital problems. And P.S. the marriage ministries I’ve seen have been ineffective. Even when they quote from the Bible, they’re unwilling to stand behind the Word. They’re afraid they might offend.

About 30 years ago, I had two visions where I was in the presence of the Lord. I will tell of those visions later.

Jesus has chosen to love a bunch of rebels. That means most of us were pretty far along in life before we could appreciate the love of our Lord Jesus Christ.

It took Theresa 32 years to appreciate my love. In April of 2002, it happened dramatically. It was a miracle somewhat like the Salvation experience.

Our Beginning
Theresa and I married July 4, 1970. We’ve had a biblical marriage for 15 years. Our relationship has been sooooo good it’s hard to think what it was once like.

Most married couples bring some baggage with them: They’ve slept around, lived with someone, been married and divorced, and often have children that become part of their new marital equation.

Theresa and I married as virgins, but we did bring some cultural baggage. The world calls it “equality” marriage.

Now for two questions:

  1. Is it really possible for a man to love his wife as Christ loved the church? I’m going to tell how I loved Theresa.
  2. Could a woman actually submit to her husband as the Church obeys its Lord? I’m going to tell how Theresa submitted to me.

A Good Marriage
Most Christians haven’t carefully examined the marital relationship as spelled out in Ephesians 5:22-33. Let me do that for you.

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

The head is the seat of authority. Christ has authority over the church. In the same way, a husband has authority over his wife.

As head of the marital body, a husband is over his wife as he would be over any part of his own body. For that reason, a man expects his wife to intelligently submit.

Both Christ and husbands are savior types.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.

A wife is to intelligently submit to her husband in everything—not just when she feels like it! If a wife doesn’t submit, is that an excuse for NOT loving one’s wife? If a husband doesn’t love, is that sufficient reason why a wife should not submit? The answer to both questions is an emphatic NO!

So what is the purpose of love and submission? The next two passages explain.

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

It is through love and submission that the Church, the body of believers, is perfected. And it is through love and submission that marriages are perfected. The next two passages are for men.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

In marriage, the two become one in a spiritual sense. He is to be as thoughtful of his wife as he is of himself.

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

So what is the purpose for marriage? It is “for this cause,” and the cause is our eternal relationship with Christ.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Two mysteries are spoken of here. One is the mystery of marriage, and the other is the mystery of Christ and His bride. The former models the latter. A good earthly marriage looks like the heavenly one.

Finally, Paul gives a summary statement.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

These are not suggestions. God’s marital order is Absolute.

I have just shown what a good marriage looks like. It looks like the relationship between Jesus and the redeemed sinner who has become a submissive saint.

Family Background
Let me give some background information.

My in-laws were Italian immigrants—Vito and Lucy Carucci. They came from a Catholic background, but most of the family converted. Pa was known as the rich young brother. He had considerable money in the bank. Just before the crash in 1929, he withdrew his money and built a church. He became the pastor.

They were proud to be Americans and spoke English in public, but church was in Italian. The kids grew up with the idea that God was Italian. Here’s a passage I memorized while in their church:

Cristo, Jesu, a venuto nel mondo, per salvai y peccatori. (Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners.)

I will forever be grateful that I married Theresa Marie Carucci. In the bargain came my godly in-laws—they were spiritual giants!

Before the depression, Theresa’s mother Lucy married a man named Leonard Colucci. On their honeymoon, at Niagara Falls, her new husband got sick, and quickly died. That seems to have been the Lord’s will. About 3 years later, Lucy married my father-in-law, Vito Carucci, and that led to the birth of Theresa.

While pregnant with Theresa, my mother-in-law had a medical problem. The doctor recommended an abortion. Lucy said, “The Lord will take care of me.” Eighty years later Lucy is still spoken of as a woman of faith. She got well, and gave birth to Theresa. I have to believe the Lord was saving Theresa for me.

Lucy continued in good health, until a few months before she departed this life, on All Saints Day, November 2, 2002. She was just shy of her 96thbirthday, December 13, 1906. 

A Gifted Musician
Theresa was a gifted musician. Without ever taking a lesson, she began to play the piano. At five she was playing for the church. Seventeen years ago, Theresa made a tape that she gave to Mary Laskoskie. It was only a year ago that the tape came into my hands.

The music heard at the Memorial Service was Theresa playing and singing. She didn’t have to play from sheet music; she could make it up as she went along—and she never missed a note!

Marilyn Adkinson asked about music for the service. I told her that Theresa was providing the music. Hey! This had to be a most unusual service. The deceased wife provided the music, and her surviving husband gave the eulogy.

Many were blessed by Theresa’s music. On June 1st, in the night, the Lord gave a word to one of Theresa’s friends, Louise Davis.

Theresa! She sat at the piano and her hands began to play the music in her soul:

Beautiful, effortless, lifting our spirits upward, spiraling in chords and melody, sounds that touched us in ways only God can do.

On her face were tears of pure love for her Lord. We were touched, transformed, redeemed, inspired, joining her in worship. It was God’s gift through her to us—each of those who heard and now remembered forever.

Our Marriage
As I said, Theresa and I married July 4, 1970 in Utica, NY, at her father’s church, the Italian Christian Assembly. Our ceremony contained “equality” wedding vows, and that bothered me. Theresa had no problem.

Everything I do is weighed in this balance: Is it pleasing to the Lord? If something is important to God, it’s important to me. Two things are supremely important to the Lord: Israel and the Church!

According to Ephesians 5:32, marriage represents Christ and the Church—that makes it pretty important! I didn’t see “equality” marriage in the Bible, so I tenaciously clung to traditional biblical marital roles. Looking back, it should be no surprise that we argued incessantly, and we did so for 32 years.

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Not A Submissive Wife
Theresa was NOT a submissive wife. Did that relieve me of the obligation of loving her? It doesn’t say love your wife if she submits to you. It says to love her as Christ loved the Church. Christ loved me into submission. I loved Theresa into submission.

Later, I’m going to get real specific on how I loved Theresa. But first I want to talk about how determined I was to do things God’s way.

The Bible gives specific instructions on how a godly wife is to deal with an unsaved husband.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the [submissive] conversation of the wives; (1Peter 3:1)

But Scripture gives NO advice on how a godly husband is to deal with an unsubmissive wife. Still, the husband is head of his wife, so he’s responsible for the relationship. (Remember when Eve led her husband into sin. Adam was in charge, and God held him responsible.) As I sought to persuade Theresa, I had only the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

The Persuasion
When it comes to listening, God’s people have never done that well. My wife was NOT an exception. I now quote my mother.

Those who won’t listen will have to feel—Novella Yates

I spent 2.5 years writing a book on biblical marriage. I published Restoring The Father To The Family, on Theresa’s birthday, April 6, 1993. Theresa didn’t listen.

From 1998-2002 I gave a weekly marital message on Christian radio, KAGC. Theresa didn’t listen.

In December of 2000, I wrote my infamous “Open Letter,” and sent it to everyone in our sizable church. The pastor expelled me. Theresa didn’t listen.

In the spring of 2002, I filed for divorce. Theresa “felt.”

In April of 2002, Theresa shaped up. Overnight she became a biblical wife.

For 3-4 years I was a member of Community Bible Church (CBC) where Howard Adkinson was my pastor. He and Marilyn practiced biblical marriage, but even in that church I met resistance.

When CBC closed, I moved to a much larger Baptist Church, where I was a member for five years. In rescuing my marriage, I expected help from the church—it didn’t happen!

Most Christians don’t practice biblical marriage; they were my greatest hindrance. They’ve accommodated modern feminism. Today, you’re not allowed to offend a woman.

There’s an 11th Commandment. It’s not found in the Bible or the Constitution, but it’s the unwritten law of the land—Thou Shalt Not Offend! Christians routinely offend the Lord; they were offended by my obedience. Paul writes that we’re to speak the truth in love, and I add: “Even if it offends!”

In Joshua 24:15, we read, “But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD,” but I add: “Even if it means getting kicked out of church!” And P.S. Not one of my marital critics has returned and apologized or even commended me for my marital success. Did my pastor apologize? No way, Jose!

Judgment Day
For 32 years, Theresa was trying to do my job while neglecting her job. After months of careful and prayerful consideration, I was convinced I was to file for divorce, so I did. My Christian attorney, John Hampton said “Sometimes that’s the only way to save a marriage.”

Scripture gives us lots of rules, but the Holy Spirit shows how to apply them. In Ezra chapter 10, we read where the Israelites divorced their foreign wives en masse. C.S. Lewis wrote, The Great Divorce where people are eternally divorced from God. The wonderful thing is that our divorce didn’t happen.

As always, I wanted to honor the Lord. I was on my knees begging Theresa to do the right thing.

While we were separated, she went into depression, and called 911. They took her before a judge, and she was committed to a mental hospital. When she came out, Theresa was a new woman.

A woman who had refused to listen had to feel.

The Lord had given her an attitude adjustment. Overnight, she became a biblical wife. We suddenly had a wonderful marriage.

“We’ve wasted so much time,” Theresa said. I replied, “With the Lord, it’s how things end that counts.” And the way our marriage went, from that day forward, was magnificent.

There were no more arguments. Discussion? Yes! Arguments? No! Theresa was able to relax and be comfortable with my headship. She no longer had to struggle over family decisions, but she was free to contribute her ideas and suggestions.

Loving My Wife
After 32 years, after much tribulation, after an act of God, Theresa transformed our marriage by the simple act of submission.

Is that not how the sinner gets saved? By the simple act of submission! On the Damascus road, Paul saw the light—he submitted! Nebuchadnezzar lost his mind and ate grass in the field for 7 years until he saw the light—he submitted! The woman at the well saw the light immediately when she met Jesus—she submitted. Some come easy; some come hard; but some never make it.

I continued to love Theresa “as Christ loved the Church.” Considering how Christ loved the Church: That was a pretty big assignment.

To love a wife, as a man loves himself, he should respect her feelings, opinions, desires, wishes—even her feminine sensibilities. He should give her as much freedom as possible. Like, the virtuous woman in Proverbs, she will be praised.

Theresa got almost everything she wanted, and that included:

  • Antiques
  • Two Steinway pianos
  • Expensive artwork
  • A beautiful harp
  • The house as her domain
  • Her choice of furniture
  • The house decorated to her specifications

The junk she accumulated over 38 years was okay with me, as long as it was stored in the closet, attic, etc. She kept Deborah’s baby furniture for 40 years. You should have seen the stuff I threw away or gave away after Theresa came down with Alzheimer’s.

But it was possible the Lord might heal Theresa. So I kept the Steinway. I didn’t want to explain that I had given away her piano.

When she asked for wood floors, I said “No.” I told her they would be ruined if we ever had a flood. On our anniversary of 2012, we had a plumbing failure in the middle of the night. I couldn’t hear the water running, but Theresa could. She got me up and told me to put on my waders.

In the bathroom, I shut off the water supply, and then started laughing. Our daughter had just sent a “Happy Anniversary,” text message. By 4am the extraction people had things under control. And guess what? The floors didn’t buckle because they were of ceramic tile.

The Conflict In Retrospect
I’m reminded of a man named Job. He was a righteous man, who suffered for God’s purposes. Neither Job nor his godly friends understood why he was suffering. But His friends blamed him for the trouble. History repeats.

As I continued to love my wife, the conflict raged, and everyone blamed me. When I was kicked out of the church, the pastor denounced me before several hundred people.

Truth is truth, even if no one believes it. A lie is a lie even if everyone believes it—Anonymous

We live in a feelings-driven, feminized society—you’re not supposed to cause a commotion! Compare that with the early church where Paul and the Apostles regularly incited riots.

It was my resolute defiance of our perverse culture—it was my resolute defiance of a decadent church that brought Theresa to repentance. I presented her faultless to the Lord.

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Mr. Wonderful
In April 2002, Theresa repented, and a most amazing thing happened. Until then, I was a really bad husband. Suddenly, in my wife’s eyes, I became Mr. Wonderful. Despite our marital transformation, there are Christians and family members who are still angry over how I handled the situation over 16 years ago.

(If I were to give advice to a single woman or a divorcee, it would be this: “Don’t ask the Lord to give you a good man, until you’re willing to submit. Until you submit, you’re not capable of appreciating the love of a good man. God tells you to submit, and He means what he says.”)

Our heavenly relationship continued even despite the Alzheimer’s disease that afflicted Theresa since January of 2011. She progressed from mild, to moderate, and then to severe. In January of 2016 she broke her hip, I put her in Navasota Nursing; there she received wonderful care.

A Renewal Of Our Wedding Vows
July 4th was our wedding anniversary, and we had married on a Saturday. In 2015, July 4th again fell on a Saturday. I arranged to re-do our wedding vows, but this time I used biblical vows from the church I now attend.

Theresa was living in Round Rock with a caregiver. Brittany was the preacher, Deborah was the ring bearer, and the witnesses were Milo the dog and Butterscotch, the cat. After the ceremony, we took pictures—Theresa loved it!

Those pictures were on display in the narthex.

Theresa In The Nursing Home
I visited Theresa regularly, held her hand, read the Bible to her, and prayed with her. She was being loved and cared for like royalty. She always knew me, and told me I was wonderful. She said, “I love you so much.” When she could hardly speak—when she couldn’t even recognize her own picture—she could clearly enunciate her love for me.

Theresa understood little, so Dr. Jones gave me some advice: “If she doesn’t understand, just read Scripture to her.” I did that for almost three years. Alzheimer’s patients have an understanding that comes and goes. Sometimes they come across as brilliant, while at other times they’re totally out of it.

One night while she was cogent, I had just finished reading Scripture, when she asked how she was doing. I said, “You’re a good wife; you’re nuts about me.” She understood and laughed heartily. “You are something else,” she said.

Alzheimer’s patients can be very funny. On May 23, 2016 I asked my wife, “When do you want to go be with Jesus?” With a big smile she answered, “Any day! How about you?”

Later, I got a report from Nikki who was feeding Theresa. “That stuff is disgusting,” said Theresa. “No it isn’t replied Nikki.” “Then you eat it,” said Theresa.

Once I showed Theresa a beautiful picture of herself. “Do you know this lady?” I asked. Her answer: “I’ve seen her around, but I don’t know her name.” Later I repeated the procedure. That time her answer was, “Me.”

I Will Never Leave You
To His friends, Jesus says, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” My commitment to my friend, Theresa, was the same. “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

On Christmas of 2015, in Round Rock, we took our last good family picture—Theresa, Russell, Deborah, and Freddie. On January 13, she broke her hip, and quickly went into the severe stage of Alzheimer’s. She never walked again, and had to be fed. Through thick and thin, I’ve been with Theresa.

If you’re a bad person, and get Alzheimer’s, the real you will come out. In her last years, months, and days, nothing but good has come from Theresa.

Theresa’s trip across the Jordan took a long time. It was really hard on both of us, but for a purpose. I was with Theresa all the way. As I said earlier, she was ready—really ready!

The Faith of Abraham
In Joel 2:28 we read “Your old men shall dream dreams, and your young men shall see visions.” Most Christians live to please themselves, so that passage is not for them.

I live to please the Lord. That makes me a good candidate for Joel 2:28. About 30 years ago, when I was young, I had two visions, in which I was in the presence of the Lord—it was wonderful! In the first vision, I asked for the faith of Abraham.

I didn’t have a clue what I was asking for, but I was convinced that it was mine. I have since learned: The faith of Abraham is long-term and requires no affirmation. Most of all, the faith of Abraham requires patience and endurance.

Our 32 years of conflict required the patience and endurance of Abraham. I’ve loved Theresa with two loves: For 32 years I showed commitment love. Since then, we’ve shared endearment love.

My recent online book is entitled, Two Loves—425 pages. I have a shorter paper entitled, How To Have A Good Marriage Without Changing Wives—220 pages! The book and the paper were written starting in September of 2014, while I was alone, and Theresa was with a caregiver.

What Was My Motivation?
More than anything else, I want to please the Lord. Theresa was not a biblical wife, and I couldn’t sweep that under the rug. In public, Theresa appeared as the perfect lady, but at home she repeatedly and incessantly challenged my headship.

What if I had not been a Believer? What if I had been a casual Christian? I would have done what most Christian men do. I would have let her run the show, and I would have taken a back seat. Or I would have divorced her.

The Moral High Ground
Because the woman is the heart of the marriage, a spiritual awakening will often come through the wife. A good example is seen in the movie, The Case for Christ. Both husband and wife were atheists. Leslie came to faith first, and then her husband, Lee, followed.

So often, a wife comes to faith, but her husband remains unsaved. So how is such a wife to win her husband?

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the [submissive] conversation of the wives; (1Peter 3:1)

Men were born to rule, so they expect their wives to submit—intelligent submission! That’s why a submissive wife can win a lost husband. Multitudes of Christian women are disobedient—not just to their husband, but to the Lord! The husband remains unsaved.

My second vision closely followed the first one. I was in the presence of the Lord. Not a word was spoken, but the Lord quickened a passage to my heart: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” Just being in the presence of the Lord was exciting.

Scripture says we’ll all stand before the judgment seat of Christ. Many husbands will have to explain why they didn’t lead, and wives will have to explain why they didn’t follow. Theresa and I won’t have that problem.

The Challenge
On *p115 of her book Created To Be His Help Meet, Debi Pearl writes the following.

A man cannot cherish a strong woman who expresses her displeasure of him. You say that he should model Christ’s love regardless of how she acts. Is that what you want? Is that what Christ wants? Do you want your husband to be forced to seek supernatural power just to find a way to love you? Do you want to be another of his trials—his greatest example of overcoming adversity?

My wife’s resistance continued for 32 years, and it did take supernatural power for me to love her. My second most significant achievement in life was overcoming that trial.

The book of Revelation promises many wonderful things for the “overcomer.” Despite the resistance of my Christian friends, I rescued Theresa, and prepared her for eternity, so I guess that makes me an “overcomer.”

But Romans 8:28 has not been repealed. In the process, she prepared me for eternity. I will be eternally grateful that Theresa was my wife for almost 47 years. The next time we meet, the pain and suffering will be past.

We close with a hymn.

“Be Still My Soul”

by Catharina von Schlegel, 1697-?

Translated by Jane Borthwick, 1855

Be still, my soul: the Lord is on thy side.
Bear patiently the cross of grief or pain.
Leave to thy God to order and provide;
In every change, He faithful will remain.
Be still, my soul: thy best, thy heav’nly Friend
Through thorny ways leads to a joyful end.

Be still, my soul: thy God doth undertake
To guide the future, as He has the past.
Thy hope, thy confidence let nothing shake;
All now mysterious shall be bright at last.
Be still, my soul: the waves and winds still know
His voice Who ruled them while He dwelt below.

Be still, my soul: when dearest friends depart,
And all is darkened in the vale of tears,
Then shalt thou better know His love, His heart,
Who comes to soothe thy sorrow and thy fears.
Be still, my soul: thy Jesus can repay
From His own fullness all He takes away.

Be still, my soul: the hour is hast’ning on
When we shall be forever with the Lord.
When disappointment, grief, and fear are gone,
Sorrow forgot, love’s purest joys restored.
Be still, my soul: when change and tears are past
All safe and blessed we shall meet at last.



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